I'm 20 years old and can't see myself in a relationship?

[itsweird182]

I have only had 1 girlfriend in my life before, and since her I have had no luck finding anyone that I would be interested in. I've been single for a little over a year now, and honestly I can never picture myself being in a relationship anymore. I used to want a girlfriend really bad, but now that I haven't had any luck finding anyone, I have lost interest in trying to find someone right now. It seems like I am one of the few people my age who isn't in a relationship. Is anyone else like me? girls or guys? or is it just because I am still young?

thanks!

[iformshadears]

its not age.

I was the same up until I was about 18.. I had no sexual experience and no girls wanted me or liked me (only fat ugly ones, or girls that were like 13) All my friends had tons of relationships and were having sex, I was a virgin and felt like a complete loser. Then one day I just started getting girls, I'm now 21 and sometimes have up to 8 girls on the go at the same time. I'm not cheating on them, because its got to the point where I have so much chioce with women it has become impossible for me to pick one, I am actually in a relationship right now with a very hot, wealthy 38 year old woman, most guys could not ask for more, but I'm not happy.. so having girls all over you isn't always great!

I think what changed is my attitude. are you shy or reserved? do you care much for what people think of you?

A good way to test your confidence is to walk up to a girl in the street or supermarket and just try and hit on her, flirt outrageously with her... if you can do that without being called a creep or being slapped, then its not your attitude or confidence, it must be something else. If you can't do that then work on it.

Women are shallow just as men are, so if you don't look hot to them then you will have less luck. there isn't much we can do about our faces but there is a lot we can do about our bodies! Join a gym and work out religiously, get big.. its not that hard if you have the right advice. also.. style is another big thing, if you dress really good then you can get girls on that alone.

the way you act and treat women I would say is the most important thing though. As a general rule, treat a woman like you have aready slept with them. that's rule number 1 in the playbook.

[Anonymous]

Your still young, much like me. But here's what you need to do, scout out girls you like and understand why you like them, invite them for coffee and make yourself a complete mystery to them. If she asks about your past relationships/job just smile at her and talk about her, or lightly deflect it, make sure to smirk. Keep her guessing she'll like it. It's a hard to get game that's stupid but it's how it rolls, women often look for information on a date; what benefits can they get from being with you? External = money / Internal relationship. So don't brag about either. Talk about things that interest you, ask what interests her.

For me I've had a boyfriend or two, and a wife, all since past into the moonlight. And being such people may say I am giving up; however I am in mourning for 3 lovers lost.

So, in conclusion: Don't stop walking, never look back, keep your chin held high - your a man, be proud that you will have a family to protect with your life.

[heythereclaire]

I think I know what you mean..

I used to complain about not having a boyfriend and stuff, but since then, I've started to focus more on school and friends and family, and I've realized there's other things to do and people to meet and it's not worth spending all my time on. I've stopped going out with my friends with only intentions of meeting someone. And I'm very involved with activities, so I'm not sure if I have all the time and energy for a commitment. And I was really picky before anyway--I'd only go to a dance with a guy if I could see us going out in the future.

But being single I'm learning a lot by watching my friends make mistakes and go through relationships.

idk if that helped(:

[heythereclaire]

I guess what I'm trying to say too is instead of looking for someone now, I'll wait for someone to find me. make sense? hahah(:

[itsweird182]

Thanks, your answer helped me. I also focus on school a lot closer since I don't have a girlfriend, unfortunately I don't get to see my friends that often (maybe once or twice a week) so I guess in that sense it would be nice to have a girlfriend, you know, just to have someone to be with a lot of the time.

[Sherile]

i am 24. I NEVER had a boyfriend and I am loosing my interest too... it almost seems unnatural and unrealistic the picture of me having someone in my life...so yeah. kinda getting used to it.

[itsweird182]

I think that's kind of my problem too. I just can't see myself being with someone because I've spent 99% of my life single.

[Anonymous]

I am the same way except I have never been in a real relationship and I feel like it will never happen and I am 20...so feel like if it hasn't happened yet it never will...

[itsweird182]

Don't say it never will happen! Are guys just not approaching your or something? You could always try to pursue a guy. You know, we do like that! :)

[Opinion Owner]

I guess I could try that...My male friends say on first meeting me I am hard to approach they felt intimidated...something about me I guess but I don't think I'm intimidating at all I'm really easy to talk to in fact...but I'll take your advice even though I think it will be difficult...

[bittersweeto8]

I think that once someone catches your attention, you'll change how you feel. But no worries. I'm pretty much the same way, usually things will fall into place

[itsweird182]

I sure hope you're right, that someone will come by and catch my attention and re-ignite my desire for a relationship. Good luck to you too. :)

[morphineS]

I'm 2o too, but in the same situation as yours...so u're not alone XD

[itsweird182]

yeah? what do you think your reason for that is? I think my problem is I am just never in a position to meet new girls, therefore I never get to date or anything, it sucks!