My boyfriend cleared his search history... Is he hiding something?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so my boyfriend gave me his FaceBook password LOOONG ago. He has told me that I can go on there any time I want and that sort of thing.

Well the other day I was worrying about his ex and I wondered if he ever looks her up and stuff, but I didn't want to bother him and so I decided to just go check for myself.

He hadn't searched her.

I felt really badly for going on there though. I think it's more the lack of trust that I showed by doing that, not the fact that I got on there.

So, I confessed to him that I did that. And he said that he wished that I wouldn't have worried. And he wished that I would have just called him. And that sort of thing, but he didn't mind that I got on there. He said I can do that any time that I want and he doesn't care, because he's not hiding anything.

I trusted him.

But just today I was borrowing his phone (he let me use it and knew exactly what I was doing; mine died) and when I went on his FaceBook to quickly check on an event time that we both had to go to, I realized that he had cleared all of his search history.

I haven't mentioned anything because I don't want to show an even FURTHER lack of trust.. But if he doesn't care, wasn't upset at me about it, and has nothing to hide, why did he clear his search history?

I realize I made a mistake by going on there in the first place. I let my insecurities get the best of me, which was wrong. I don't need to be told that. I know he loves me and that he chooses to stay with me, it was silly. This time I'm trying not to worry about it, but I want your thoughts. Is it that I snooped in the first place and he doesn't want me to worry? Or is it that he did search someone/something up that he knows I wouldn't like?

Sorry. I am tired and totally overthinking this.

[existing_not_living]

I clear my history on things all the time. It's not because I am trying to hide anything from people. I wouldn't overthink it. He hasn't done anything that would prompt you to lose your trust in him, so I wouldn't go starting up something that you can't finish. You should really work on your trust issues, though. You confronted him. He told you that he didn't do anything and that he wanted you to talk it out with him, but then you continued to check in on him because of your insecurities. If you can't trust him, then what is the point of a relationship. Trust is so important. You really need to trust him or work on trusting him because if you can't get past your insecurities then you shouldn't be in a relationship.

[Blackjack_]

If you go on facebook then just write the first letter on the search history. For expample his exs name is Amanda, you type in A if his ex comes up on top then its because he visits her page often. Same goes for anything else like sexy pages etc. It always goes most viewed.

BUT i think you should calm down and stop taking his privacy. he gave you his passwords because he trusts you, so you shouldn't hurt that trust.

Bottom line, if there is no trust, there is nothing.

And if he hasn't dome anything to hurt YOUR trust or hasn't been acting suspicious then why keep bothering him and yourself with this?

[Asker]

Thank you for that! :) I truly needed to hear that. I know there isn't anything major I need to worry about, and I definitely do not go snooping often (actually I think that's like the first time I have in our whole two years of dating).

His ex was being ridiculously flirty and I couldn't help but compare myself to her and ended up in a downward spiral of insecurity and worries from there. *sigh*

[Blackjack_]

Well i admit i did it pretty often and it did hurt my relationship a little bit so i cut it off because there was no reason. If there isn't then you shouldn't worry. Is he still in contact with his ex?

[Asker]

Sadly we both have to see her a lot since it's a small town and stuff, but no they aren't on speaking terms that I know of.

[Blackjack_]

Ok thats annoying but if he ignores her then its cool. I mean he broke uo for a reason

[Random_chick_2384]

My Facebook it says no history or cleared history and I've never searched anything.

[Asker]

Okay, good to know:) thank you.

[Random_chick_2384]

You're welcome.

[Random_chick_2384]

Oops forgot to add a smiley face 😊

[Anonymous]

You're overthinking. You do sound like you don't trust him at all. It usually doesn't last much longer after that point

[Asker]

Indeed. I am overthinking.

And I do realize my mistake for going on there and worrying in the first place. The second time, I honestly was not checking up on him, I just thought that it was strange for him to delete all of his search history if he truly meant everything that he said.

But he is very trustworthy and I know I don't really have anything to worry about. But I am a girl and it is my first real relationship, am I not allowed to feel insecure and need affirmation every once in awhile?

P. S. We have been dating for two years so far and we could not be happier. :)

[Ihav2fart]

This is why I use incognito for private use!

[IDoMeDotCom]

lool alie, clearing your search history is too bait, gotta go private.

[Ihav2fart]

@IDoMeDotCom yeahhh I browse emails and regular web browse without incognito, porn and misc is in incognito mode :P