My boyfriend is disgusted by the past :( ?

[KimTaehyungKey]

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. I had a guy friend who lived with my family and I but moved out before my boyfriend and I started dating. My family invited my old friend to come to my cousins Qenciera (before my boyfriend and I started dating.) and my boyfriend is going as well . When I first started dating my boyfriend he asked me if I ever danced with my friend I told him no . He recently asked me again and I remembered that I did once at MORP when I was in high school in 2013 (i was single.) Because he got ditched by his other friends and I felt bad because I don't like people feeling left out . He told me I was disgusting and it was messed up of me to do something like that to him he's angry because he wanted me to dance with him witch I did for like 5 or 10 seconds but got shy so I sat back down (we were in his room) . He then told me I had to solve this problem because he feels disgusted and can't touch me at the moment. He wants me to feel the pain he feels but without cheating on me. I don't know what to do please help!??

[BearsAnswers]

Wow. That is a guy with some serious, serious problems. Your best bet is to leave this guy, and fast.

That is a dangerous level of anger and control issues that he is sporting there. He wants you to feel pain? A person does NOT want to make someone feel pain - not a stranger, not an acquaintance, and definitely not someone they are dating. That is as big a red flag as you can get, and he is waving it in your face.

This is such a bad relationship that I actually think it is possibly dangerous for you to stay in it.

[KimTaehyungKey]

Your right

[rthomas43]

"I don't know what to do please help?"

If you consider any other possibility than dumping his sorry ass, you're an idiot.

[xxxHolicxxx]

I'm sorry. Are you serious? Your guy is disgusted by you because you danced with someone? Is he mentally ill? Here's what you do, you dump his weird *ss and you move on to someone who is actually sane. Why do you let him talk to you in that way? That is not normal. He should respect you.

[Lauren-green]

This is sooo stupid :") because tbh, you haven't done anything wrong, you danced with a guy before you guys were dating? Why dont you ask him who he's danced with before, he wouldve danced with other girls, this is a petty fight and he needs to get over himself

[BubblyMaria]

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I don't understand why he's mad? All this happened before you two were dating. He needs to get over it. I mean you're going with him to the party.. That should be enough for him to realize that that guy is no threat and you're serious about him. (/_\)

[xHoneyxBeex]

Is "dance" a code word for sex here? Because if not and you're really just talking about actual dancing and he's "disgusted" because you danced with one of your friends, then your boyfriend has MAJOR issues.

[KimTaehyungKey]

Dance as in just dance

[xHoneyxBeex]

Wow, your boyfriend does have issues then. That's not normal at all. I don't see how anyone can be "disgusted" just becuase you danced with your friend, like wtf? That doesn't make any sense.

[noneoftheabove]

Lol thats a joke. Tell him to stop being a judgmental prick and tell him to man up (y)

[blondfrog]

Asians tend to be more strict its probably more of a cultural issue.

[noneoftheabove]

Yeah its understandable that but dancing is hardly a major issue. Sometimes to be with someone you have to look at things in a different light. If there's no compromise there's no relationship

[Domingo]

I thought dancing was code word for sex or something until i read the other comments. Okay, I was expecting to read a story of a promiscuous person. If your bf is disgusted by this, I can't imagine how he would feel if you actually did something horrible. I'd say stop messing with this boy and find someone who has a more mature mentality

[mutedaisy]

How old are the two of you, because this doesn't sound like an adult problem.

[KimTaehyungKey]

Im going to be 20 he's 21

[mutedaisy]

._. Your boyfriend isn't right, he's being extraordinarily difficult... like a child. What are your plans, will you continue to date him or will you try to resolve the issue?

[KimTaehyungKey]

Im going to talk to him once again and tell him to calm his attitude or I'm going

[mutedaisy]

Good idea! I wish you the best of luck!!

[KimTaehyungKey]

Thank you

[blondfrog]

Really who cares? its a dance lol I would be happy if my gf didn't want to dance with me I suck at it.

[snuggle_bunny88]

What the hell is he freaking out for? You can't change the past, it is what it is. He needs to grow up.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Is dance slang you youngins are using for like sex or a bj? Otherwise your bf is a dickwad. He is a wad of dicks. He is an asshole. He is a whole ass.
I'd leave his psycho self. I'm surprised you're still with him.

[Sara413]

Even if it is codeword for sex, he's still being a total dickwad... he asked the question! He shoulda been prepared for the answer! The past is the past!!

The super fucked up part, though, is that in another of her responses she even says it was just a dance... this dude's got SERIOUS issues.

[musicbrain5]

He's disgusted by you because you danced with a guy friend long before you were together? He really needs to get over himself. You don't need to do anything because you did nothing wrong.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

He doesn't sound ready for the dating game. Don't be upset. This "problem" is all him, he's acting like a child.

Don't deal with his BS. You've done nothing wrong. If he pulls crap like that on you, dump him.

[dricky2011]

Really, dump him quick, that guy has some serious issues, run girl run

[ComDom]

Have you tried apologizing for lying to him?

[KimTaehyungKey]

I did many times

[ComDom]

I'd suggest you tell him you feel guilty then give him time to calm down, he just seems upset.

[RedThread]

Time to dump the chump.

[BarbaraP]

Dump the psycho honey

[xPoison]

Move on. Is that simple.

[SnowHearth]

Six words only: send him away.

[Despondency]

Your man is retarded. I am sorry.

[Ydiaandyou]

you are hispanic?

[KimTaehyungKey]

Yes iam