My boyfriend called me ugly, I don't know if he was joking or meant it?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend sneaked a picture of me and was like "who is this beautiful person?" And I did looked like shit in the picture so then I was like "I look gross and ugly" and he was like "im sorry I couldn't help it, it's like a Loch Ness monster sighting" (we were iMessaging each other). Then I just laughed it off and was like "ok..." Because I did felt hurt but didn't want to show it. And then he sent another picture of me... a normal looking selfie I took and he was again like "who's this beautiful person?" And I was like "eww gross" and he was like "you're right I must have an ugly girlfriend. Rate this hoe from 1-10" and again I just payed around with him even though It hurt me deep down.

I don't get it why did he called me ugly? Because a lot of times he would call me beautiful or pretty or cute out of random then all of a sudden last night he called me ugly? It kinda hurts me. I mean I don't mind if he was honest but it hurts me when he was the one who started to ask for my number and confessed he liked me then mislead me and created fake self esteem by calling me cute. I feel like I would've been less hurt if he did not call me cute every time or say any of those shit making me think I am cute when I'm not...

[DessieDoo]

He was joking. Kind of a twisted sense of humor thing. My boyfriend does this to me. I will dislike a photo of mine and he will say things like "You're right. Gross. Let's delete that one." But I know he's joking! When your boyfriend does this to you, do it back to him. It will make it sort of a playful game. He obviously thinks your beautiful or he wouldn't be taking pictures of you. Just try to laugh and make a joke out of it.

[Cmasterson]

He was joking! DOn't take it personally, you called yourself out first in a negative way so he was sarcastically agreeing with you.

[becca123]

He is playing off your responses. He thinks you are beautiful. Stop responding negatively :)

My response is "Awww. <3"

[Mewzinc]

I feel like the "aww" is strictly restricted for only women to use. At least in my world lol I have never met a guy who uses awww in text messages.

[matheus_mb]

Don't feel hurt, I was clearly joking. He wouldn't call you cute randomly during the day if he didn't mean it. According to the way things happened, I'm 100% sure he was joking.

[psychomonkey]

Yup another girl with low self esteem. He was joking

[Guy13]

Get back to the swamp, Lochness monster

[EmyyWolf]

Yeah, that sounds like he’s teasing you. He’s trying to be playful. He’s picking on you. When you’re in a relationship you need to know how to play-fight with your man for connection. You need to know how to “spar” with him sometimes.

Men are a little like cats sometimes. All of the sudden they break or tip over one of your belongings to mess with you, so that you can get mad and play with them or chase them down. Men have more testosterone, so they always want to be in a playful child-like state. So just know that.

Men don’t really tend to disrespect women altogether, even the ugliest of women. Because they know what we have 😉. So don’t ever think he’s trying to push you away. Yes there’s truly awful men, but that’s a select few.

Reciprocate by picking on his pictures or by tickling him. Or by jump-scaring him. Or by pretending to choke him. Or pinning him down. Or make fun of the size of his D. My parents do this all the time and they’ve been together a lifetime

[EmyyWolf]

Although if it truly is affecting you, just cry and he’ll stop. He will get the hint.

But know he doesn’t mean any harm. He’s with you for a reason.

[Gibbons44]

Why are girls so bent on expecting they get told they are beautiful regardless of how they look or behave?

Some are really well behaved and good/healthy looking (e. g. not overweight, not couch potatos) - some are neigher well behaved nor good looking, much like guys.

To use such a word, even if jokingly - he probably doesn't like you. The thing is that far too many girls assume they are high value and love breaking up when unhappy - guys are expected to assume being lower value and to never hurt her feeling - it's a load of b. s. whilst she liberaly hurts his.

[malwins]

Yeah i would not tolerate that kind of behacvior

[Anonymous]

look... if you keep saying "ew no i'm ugly" when he keeps saying "you look pretty" obviously his response will turn into agreeing with you because you're being super annoying... how are you going to say "no i'm ugly" and have him not say "okay yeah you are then". like what do you want woman?

[Sasha0426]

Re-read your post again.
He called you beautiful then you called yourself ugly. If you’re going to keep doing that, don’t expect people to keep saying, “No, you’re not ugly,” because they’re going to get fed up.
Sounds like he got fed up and just found it easier to agree with you.

[LickwidSkie]

I think he was joking. With that being said I wouldn't joke with a woman like that for the same reason you're asking... it can be hurtful and instill them with doubt.

[DermalPunch]

I've had many gy friends and been marroed. Never been teased like that and I've had my provwrbial balls capital B busted. That's wouldn't sit well with me.

[Anonymous]

You called you ugly. Ans since he didn't know you are a mental case, he assumed you were being humorously self deprecating.

This isn't on him. this is entirely on you, you just want to blame him.

[HookingSwan]

I think he was playing along with you

You were the one that started by saying you were gross...

[UncleBilll]

We would need your picture to actually tell you if you're ugly or not.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Most likely he was just joking, but I ain’t sure that’s a nice type of joke.

[Princessofpersia]

He was wing sarcastic because u said u were ugly. He clearly thinks ur beautiful

[Anonymous]

Your the one who kept calling yourself ugly and you allowed him to call you ugly cause you thought of yourself ugly.

[Manuel2]

Timr to leave. It is the dyart of control and bullying. He may start to hit you soon

[spartan55]

Girl wtf he was obviously JOKING.

[WhitneySnow]

He was just kidding

[CoolCatMar1]

Omg this is sad... Talk to him about it

[Dat_Kid]

He's being sarcastic, joking

[Christoff92]

Well you in anyway sarcastic and arrogant to him?

[Mikael818]

No girl is ugly. Every girl is beautiful.