I told my boyfriend he's a boring boyfriend... is that's ok?

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Im a very expressive  person.. so i told my boyfriend he's  boring... i been with  him over a year so nothing  has changed cus we never went out a lot... so maybe im irritated with the whole boring guy thing now.. its starting  to get on my nerves... my boyfriend cousin girlfriend told me one day that i should  find out his off day & she went on & on.. i just let her talk meaning  i didn't really respond  to her bc i don't  want drama.. i told my boyfriend... i feel single  cus we don't  see each other very often & i tld  him maybe he doesn't  like  to do anything, but text all the time & thats extremely boring.. he didn't  say much besides  he said he probably  will take me out  this week if im off.. is this rude to say or what? but i feel if he doesn't  start stepping  up he gne loose me

cookienick · Accepted Answer

Seriously like if you need to maintain and continue the relationship just go talk to him face to face and bring up the topic about this boring thing. Actually its not boring out someone, the name is an unhealthy relationship. And you can't just blame your sweetheart because that's not just right. I mean seriously, think about him also, maybe he is busy with work or something else.
So what I say is you should find out the reason why he is not interested in the relationship or maybe it could be your fault that you are not putting much effort to make the relationship running.
**don't always expect the guy to run the relationship because both should make some effort to fun the relationship. If one side is not supporting to the relationship, I'm sorry you have to make a decision
Good luck ^^

Applefan1 · Accepted Answer

People can be very expressive but that still does not give them the right to be rude. Like another GAGer said relationships are a two way street. You could have just said you would like to do something together. You could have talked to him about it in a respectful way instead of being rude about it. You where harsh and he would have every right to be mad with you over the way you went about this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's rude to say that anyone let alone a boyfriend. Why not just tell him that you would like to see each other a bit more and do more things together. Why don't you initiate some things to do together instead of leaving everything up to him. You both need to come together to improve the situation.

HoneyButterCup525 · Accepted Answer

Thats not somthing to say to your partner..

You should s'y somthing positive like "hey i think we should both spend more time with eachother" or " hey lets have some fun together why dont we try out somthing new This weekend"

GunnerGirl · Accepted Answer

The way you said it was a bit harsh... You could say something like that you miss being with him and would like to spend more time together apart from just texting

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

No it is not ok. Expecting him to do something for you is a double standard in and of itself. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make the horse drink it. I realized its best when you put in your own effort and begin to make the relationship better, while not expecting the other person to do the same.

Anonymous · Answer

You're an asshole.
You can have expectations, you can be disappointed. Find someone that meets your expectations, don't tear him down for not being what you pictured.

If you really don't like someone at the core of their being, just dump him.
Saying hurtful things isn't being "expressive", it's irresponsible and immature.

Move on.

ArabianPwincess197 · Answer

No that was mean. If he said you're a lousy girlfriend. Would you like it

ThisDudeHere · Answer

This text was boring and I didn't want to read. But to answer your main question then @ArabianPwincess197 say it best - what if he said you were bad or something?

Octavion · Answer

You could try setting up a date if he's not doing it. That was kind of uncalled for unless he's absolutely refusing to do activities with you.

Sexualchrist · Answer

Of course its OK. How else would he know. You should tell him he needs to step it up or he can kiss your sweet arse goodbye.

Lissy967 · Answer

I think that was really harsh to say. You could just say "Hey, I miss spending time with you! We should go out or something!" and would achieve the same.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow go with another guy and stop wasting his time because you're going to end up cheating on him I mean "lonely" and end up blaming him for you not able to close your legs

Anonymous · Answer

It wasn't exactly ok. Relationships are a two way street. Maybe you're not that using yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Why should he change for you? Why don't you change for him?

Figleaf · Answer

Sounds like you've nagged his ass to death.

Nathand · Answer

he needs to dump your ass in a garbage can.

I told my boyfriend he's a boring boyfriend... is that's ok?

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