Boyfriends mom is obsessed with him and jealous of me?

[missrockndoll]

I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and we live together with his parents. I have been living with him for 6 months. His dad is an over the road truck driver and is barely home. I recently started noticing things that didn't seem right from his mom. She will ask questions to him like how does my ass look or her breasts. And she constantly wants his attention no matter what we do or where we are. She will get mad if he asks to wait for me while I get ready before we go somewhere. And for the past 2 weeks it seems as though the situation has escalated. She now will start fights with him and try to get him to talk to her without me being present and when he refuses she will scream and cry because she's not getting her way. She continues to tell him that things have changed and that he has what he wants now. She tries to make him feel responsible because she's lonely and "lost". She also has started doing her hair and trying to wear her makeup like me. She buys clothes like I wear and constantly tries to pick up the same thing I buy. She's even tried to find the same perfume I wear so she can wear it too. The other day she was eating gummy bears and asked if I wanted some, I replied no because they make me sick. The same night when we were at a store and she looked a gummy bears she told my boyfriend she doesn't like those because they make her sick. The following day I said to her that I loved gummy bears and she said she did also. Her goal weight is the same weight that I am and there's so much more going on. I am constantly stressed and we don't know what to do. My boyfriend is disgusted and has noticed all of this. He even told me she was the reason he couldn't see me a lot when we first started dating. We've even tried to get her to go out on the road with his dad and she refuses and makes a huge fuss. We are going to talk to his dad who has also noticed her behavior in the past when he returns home.
Can anyone offer advice or opinions? Thanks so much.

[Cmasterson]

This is actually really creepy, as she is his mother. However this could be her way of trying to pull him closer, she sees that he's not her baby anymore and another girl is taking over the whole "looking after" him aka you. Maybe she feels as if she resembles you he will show more affection, but there's a huge line between affection to your parents and affection to your partner. I honestly would try to save up and move out just the two of you, I know it's hard but it seems like she is very stubborn and if you confronted her about this, she would be the type to think you're crazy and only end up worse. She's literally acting like a child, it isn't your boyfriends responsibility to make sure she's not "lonely" and "lost", he isn't her spouse. I definitely would bring it up to his dad, how does she act when he comes home?

[Bunnygirl2]

She needs to be told what she's doing is stepping over that boundry with her son but at least he can see what she's doing and can admit what she is doing is wrong as if he didn't see anything wrong then you would have a hard time with this guy you both need to get out dont know how you can put up with that she sounds desperate.. if your boyfriend is 100 % on your side then get out of that house asap and just go and visit every so often she will drain you if you stay any longer

[AlphaMale1]

You are doing the right thing by giving this problem to his dad.

i am constantly amazed by the gathering of mixed nuts that share this planet. There are a lot of normal people. The whack-ohs are increasing in numbers at warp speed. What is going on these days?

[Kelfuma]

I think you either need Jesus or some counseling.

[Anonymous]

You should try to stay away from her!