Boyfriend doesn't remember my number
My boyfriend doesn't remember my phone number after 10 months. The number is in his cellphone but his cell face is blank but you would think that he would memorize it. anyways yesterday he said he would call me back and he didn't so I called him and he said he didn't remember my number. What does that say about him? Also some days he can tell me how he feels other days he can't or won't. Why can't it be consistent? I have this feeling that I am just another chapter in his book
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What Guys Said 2
There are a few different issues here.
First, the fact that he doesn't remember your phone number is irrelevant. With most people using cell phones, few people can remember a specific number off the top of their heard. You're not 302-555-1234, you're speed dial 4 or "Mary" in the phone book. Expecting him to memorize your specific number, and spit it back out like it a was a question on a test, is unrealistic and insulting.
Second, he doesn't have to be consistent when he tells you what he feels. His feelings are *his* and you have *no* right to demand that he share them. As a general rule, people avoid sharing their feelings when they fear that their feelings aren't respected. "When she [Patricia Sun, a couples therapist] would sit with a couple and help the man to draw out and express his feelings, she found that the woman very often did not really want to know what the man felt. The woman just wanted some words about feelings that she could manipulate so as to create a sense of control over the situation." link
What Girls Said 3
Agree with above. Remembering a mobile number doesn't mean anything. I've stopped remembering numbers ever since I got my first mobile phone!
It seems like you are saying that sometimes he says he loves you and you believe him and at other times he says "yeah right" if you say you love him? Maybe in those days he's generally in a bad mood, or he has been upset by something. Some people find it hard to express their feelings in general, maye he's one of them. I wouldn't read too much into it.
I never remember anyone's number, no matter how long I've known it. I wouldn't worry about that part.
The other part sounds like it could be a problem. I guess I don't understand exactly what you mean. If there are certain subjects that he doesn't want to discuss, then I suggest figuring out what those are and asking him what the problem is. If you mean that he is moody, then do the same thing. Have a talk with him and tell him it bugs you so that you guys can start talking about how to fix things. If it is just that he seems like he loves you one day and hates you the next, then I would think about whether you really want to deal with him any more.