Is she using me?
I have a friend of mine who I've known on and off throughout several years. In the past year or so we can become much closer as friends, yet along with this came what seemed like an added level of attraction. I pursued her for a wee bit and then stopped after she didn't return my advances, I am fine with having her as my friend.
Then she turns into something else when I came home for my winter break ( I am in college 3. 5 hours away from home). All of a sudden she's dressing up when we hang out because "she doesn't know when she will see me again. " That was only the tip of the iceberg. She later asked me to teach her various kinds of dance (swing, waltz, salsa, and most importantly a very risque version of the tango), and she got very into the seduction part of the tango.
Lastly, over a dinner conversation one night I made a remark that she should get some new lingerie for x-mas and jokingly said I'd get her some. She jumped at it (I thought she was playing along with the joke), naturally I asked what was my present going to be, she replied "you can watch me try it on. " I thought what the heck and went through with it.
So I went with her, got her some and we kinda made a day of shopping (the lingerie was the only thing I got her, she just likes to shop), most of the day with her glued to my side by the hip, hanging onto me. With lunch came a convo where she said "you never know what the future may hold, tastes in men change. " This was in response to a half joke that I made because of everyone we bumped into at the mall thinking we were in a relationship, saying "ah *overly dramatic sigh*, if only it were true. "
I left for college once more, and our contact has nearly hit rock bottom even though she keeps in touch quite a bit more with her friends who are closer to home. One thing I neglected to mention, she had a boyfriend during the break that I came home and all of this was done with her asking me to be discreet about what was going on.
She and her boyfriend are no longer together, and I will be heading home for the summer in a few days, with her going to a college about 30 minutes away starting this fall. What I am wondering is was she using me, just keeping me around until it's convenient to start something with me this summer/fall, or completely oblivious to what she's doing. (I might add she's going to be a psych major).
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