I'm just worried that I'm going to end up dating one of those guys who's unemployed and still lives with his parents when he's 30. It's honestly starting to freak me out to the point where I'm having a hard time feeling positive about the relationship and even backing off a bit. I wish he would at least share where he's at with the job search, and even let me help. But he seems determined to do it on his own, but to what cost? How long does he plan on just 'waiting' for the perfect job to appear?
I'm tempted to break up with him before I get too invested, otherwise I'll have more to lose in this relationship financially than he ever will. Am I being too harsh or insensitive? Please give me some tips on how to help him! He has a lot of potential, but I think he needs to actually put in the effort to actually realize that potential. I can't be his saviour, and I don't want to be ~ I want to be in a relationship with a MAN who takes charge, and leads the way. Him having a job makes a huge difference in this regard for me, not in terms of how much of a man he is, but in terms of reflecting on his qualities and our chances of lasting in the future (maybe even marriage). This is definitely affecting his own self-confidence, and sense of security. The last thing I want to do is break him down, but why should I let his lack of success affect me negatively?
Sorry if I seem heartless, but I'm just trying to figure out what's the most productive and effective action to take? The last thing I want to be is a security blanket for a guy who really just needs a push
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