My boyfriend has been texting me less and less lately. Is our relationship going downhill?

[Anonymous]

My LDR boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months. At first he used to talk to me via text throughout the day, even while he's working. Then as the months rolled by, he texts me less and less. Now he's allowing two days at a time to pass before he checks in on me and we talk as if nothing happened... then he goes right back to the "after two days" routine. Do I wait around for his texts though? No way. I still have my own life story to write. So what is happening here? Are we growing apart and better off without the other?

[thereshegoes1]

I don't think it's a good idea to split since there is no reason to. And him being less likely to to text as you go further the relationship is normal 'cause the trust that you won't do anything that'll put him off is there. But if this bothers you, try to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel. But you gotta find a perfect timing to. Make sure he isn't busy and he's relaxed and keep the convo light. Speak to him how you feel as fun as possible so he won't get stressed out and end up beinh defensive instead of being willinh to catch up. Understand his reasons if he has and end the convo with a nice note. :)

[Asker]

You're awesome. I didn't think of it that way.

[thereshegoes1]

Guys can really be like that sometimes. :) Talk to him and just remember to keep it light and fun. And one more point: guys tend to miss girls who can be independently happy.

[Asker]

Understood

[JamielovesKU]

You can talk to him about it. But not texting really shouldn't throw up a red flag, maybe try calling him?

[Asker]

Yeah, i guess.

[JamielovesKU]

I know I call up the guy I like sometimes it's awesome I prefer it more than texting

[Asker]

I do too honestly. We hardly ever talk on the phone though. Unless we're arguing, then he'll call me.
Plus, my voice sounds so weird and high pitched over the phone, which is probably why we only text. Lol

[JamielovesKU]

I know my voice sounds weird over the phone too but this guy I talk to has the most soothing voice☺

[Asker]

I had an ex who had a really soothing voice... always made me way too relaxed and I usually ended up falling asleep and snoring like a truck driver with him still on the other end. Lmbo

[JamielovesKU]

I love him tho <3

[Asker]

You go girl :3

[JamielovesKU]

:D :)

[amanwalia]

listen its just real thing if he message you that late then he is not intrested in you really. My LDR she treating me like a friend when she brokeup with me then she message me like a hell really get mad over her so much that she is message me like after 3 or 5 days that make me soo mad then she brokeup with me as a friend too as she is doing so much as I thought that she got something to do but no clearly she is ignoring me as she said that friend no need to message all the time ( what the fuck)

[Asker]

I'm very sorry to hear that. Hopefully the next girl will treat u much better

[amanwalia]

HAHA don't need i am happy with my arrange marriage tho that would be nice that she never left me what ever it going to happen I really waisted time and my enery on her you know what i did I make my passport and my birth cirtificate for her so i can go to other country for work so i can earn enough money to go to her country as i have money but don't want to use my dad money but nothing is happen between me and her really she is not a good girl for me I REALLY HATE HER REALLY

[Asker]

An arranged marriage? Smh. I hope that works out well for u and that you'll be happy.

[amanwalia]

HAHA yup arrange marriage because i am indian

[Asker]

That sucks

[amanwalia]

that sucks why is that... she is not treating me well really she is fucking not a nice girl as I HATE HER a lot

[JSmuve]

Did you really expect him texting your every single day to continue forever? Maybe if he's not texting you, you could, I don't know, text him first.

[Asker]

But if a guy is truly interested in a female, shouldn't he be the one initiating things first?

[JSmuve]

Not all the damn time. A girl should still initiate, otherwise one can say you're not interested in him.

[Someonesmartt]

Does he use drug?

[Asker]

Not that ik of. He can't since he works for Comcast.

[Someonesmartt]

Find someone else