Girls, How can I tell my girlfriend to improve her work out?

[RedLook]

We have been living together for a while, and she got heavier lately, my workout is very intensive, but she is the kind of people that doesn't have that "passion"'. She wants to get fit and I know she doesn't feel comfortable with her body. Every time I make a comment about it she tells that I don't like her so the only safe way for me is telling that is okay and that latter she can improve. I am not with her because her body but I would LOVE to see her in a good shape.

[Anonymous]

Shaming is actually very effective. It makes a girl feel bad, but it gives her motivation. My father called me fat once. That was the last time I had no motivation to stay fit.

But it did make me feel bad. Not bad, AWFULL. Not because he said I'm fat, that wouldn't have hurt me as bad, but because he said it in public while taking me to try on a dress for junior high graduation.

But shaming works and as long as you provide love and tenderness as well as criticism, the relationship will be healthy. Don't listen to sensitive fat people and their claims of "mental abuse". Those claims are why they're fat in the first place.

But don't keep commenting if it doesn't make her move after a month or so.
And don't critisize her if you are not willing to provide an alternative lifestyle. You have to be willing to actively motivate your girl, buy good food and find ways to get her out of the house and moving.

I know as a woman I can't ever build up a man's muscle mass to keep my weight down (without extreme exercising I don't have time for) and for me to loose weight, nutrition and cooking are MUCH more important.

You can't just push her and criticize, you have to simultaneously love her and take care of her. Good luck. :)

[aamy811]

Do not do this. People I liked telling me I was fat was the reason I managed to he an eating disorder. You may have been inspired to do it the healthy way and it worked out fine an dandy, but if the person whose supposed To accept you the most turns on you; it can lead to seriously self destructor behavior.
This is the case of me and many other girls. All it can take is one comment to really fuck up your whole life

[Opinion Owner]

It would have pushed me into an eating disorder too if I didn't receive love, motivation, direction and acceptance as well. My father called me fat, but he never let me think I'm worth less because of it and he never left me all of my own in the dark.
This is a very simple principle. You need both pain and love to change. If you're afraid of the truth, you'll gt nowhere.

[aamy811]

Suggest working out together. The best way to change the world (or in this case your Gf) is to start by changing yourself. So include her in exercise.
Next time she complain about her weight. Tell her 1) that she has to change her mindset first. Or 2) give her some tips. I often how my partner articles about exercising. So that they can learn about things and find out what they want to do. And it's actual information, not just sweet nothings from a loved one.
And if she complains like I sai offer to workout with her. If she feels offended, inform her that you just want her to feel as crazy about the way she looks as you do. Let her know that your fine with the way she looks now and that you are just here to support her in reaching her goals.

[aamy811]

Thanks for MHO

[LovelyDisquiet]

Try Hot Yoga (or Bikram Yoga).

Seriously. ... Once she tries it. She will never have to worry about not finding the passion for working out again.

It feels amazing! You get like two hours afterwards of a blissful, clean, high feeling, and if you continue to do it, the pounds fall off (as long as you eat well too, of course), and your skin starts to look gorgeous.

It seriously got me back into yoga and cardio again. :)

[needaknow]

I am also not the type to work out. So I think people like us need strong motivation and good company to work out. So, maybe persuade her to go together or you can slightly show that you like good body shape in women like praising those on TV with good body shapes. If she's worried that you might start looking at other women, she might start working out. Hope this helps

[RedLook]

We tried to work out together, right now her motivation is that I am "the handsome one" and she wants to keep up with me, I want to tell her what kind of girl I like but I'm afraid she will be mad again. would you feel bad I your boyfriend tells you "baby I would like to see you as sexy as possible, you are okay but we know you can do better" will that work or I will get slapped?

[needaknow]

I really dont think saying that line would help at all. I would definitely feel bad if I hear that from my bf. Maybe make it fun and worthwhile when you guys hit the gym together (doesn't mean you should play, but I dont know how since I am no expert) or praise her everytime she improves.

[Prettygurl12]

Touchy situation. She has to want it for herself. And REALLY want it. None of that pretend wanting but never doing crap. Invite her to workout with you maybe?

[Anonymous]

Just ask her to do things with you. You have to invite her with you. I basically told my boyfriend (I was in the same situation) that I wanted to do more things outdoors and go to the gym more often and we both look and feel better :)

[Anonymous]

Honesty is sooooo much better hats off to u just check the calendar man that it doesn't coinside with her period.

[Anonymous]

sneak walks into her day

[Foxxtrot]

Work out with her.