How long have you known him? Usually when this happens- he was single at the time of meeting you, but then thought you were only interested "as a friend" then afterwards- the guy will think there aren't other opportunities which makes him rush back to his ex.
- The same goes for women. Loneliness Remedy = Go back to previous relationship. It's an innate behavior.
So what I'm insinuating is that when you like someone- make a move and then find out where you stand. You don't have to come on strong or let them know that you like them. Here are some reasonable examples:
"Hey I'm growing fond of you, where do you see this going with me?"
"I have feelings for you beyond being friends, do you share those feelings?"
etc
This way- you know upfront (before establishing a large emotional attachment) whether or not the man is single. Granted, it's always best to assume he is taken, but still act on it none-the-less. This will give you the mindset of SHARING rather than taking. (You SHARE about yourself before ((taking->>)) looking for a relaitonship with that person.)
If you wait too long- people move on. It's a hurtful truth- but often times we second guess an opportunity, which leaves us twiddling our thumbs and wondering "what if" in regret. Instead, just grow a pair and ask him out- I mean.. What's the worst that will happen? She freaks out because you didn't know he was taken...?
Lol- simply say "Hey, I didn't know he was taken and I honestly appologize. Your a lucky woman and I'm not trying to take your man."
Best regards,
ArtistBBoy
It seems that way with everyone anyone seems to like, you've just got to keep your chin up no matter what you feel or however bad it does hurt. Every, and I mean every girl I've liked, taken. Period. I turn around, and hit another wall, but I keep on moving. I guess the best way you can determine if a guy you like has a girlfriend is to ask him in the most non-intrusive way possible. Assume he has one. If he doesn't, great. If he does, move on to the next one. Remain optimistic, but don't get your hopes up. I do believe you will find someone. :)
A lot of guys and girls look amazing when they are unattainable. It is so much easier to put someone on a pedestal when you don't really get to know them, because, well they are attached and not acting that way with you.
As far as this guy you were interested in, shame he is not single but it is never a good idea to be with someone who would leave one relationship to jump into another. So, don't feel bad that you did not show enough interest, you did fine. Just bad timing. Hang in there, you will meet someone great and single.
WHOA. First of all I find it very odd that before you guys went to the movies and lunches and all that such(texing and talking) and he didn't mention a girlfriend, to at least set some boundaries. I see no problem in hanging out, its just odd that he never brought her up in the first place; unless there were reasons or he was hiding you from her. You shouldn't of had to "find out", that he was taken, he should have mentioned her. I'm sorry, you will find someone worth your time, that will be up front with everything. =]
i guess its because us girls are lucky. I am dating this amazing guy right now who treats me like no other, but I can guarantee you that someday you will find someone. the key is not to try so hard. BTW I will tell you now, don't be one of those girls that starts flirting with the taken guys because it happened to me once, and I hate her. besides, she's a terrible girlfriend to him so don't be that girl who sucks and is kinda like the rebound. Stay strong!
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Well first off, how your single boggles me because you're absolutely gorgeous. I got my heart broken 6 months ago and still can't recover from it. So I am going to turn the question around on you and ask where all the wonderful humble girls are?
Well first of all you might want to consider if you're really worthy of all these "great guys". You can't blame your problems on other people, if you don't want to be single, it's your fault to do something about it.
You have standards in men and those men typically aren't available. There's a reason why the dude wasn't single. What you like, others value as well. Keep your head up and be yourself. The best relationships are the one that is least expected.
i think that you should look at who your after and really think about weither or not that is the right choice and if it is don't give up keep looking just know when you think you find someone make shur there are no strings attatched to him or you will keep getting hurt. but from your picture your a attratcive girl and shouldint be to worryed about it you'll fined somone or thell find you just don't stop looking. "do or do not there is no try..." yoda attack of the clones
I feel for you. Everyone I like seems to have a girlfriend..It gets quite annoying =( I like someone right now ALOT.. but he has a girlfriend...Ugh. Anyways they are taken because they obviously are great guys..
Same reason all the girls I like are taken.
In reality there isn't really a reason, it just happens that they're in a relationship. Eventually you'll find one who is single.
nah, they are not taken
You are just barking at the wrong tree
Guys that are taken are more interesting because they are not looking for a date...
Well put a positive spin on it. You obviously have great taste in men for them all to be taken.
because most of us want what we can't have, but I still think it's easier for you girls since you get to do the choosing.
they aren't :) just be patient, a great guy will walk into your life before you know it
It is weird, I feel all the girls that I like are taken, so I feel for yah.
Because their great guys? relationships are like parking spaces all the good ones are taken and the ones that are empty are handicapped
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