There's nothing you can do to take the night out.
I've had some behaviors I've regretted while drunk.
When I was 24 years old I punched my boyfriend in the face while drunk.
I slipped on the floor, but for some reason I felt as if he pushed me.
I became aggressive and tried to fight him.
He pinned me down and wouldn't let me go.
He was afraid of me.
I threatened suicide and hollered at the top of my lungs for him to let me go.
He wouldn't.
He was embarrassed.
Bystanders tried to jump in to my defense because they thought it was a man holding me against my will.
He explained to them the situation.
I don't remember that night at all.
I remember waking up next to him.
I was happy.
He was hurt and upset.
And told me he doesn't know if he wants to be with me.
I have never seen him so hurt.
I took him out to lunch and it's been 4 years since.
I haven't gotten that way ever again.
I still drink.
But never drink past my limit (I drank 150 proof straight that night).
Besides hurting him, it hurt me to know that I was so ugly that night.
The only thing you can do is make better decisions.
Do not drink to the point where you are heavily intoxicated.
When he sees your change... he will forgive you.
This will all take time.
Good luck *hugs*
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You handled the situation really badly. Firstly you shouldn't have been cursing out some guy on a public street. You and your friend should have behaved like ladies and ignored the guy and walked back inside. Hitting anyone is serious. It is domestic violence and you could have been charged by the police for assault against your boyfriend. After you have given it a few days, maybe you need to determine if this man is willing to have a future with you.
It would be over if a boyfriend did that to me so that's actually a good reason for him to break up. He doesn't want to propose because he's more than likely shocked this hitting would be coming from someone who loves him.
Your relationship will probably be over. Don't blame him if it is over. You need to stay away from drinking.
Of course, if a man hit you, the advise you would receive from everyone would be to break up immediately (compare that to all the "apologize a lot" statements you are getting).
But since I actually treat women like adults and hold them accountable for their behavior, just as I would a man, I will say that for the exact same reason (ie, that domestic abuse is never to be tolerated), your boyfriend should break up with you immediately.
So if he follows that advice and breaks up with you *as he should*, the best thing you can do is 1) move on and 2) get counseling to address your behavior and emotional issues.
I think an apology and a little time should pretty much cure your relationship. You can look him in the eye and tell him it wasn't you. He may feel a little skeptical going out with you again yet if you promise him to not get drunk to such an extent, I think he'll feel better. Just don't keep talking about this, but keep trying to show him your affection. Make him something when he gets home, but don't give him something like flowers.
Anyway, best of luck! and be sure not to cramp his space by persisted apologizing. I think he'll get over it in some time.
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Next time don't get drunk... Just learn a lesson... I'm just saying..
Euh for the situation... You will have to do something crazy to get his mood back to normal... Like a surprise party or something mind blowing... something that he always wanted to experience... He maybe still in love with you but hurt because of what you did... Shit happens.. don't worry, things will be alright but you got to do some...
Good luck :) cheers!You need to apologize many times, as well as showing him in some way how much you care about him. Do something that would mean a lot to him. If i was in your shoes, i would sacrifice drinking as a way to prove how much i cared, and promise that it'd never happen again. It'd be a gesture that would really mean a lot.
That is a very bad thing... why would you drink so much that you actually wouldn't know what is happening?
You need to do something big if you want him to forgive you like you can say sorry by getting on your knees and proposing him...
And ya don't ever drink again...Apologize profusely and for the love of god, stop drinking ! It's fucking up your life ! You are an angry drunk. Alcohol doesn't suit you, drink water instead. If you can discipline yourself, maybe you can win him back
Honestly, your lucky if he stays with you. I hope for you he isn't like me and just leaves you... However, I do not think you can fix this. He will always remember this so it really depends on him, I do not think there is anything you can do
Dont just apologize verbally, show it action too.
But I dont know if that will work.
I would be hurt and upset and a bit scared if my boyfriend did that to me.Maybe you should control yourself when you drink. You sound like an angry drunk.
Some guys let their problems be paid by sex. Just saying.
I don't know what you should do but he should dump you.
you'll have to apologize a lot
Apologize and do something nice for him
Apologize a lot
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