Girls, would you let your boyfriend go to a strip club with his friends?

[WestcoastBratt]

Hey girls, my bday is coming up and I am planning on inviting some friends out to the strip club. Everyone has already said they're down to go, some of them are even strip club virgins unlike me who's been to a handful of them time after time. There's just one problem, my cousins girl friend is not going to be to fond of the idea. My cousin wants to go but he also knows that his gf will get super pissed. How can I break the news to her? Strip clubs aren't that bad, there actually really fun, plus the girls are there working not trying to find a boyfriend.

I would let my bf go to a strip club with his friends.

I would never let my bf go to a strip club!

I love strip clubs and if my bf wants to go I would go with him.

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+1 y

Ok girls, due to your guys answers, I have decided that I will ask my cousins gf to join us on our boys night out if she wants too, hopefully she does, I really don't want to cause problems in my cousins relationship and I think she would enjoy it all well.

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+1 y

Wow, I am shocked at how many of you girls wouldn't let you bf go to strip club, worst of all some of you girls said you would end the relationship if he went. Smh

[dutchpride92]

I would never ever under any circumstances let my husband go to a stripclub. It's just human courtesy to not go to such places when you're in a relationship. If a couple has an agreement on something like that (clubbing without eachother, going to stripclubs, open relationship whatever) I won't Judge them, but if you're in a strictly monogamous relationship it's a shitty thing to do. Imagine the following:
You are very much in love with your beautiful, sexy girlfriend. She makes you feel things you've never felt before. She's yours, and yours completely. One night, she goes to see male strippers. You're staying at home. While you're on the couch watching tv/behind your computer screen playing a game, the hands of some nameless sleazy, ripped guy are all over her body. He's giving her a lapdance. She's getting real turned-on, and in her mind he has already given her dozens of orgasms. The next time you have sex, it won't be you on her mind but him. She's not getting turned on because of you, but because of how he drove her crazy. And even though she loves you, she can't help but notice you're not nearly as attractive as that other guy.
How would that make you feel? Would you feel hurt, angry, jealous? Wanna bash the guy's head in?
That's what women feel, too, when their guys go off to stripclubs to look at other women. The guy who has a sweet girlfriend at home looks at other naked women, wants to have sex with them, thinks their girlfriend can't hold a candle looks-wise to the strippers and thinks about those women during sex with his faithful girlfriend. Out of respect for the girlfriend, give your cousin the advice not to come along. He has a girlfriend who can take her clothes off for him anytime, he doesn't need to go to a stripclub.

[DatAznGurl]

I agree with everything you said!

[freakforyou]

It's just a dirty place. Coming from someone who has family that's worked in clubs for years I know what it's all about. I would go to a strip club with my man. I wouldn't let him go with his friends unless a) We're getting married b) His friends getting married c) We go together.

[WestcoastBratt]

Ok so should I let my cousins girl tag along? I don't mind she's a cool girl, but I want my cousin to have fun, get lapdances and stuff, and I know his gf won't let him do that if she goes.

[freakforyou]

Sure, invite her to go. Some girls just can't get past the jealousy. Try to include her and maybe she'll try it out. I think it's a turn on when girls hit on my man, call me crazy.

[freakforyou]

I was like a lot of the girls posting below by the way. That was before I was confident and had a partner I could completely trust. I stopped worrying and decided to see if from his point of view. Girls are fucking sexy. Period. Your mans gonna look no matter what. You might as well make him happy.

[WestcoastBratt]

Yes they are girls are Fucken sexy!

[Lucylou1990]

There are three main reasons a girl might get pissed with her boyfriend for going to a strip club. 1) She doesn't trust him and isn't sure how far things might go. 2) She's jealous and upset - mainly "why would he want to go there if he has me at home? Am I not enough?" She may look on it as a betrayal - same as kissing a random girl. 3) She doesn't feel comfortable with the idea of strip clubs and those who support them because she views it as an industry that can exploit - mainly, young women and girls.

Really depends what her reason (s) are. Might be a combination, might be one main concern but she'll use the others as additional reasons for him not to go. So depends on the girl. By the sounds of it you already know she won't be happy?

Personally, I have misgivings that the industry has a lot of potential for exploiting vulnerable people. Even if people say it's their choice, it can be difficult to tell and I highly doubt every single person doing it feels like they truly have a choice. Sure some people may like doing it and choose it freely. The figures tend to suggest a disproportionately high level of drug problems and abusive backgrounds. That's just my view. If I was dating someone I'd have to respect their own views on it. Can I stop him going? No, I'm not his mother. Would I be impressed? Probably, not. Is that an excuse to manipulate him into not going? No. I’d rather he had the brains to come to his own conclusions then be merely swayed by my disapproval. Really depends on her level of maturity. (and his) Maybe this is a conversation starter though?

