Do guys care about anniversaries or do they "care" because they want to keep their honey happy?

[justbeinghonest]

Do guys care about anniversaries or do they just acknowledge them because they want their lover to be happy?
I want to know if guys are excited about them too?

[gray_sailor]

Guys generally speaking don't care about any milestones at all. I don't even really care about my own birthday.

The reality is that once in a relationship, I have to care about her birthday (and I also have to care about my own). I have to care about aniversaries too. Basically I see it like this: this is a way she wants to be loved and apparently it is also a way she wants to love me.

I'm not going to fight that. I'll support it as I am able. But it's probably best to not probe how deeply I care about any particular day.

I value the relationship, not the days we set aside to celebrate that relationship. I hope that gives you some understanding.

[justbeinghonest]

Yup exactly what I thought. I always tell him that he has to let me spoil him too. So this year he got a Christmas gift and a bday gift.

[gray_sailor]

I appreciate your upbeat attitude about it. Some other askers have had the same question and when they heard the nearly unanimous lack of interest from guys, they sort of throw up their hands in a "Why even fucking bother" sort of way.

I almost think that this is one of the things that should be taught in schools.

Take all the guys in one room and say to them: "Girls care about birthdays, including yours."

Then take all the girls into another room and say: "Guys don't care about birthdays, not even their own."

People should not be on the earth for a quarter century or more and not know these simple facts about the opposite sex.

[gray_sailor]

It's not so bad after you've been doing it for a few years. It came as a bit of a shock when I remarried and then these things instantly became important.

[justbeinghonest]

HAHA yessss! That's EXACTLY how it should be. I don't get mad because is not just one guy, it's most of them. You know what I got for my bday? Brand new tires for my car because he was afraid I would crash. I had really bad tires and he knew I wasn't going to take care of it ASAP. Romantic huh? LOL his way of saying "I love you" is by buying me new tires so I wouldn't "crash and die"

[gray_sailor]

Yeah, it's like getting mad at the wind. You can do it but it makes you look silly and doesn't really change anything.

Romantic gesture there, him wanting to keep you around for another 50,000 miles.

[justbeinghonest]

I knowwww <3 he is amazing !

[Ihav2fart]

I'd care about 1st year then every 5 years.

[Ihav2fart]

Thanks

[RationalLioness]

I think some guys do both. I don't have a penis, but I would like to think that most guys honestly care if they're in love with the woman...

I don't know though. And my opinion sounds pretty biased.

[justbeinghonest]

Read the guys answers. I know for sure my bf doesn't give a shit. He doesn't even care for his bday.

[RationalLioness]

That sucks. I was wondering if my "romantic nature" was clouding my perspective. I really didn't want to say "No" to this one... lol.

Some of the reasons given are understandable--it's just another day. But if it's SPECIAL to someone, I think many make an effort.

Damn. I hope your BF celebrates other days with you.

[justbeinghonest]

He does but because he knows it makes me happy. Well this year he said that he wanted to spend his BDAY with me only. We had a great day together <3

[Prettygurl12]

My boyfriend cares much more than I do lol

He can tell you how long we've been dating down to the day.

[MrCryptic]

I never cared about that stuff. If I got married then I would probably care about that anniversary but other than that I don't care. I used to get annoyed when some girls would count every WEEK that we were together as an anniversary.
Her: It's our 1 week anniversary!!!
Me: ...
Her: Don't you care?
Me: ... it's only been a week...
Her: You hate me don't you!!!
Me: ... I do now...

[justbeinghonest]

LOL I never understood that either. What about a year anniversary from meeting each other for te first time after a while year of talking online only?

[AleDeEurope]

I don't care, not because I don't value our relationship, but because it's just a normal day. "But it's 1 year being together!", well, in 2 weeks it'll be 1 year and 2 weeks together, should we celebrate that too?
I celebrate it just because girls like it, but I truly don't care.

[Hans222]

I think the most important thing to aniversaries are the people around you for the party... I don't care about the presents, I care about the people who give me friendship and love.
So to some degree the answer to your question is: yes, we do it to keep our honey happy. Because we want her to love us and we love her back :-)

[chrisbigman]

I probably would only care if we lasted a very long time - to old age. Because most marriages these days don't last as much as the ink drying, it's hard to feel like the marriage will actually last. But that doesn't mean I'm not willing to give it a shot, though.

[justbeinghonest]

My parents have been married for 32 years. I'm following their example.

[chrisbigman]

My parents have been married for 40+ years, and both my grandparents made it to 50, before both my grandpas passed away. I hope to follow their examples also - if I marry.

[thatkaruguy]

honestly we dont give a shit about aniversaries of any sort. we dont care about honeymoon, valentines, the day we first met, the day we first kissed etc none of that we only pretend to because you would get mad otherwise.

[justbeinghonest]

Nahhh not mad. Just interesting how guys are so objective. And that's why I love men. They are the contrast to the relationship.

[thatkaruguy]

lol i know plenty of girl that would get pouty or mad because their bf didn't remember a day.

[Nerdvana]

I can't speak for all guys, but I do care about anniversaries and birth dates. And it's not just because I think she will want me to care. I do find them special and romantic. I just wish woman would sometimes, go out of their way to make anniversaries special for guys. It kinda feels like the woman sit back and let the guys do all the work to make it special. It's a celebration for both partners.

[DodgersGM]

Yeah, I care about them. Especially the important annual anniversaries.

Asking a dude to get all giddy over, say, a six month anniversary? That might be asking too much, depending on the dude.

[justbeinghonest]

But what about a year?

[DodgersGM]

A year is a big deal, yeah. I would definitely remember and care a lot.

[Rahdle]

I'm sure some guys are. But as far as I know, no. My girly friend means the world to me and I'd do anything to make her happy... But I'm never gonna truly love a day. They're all the same

[mr90skid]

We mostly care just to avoid being bitched at... I'd care after like 10 years since people get divorced nowadays likes it's a trend

[SomeoneImportant]

Some guys might.

But I think it's safe to assume the majority don't give a shit.

[Anonymous]

I couldnt care less. I barely remember her birthday.

[JackKerouac77]

Depends who the guy is.

[Luvme66]

Most of them do... some don't! Well I do!

[madokh]

it depend on the guy