Are you afraid of being cheated on?

[AleDeEurope]

We all know we can get cheated on, it's not something we can't control, and it's kinda scary to know that your partner, the person you love, is cheating on you.
Some of us are completely sure that our partner is never gonna cheat, while others are scared that their partner is gonna cheat on them.

So are you afraid that your partner, or your future partner, is gonna cheat on you? And I mean be really worried and concerned about it, not just the typical doubt that comes to your mind once in a while.

I'm single, but I'm afraid to get in a relationship and she will cheat on me. I want a relationship, but with all the cheating stories you here every day, I'm pretty scared that I'm gonna give my life to one person and she's gonna turn out to be a cheater, and end up hurting me.

I'm single and I'm scared

I'm in a relationship and I'm scared

I'm single and I'm NOT scared

I'm in a relationship and I'm NOT scared

[Anonymous]

I've been cheated on.

The only one who didn't would have - she just didn't get the chance. She had a wandering eye, too, even while we only dated for a short month or so.

I've also had friends who were cheated on, including the girl above who was cheated on by a so called friend.

I've had "friends" admit to cheating on people, then a week later deny, Then going back to admitting to cheating.

I've also had a lot of friends commonly stab me in the back. Not all, but too many to not be wary of friendships.

I'll probably have to travel a lot for work. I've seen what a lot of girls do when they're in relationships, and I would call it cheating; especially when they're in LDR's.

[AleDeEurope]

So you're scared you're gonna get cheated on, or you just assume that it's gonna happen so you don't care?

[Opinion Owner]

assume it's going to happen, and I'm pretty concerned about it.

[Path1993]

Negative.

Its not something you can worry about man. And to be honest i feel cheating happens when the relationship is falling anyway. If you and your partner are in love or are truly happy with each other then it won't happen. Simple.

The more you stress or worry about things that are out of your control, the more you will obsess and end up driving ur partner too cheat because you will become possessive and so afraid that she will, you'll do everything to prevent it. But ultimately its the first step for being cheated on.

Good luck brah

[AleDeEurope]

I know man, but I just can't help it but get worried about it, and like I'm said, I'm single... I have trouble trusting people, even those close to me, so I always have the feeling that they're gonna betray me.
But you're totally right, great answer, and thanks for the advice :)

[Path1993]

Where from the same pond man, but your 19, ill put it to you this way. Your going to have a number of different romances from now until u find the one. And you may find the one and that will be great and i hope it works out. BUT most likely there'll be various amounts of different girls, which all will create some kind of pain (not necessarily cheating). But they will all create you to be a stronger version of yourself so when the right one does come around, you'll have enough experience to know exactly how to handle it and what you can do differently to prevent any mishaps that may have previously occurred.

Hope it works out

[AleDeEurope]

I guess you're right. Thanks again man ;)

[BumbleDeev]

I feel that if you don't trust your SO then you shouldn't really be in a relationship with them. Relationships shouldn't be all worrying about what they're doing when you're not around. I think in a healthy relationship you should trust your partner 100%

[Sara413]

Honestly, I don't have even the slightest concern that my bf will cheat on me. I just don't think he has it in him to do that. He's hands down the most respectful, kind guy I have ever dated. It would be completely out of character for him.

[AleDeEurope]

That's great to hear, I wish you luck with him :)

[Sara413]

Also, I agree with the other guy here who said that if your relationship is healthy, they won't cheat. I think that's totally true. Some people are just super shitty people who will cheat on everyone they date simply because they don't have respect for other people, but in other cases where otherwise decent people end up cheating, it's usually because they are no longer emotionally and/or sexually satisfied in their relationships (more often it's an issue of emotional dissatisfaction). If your relationship is going well, you can generally assume they're not going to cheat on you. And being possessive/jealous, worrying about them cheating on you, accusing them, etc, will only drive them to actually cheat.

[-Zoe-]

I'm not afraid.. I just cannot tolerate cheater..
if I give my life to someone and he turned out to be cheater, i think it would really hurt me but I will survive and that makes me more stronger and wiser..

[Genie23]

I would br lying if I said no..

[phanindra554]

I am single and I am not scared because if they cheat may I will feel for some days but they will be reputed as bad person for whole life so I am worrying about them poor people how they lead there stupid life.
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[AleDeEurope]

Hmm that's a good way of thinking, I'll have to apply that to my life.

[phanindra554]

Tank you very much

[phanindra554]

Good luck

[hypno-trip]

I think I'll look for a girl where I don't see this being a big possibility, meaning I trust her character. I wouldn't be attracted to someone so unfaithful anyway probably...

