I think I'm falling for my husband's brother?

Question

Ok, i think im falling for my husbands brother. He moved in with us a couple months Ago an we hit it off very well. We do more stuff together then my husband an i because we have a lot incommon. My husband is nine years older then me and his brother is my age. My husband has cheated four times an i took him back everytime because i love him. His brother has been cheated on too an is no longer in a relationship. i find myself thinking of him often an wanting to spend more time with him. I wonder all the time what it would be like to be with him. We both said i met the wrong brother. that we wish we would of met first. We do things together that a husband an wife do but not the sex part my husband does that sometime he has a low sex drive an i have a high. Im so confused should i say something to him or not plzz help?

TwistedLogic · Accepted Answer

I hope I don't come off as judgmental specially since I haven't been through what you are going through, but I would personally never approve of this. A man trusts his family (both the one he was born in, and the one he builds) and relies on that trust to get his power and will, and give his life meaning. Anything deeper, more significant between you and his brother would crush your husband and leave serious scars for life. I understand that he is an asshole for cheating and all, but this isn't the proper way to solve the issue. I truly think you are just infatuated by his brother because he represents everything your husband lacks. In some weird way, your mind is trying to fix your current relationship. You are better than to ruin a blood relation for a long time.

I say you should leave and explore you life and sexuality elsewhere. Good luck to you. : )

BertMacklinFBI · Accepted Answer

okay bottom line, if you're going to do anything just make sure to do it right.

now if you are loyal to your husband, as you should be because obviously (vows, marriage) lol, then you gotta be strategic and avoid his bro if its unnecessary, or pull sheer strength of will.

Realfire22 · Accepted Answer

What you're feeling is basic closed in human attraction. We all have to be careful of that if we truly love our SO. And pointing out that your husband cheated doesn't count for anything because everyone is responsible for their own actions individually. If you cheat on your husband (which seems like what u want to do if i'm reading between the lines correctly) you will be greatly sorry and you won't feel any better about yourself. ArrangemeArrangements may need to be made for your brother in law to move out. If he truly cares for u, he will respect your relationship with his brother and back off. Same with u.

Alex615 · Accepted Answer

Wow I'm only thirteen, and the only thing I see here is so much betrayal and fake trust. So your saying that your husband cheated 4 times and your still with him? And now your trying to justify you getting with his brother by saying he has cheated on you. The best thing to do is leave your husband and find love somewhere else. You will look really bad if you leave your husband to just go to his brother! I'm sorry I didn't mean to sound harsh or anything, it's just that the family will all blame you for ruing the relationship even though your husband has cheated 4 times.

batgirl22 · Accepted Answer

just tell him that y'all relationship is kind of falling apart and you feel like you shouldn't have forgave him because you can't really trust him which im sure its true just tell him how you feel

Iwjwamo · Answer

You should definitely say something. DONT CHEAT!!! But you owe it to yourself to leave a repeat cheater and find your own happiness.

Don't do anything with his brother while married but you definitely deserve to give this a chance if both of you feel the same way.

Your "husband" can't say shit since he fucks around 🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪

MadeInAmerica · Answer

Just because your husband cheated doesn't mean you should to especially with his brother. You and his brother should quit while your ahead and you should try to get his brother back on his feet and out of your house and reconnect with your husband that you forgave four time and love so much.

blondfrog · Answer

You know its wrong if he cheated on you you should have never took him back once a cheater always a cheater as you had to find out the hard way look he cheated on you four times. Don't cheat on him with his brother just leave him this type of revenge is not worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

What is it that you are wanting? Just a sexual outlet with the brother-in-law or a full relationship? What is your history with infidelity? How would you feel about yourself if you cheated on your husband?

Candy12345 · Answer

Your husband is going to cheat on you again so you should divorce him.

Once a cheater, always a cheater so just get separated and then get with his brother. But if his brother is loyal to him then he won't get with you.

HookingSwan · Answer

Honestly? Why live tied down in a liveless marriage and with someone who cheated on you even more so. Why not consider breaking things off with your husband and just start a new life for yourself?

LiveFreeorDieHard · Answer

No, no, no, hell no. I have a brother, i would go batshit if i found out my wife was up to something with him. If you want, gt a divorce thwn go from it there.

nate18 · Answer

Sounds like you have a crush. Maybe just try having sex with him. Even if you get a divorce could you really even get with his brother after? That would be weird. I know I'd hate my brother if my wife divorced me for him.

Chiino · Answer

Divorce.. BOOM then move on, don't go to the brother. Say you did get with your husband's brother, everything you thought it would be wouldn't. That's how it always happens, you think th

master_poop · Answer

I can't imagine getting it on with my bro's wife, if it happens you're all a bunch of scumbags for betraying each other.

Anonymous · Answer

well it's your life, and only you know how hard it is to live with the wrong brother. I think you should initiate an affair with younger brother and if goes well for a couple of months divorce the elder brother. You and the brother that you like will have to convince the older brother that you two truly love each other, so that the elder brother doesn't have any animosity towards the younger brother.

Anonymous · Answer

your marriage is sorely lacking and it sounds like it's gonna crack any time soon. I'd advise you to get a divorce before you try anything with your husband's brother or better still, stay away from that family and maybe you'll realize that another guy is even better for you than the brother

ImTheQuestionGuy · Answer

Don't be like that your already married the way you are thinking is wrong an selfish no offense but the right thing to do is keep Some distance from your husband's brother and bond more with your husband

Nuqood · Answer

I find it interesting that in cases like these the woman has always been 'cheated on'.

dangimconfused · Answer

Don't do it. The relationship between the brothers would be ruined. Don't cheat because he did, it's not right.

Saydou · Answer

I would say because it may cause a big problem between 2 brothers and of course between husband and wife but ask your husband to stop cheating and focus on you

Midnightbreeze · Answer

I don't think you'd like to be the causr of enmity between brothers.

PandaClaire · Answer

This is why I (probably) never want to get married.

Anonymous · Answer

when he cheated the first tiem you should have divorced and married his brother

Anonymous · Answer

You are standing on shaky ground! You need to really think this through. This is a recipe for a true disaster!!!

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