[BuchitaBuchys]

Most of the stuff that goes on there, I'd consider cheating. Would I let him cheat on me? No.
I mean, he could go. But I'd break up with him.

Or if he went, basically:
No lapdances
No "sexy dancing" like grinding.
No touching the girls
No kissing
No massages
The girls cannot touch him either
No trying to get with anyone.
No oral, anal, handjobs/fingering, coital

If he's fine with just looking, cool. But I highly doubt that in a large group of guys, he'd respect me enough to not cheat. So I'd rather break up with him and let him enjoy being single. And I'd never talk to him again.

[WestcoastBratt]

Wow! But none of that stuff happens at strip clubs. I mean sure there's lapdances if you want one, you don't have to get one, but there is no sex involved what so ever. There is no blowjobs, handjobs, anal or anything, that stuff is illegal and would cause the club to be closed down, and I'm sure the club owner doesn't want that. Plus you can't even touch the girls, but the girls can touch you.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I know it's illegal, but it still happens.

I don't want any girl touching my man. How would he feel if some guy was touching me inappropriately?

If he's fine with just looking cool. But let's be real, guys encourage each other to get as physical with women as possible. So I'd let him go out to the stripclub, but just don't be surprised if I'm still standing there when he gets back.

[BuchitaBuchys]

*If I'm not still standing there.

I'd break up with him. And glad that he realized strange nude or half women are more important than respecting me.

[WestcoastBratt]

I see what your saying, and I totally see your point I wouldn't want a stranger touching my girl, but at the same time I would know that it's all fake and just for fun and there's no emotions connected to it.

[WestcoastBratt]

What if you went with him? Would you still feel the same after see what it's like

[BuchitaBuchys]

I don't buy that "no emotions" excuse. Or "it's just their job". It's "just their job" and there's "no emotions" for prostitutes too, but I still wouldn't let him fuck a prostitute.

If I went with him, fine. That'd be the only way. But even then, I don't like nudity so I'd be uncomfortable.

[WestcoastBratt]

Ok so I guess I'll be ask my cousins gf to join us haha it also be a first for her I think so I'm sure she'll love invite and go for the experience if nothing else lol

[AthleticMom]

Even if I couldn't go, my take on all this is...
1. I will take FULL advantage of his steamed up hormones upon his return OOHLALA!
2. his friends are sophomoric losers but will soon grow out of this phase... unless they are terminally gal rejects that will never graduate... in the latter case, we will move away

Going with is IDEAL for all gals thus they a) have some control over antics and b) wild imaginations & reactions are tamed by the real world events... I might also add c) in that she can observe NEW concepts that turn her guy ON and produce variations of them at home for tons of fun

[edeseps]

See this is a tricky question because I believe whoever Im dating can do whatever he wants as long as he remains faithful. Although, that being said, my boss once said this stripper was all on him, flashing her chest, and trying to give him a lap dance. I just don't trust the strippers because, come on, they will do anything for their money.

[FuturePxxnStar]

Why do guys always relate this stuff to actual cheating? p*rn ,: "It's not like I'm going to find her and sleep with her!" Strip clubs: "I'm just looking, not touching!"
It's not about cheating. Most girls would just tell you to take a hike if we thought you were actually going to cheat. It's about you lusting after a half naked stripper. OMG!

[Sweety2087]

Strip clubs are a waste of money and the strippers are just there for the money. I would tell him to go but not to expect me to be there when he gets back. If I'm planning on getting married with this man I don't want him to be wasting our family money on these women. The most valuable things in life that you can't get back are money and time.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Hey, people have eyes and when they see something they like they're gonna look. Regardless of whether the person on their arm is the one with their heart, she will never own his eyes. Period.

I'd let my partner go to a strip club. There's nothing wrong with them doing so, so why should I stop them? If they ask me first that is. Or at least inform me. (If I can go with them even better, a treat for the both of us.)

[CafèVeggieBoobs]

No, i would be really pissed. While I agree that the girls there are working and not looking for boyfriends, the question is not why they are there, but rather why YOU are there. (Collective "you"). If you're single, do what you like, but you're putting your cousin in a very awkward position and most likely making his girlfriends feel very distraught and inadequate.
Happy birthday and have a great time :)

[ChaosKilledTheDinos]

I would invite both your cousin and his girlfriend. I get your point about them just working and not looking for boyfriends but I also could get her being uncomfortable by her boyfriend getting turned on by other girls. Invite her in on the fun and she might go and have a great time or feel better about it and let him go by himself.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I can't control a grown ass man. he can go wherever he wants to go, but I won't be happy about it.