No homo but you look good dude. I'm surprised the ladies on this site haven't swarmed you with pussy offerings yet haha.

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, I also look for a girl who I think is faithful, but at the beginning of the relationship, when you don't know each other that well, you don't know for sure if she's the faithful type of girl, and that's what scares me, that I may think she's faithful, but I end up being mistaken.

Oh, and thanks man. No girl has offered... yet... hahahaha jk xD

[hypno-trip]

I agree it's hard to tell in the beginning, love requires vulnerability which is hard I can understand...
good luck.

[Blondiee2014]

I'm kinda seeing someone I guess.
I dont actually know what we are in terms of status or what she would like us to be if I'm honest, but we had a talk last night about out insecurity around this type of thing and We both set ground rules and boundaries.
Because of that I think we have full trust of each other :)

[AdamThomas]

I don't think my girlfriend would cheat, she's not that type. She doesn't trust most men especially when she's out drinking so she just ends up telling them to fuck off if they try hitting on her (even when she was single). It's a fear of mine as I've been cheated on before but I don't think she would so I'm not paranoid.

[trieze]

Heh heh, I wouldn't be scared at all.
Best you cheat now and get out my life so I can save my time and go after the next one.

[AleDeEurope]

Ok, but what if you end up loving her, wouldn't you be scared that she can cheat on you?

[trieze]

what, I can't love the next one as well?

[AleDeEurope]

I didn't say that, but if you love someone it's not easy to deal with being cheated on.

[trieze]

not if I keep an open mind, don't allow myself to wallow in self-pity and understand that everything has it's time

[zombiebabe]

i had already been cheated on... thanks to my fucking ex... he is the main reason why i have trust issues!

[AleDeEurope]

I'm so sorry to hear that :(
But hey, I'm sure you'll soon find a guy that won't cheat on you :)

[zombiebabe]

lol do you believe that guys who do not cheat even exist?

[AleDeEurope]

I believe it, 100%. I cheated once (emotionally, there was nothing physical besides holding hands), and after that I wasn't proud, so I told myself I'm never ever gonna cheat, and until today I haven't cheated again, I learned from my mistake.

[zombiebabe]

never cheat on a girl dude,,... this hurts as fuck and is kinda impossible to heal

[AleDeEurope]

I know, I know :( that's why I never did anything physical with that girl, but I couldn't stop from getting feelings for her, I had a crush on her for a long time, I got over it, but seeing her again and being together all summer brought those feelings back. She's the most amazing girl I've ever met, so that didn't help either.

[zombiebabe]

oh man

[PrincessJennyfer]

im not scared my bf will cheat on me because he doesn't have the ability to flirt with a rock XD

[AleDeEurope]

What if it's the girl who flirts with him? :O xD

[PrincessJennyfer]

my bf flirted to XD when i first flirted with him it was like talking to a wall he told me he took a 2 minutes shit i dont think he will get very far XD he is very shy

[Anonymous]

I've been afraid of getting hurt in the past, but not any more. I've never been afraid of being cheated on though, just that he'll stop loving me or fall in love with someone else

[AleDeEurope]

But aren't you afraid that if they stop loving you they'll cheat on you?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I know he's not that kind of guy. If he didn't love me anymore he'd break up with me, he wouldn't cheat

[Hans222]

Voted A... I really hope that when I meet someone she won't cheat on me. Although I think that if she confessed and could leave it behind her, I'd recover and give her a second chance. Conditionally of course.

[SexyTexas]

I do fear being cheated on (because I'm not naive, it happens), but it does not control my dating life. If it happens I will deal with it then, dwelling on the possibility can ruin a relationship.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Sadly bro, i voted A)
its hard to get over being cheated on bro
now i am more nervous to start dating a girl long term

[KDA20]

I think it is a legitimate fear most people have once it doesn't develop into paranoia and excessive jealousy.

[Prettygurl12]

Being cheated on is a big fear of mine. However, I'm not afraid that my boyfriend will cheat on me.

[BelleGirl21]

I highly highly doubt he'd ever do that. He'd just leave me first if that's the case.

[hypno-trip]

haha is that the 'Korean way"

[BelleGirl21]

@hypno-trip, I think plenty of Koreans have affairs. It's just not my husband's style for many reasons.

[hypno-trip]

omG i guess I can understand that.

[bubble_tea]

I used to be really scared of being cheated on, now I'm not anymore.

[nicholle35]

Being cheated on is my number one fear while being in a relationship.

[dangimconfused]

Yes I trust him, but it's still in the back of my head.

[Chick180]

Yes. It's one thing I wouldn't be able to deal with emotionally.

[meatballs21]

For a while I wondered if my now-ex was, but I was never 'scared'.