I cannot choose between my ex and the new guy?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea how I got in this situation.
Even typing it out I'm contemplating backspacing and deleting.

I dated a man for three years. Lots of love, but lots of communication problems.
We broke up amicably about three months ago- but we met up the other day and we both felt the same thing.
We've been talking and the communication issues have honestly been getting better- before when we were together we just kissed and made up anytime there was a problem.
Problem is- I've been seeing a new guy (whom my ex knows about) for about a month, and what I intended to be a rebound has become a romance.
Now I'm torn between two wonderful men. One makes me laugh but I'm not sure I can trust him (new guy), and the other doesn't make me laugh but is a solid GREAT guy who would stand beside me hell or high water.

Do I choose passion or security?

Thoughts? :\ Never thought I'd be in a situation like this. A f*cking love triangle, seriously?

[Almageste]

It's up to you ; you shouldn't be relying on strangers to truly help about such personal problems, after all we do not know you.

All I can do is point in your text what you wrote unconsciously, what you probably think deep iinside of yourself but you have problems writing / thinking logically.

Well, in your last paragraph you said something negative about this new guy, while on the other hand you used capital letters for your ex. Means something you know.
Also, I noticed that you only used the word romance for this new guy, meanwhile the word love multiple times for your ex.
It means something you know.

Now it's your turn to think ;)
Hope the best, whoever you "choose".

[PiuBelloAmante]

follow your heart, listen to your mind, but trust your gut

[Anonymous]

List the pros and cons of each person truthfully. Whoever gets more pros wins. But your heart isn't a game. The real winner is the guy who you purposely try to make an excuse for every con, and who you list every little pro you can think of from extreme to little. Thats how you know who you want.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AriesLove]

Why give someone another chance when there's another guy waiting for his first chance? Sometimes it's the security and familiar feeling that makes you want to stay with what you know even if it wasn't perfect. But, I found myself in a similar situation a few years ago and my best friend asked me, which one can you not see yourself without? If you had to live your life without one which hurts the most to lose? That's what helped me decide. One guy was great a man but the other guy totally had my heart and I just couldn't see my life without him in it everyday. But hindsight? I wish I would have given the new relationship a chance because even though I felt the strongest attachment to the previous relationship, nothing had changed and we ended up breaking up for the same reasons as the 1st time. So you just have to take somethings into consideration. Your feelings, the previous relationship and if it's worth a second chance, and if the new guy is worth a 1st chance. But I'll tell you it's hard to give a new guy a fair chance if your heart is still holding on the 1st guy.

[Hannah591]

Neither, really. You shouldn't get with a new guy if you can't get over your ex and you should probably not go back to an ex anyway, it usually doesn't work out. If you were genuinely over him, you would choose the new guy! You started with this guy on false pretences.

Leave the ex in the past and date someone new who you do trust.

[Anonymous]

Ex's are ex's for a reason. You realize you weren't compatible