My boyfriend called me fat? What should I do?

[helloitsme12]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two months. We went out for food with one of my female friends. As he was going to go order seconds he stood up and said," I am going to go bulk up." He's a very naturally thin guy so i just laughed at the thought of him being able to get bigger. I now that i'm not thin my anyone's imagination. But he hurt my feelings when he patted my stomach and said"I should just grab some of your fat and get it for me." I awkwardly laughed it off since my friend was there. I am not sure he meant to be offensive but at the end of the day the comment bothered me. Then the other part of me that thinks i'm being silly.

[Booklover9616]

My boyfriend is also skinny and I have a little bit of fat in my stomach reigon. He once patted my stomach and asked me how far along I was. I left immediately because I knew I was either going to cry or yell at home. Point is boys say stupid things that they think is funny and don't realize they hurt you. You need to tell your boyfriend that what he said hurt your feelings, and that you forgive him (if you actually do) but ask him to not say stuff like that ever again

[LivelyLotus]

What an inconsiderate mother f*****

It's a possibility that he interpreted you laughing as a stab at himself, which he then felt the need to sdo the same.

You are beautiful no matter your shape or size. I feel that it was very inappropriate on his part to say that to you.

[playdatesx]

If something he did bothered you, you should just bring it up and talk to him about it and let him know that made you uncomfortable. It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

It was offensive.

Can I ask if there's a chance that actually he's sensitive about being thin, and thinks he's too thin, and was hurt and (inappropriately) lashed out based on your laughing at him bulking up?

[OlderAndWiser]

What he did was very insensitive but it doesn't sound like he was intentionally trying to be offensive. Talk to him about it, tell him your feelings were hurt, and give him an opportunity to apologize.

[Jackblue]

Well he jokingly said you were fat, so perhaps you could jokingly say that his penis is really small.

[nymous1234]

It was a bad joke and he said it in front of your friend which kind of made it worse. Just let him know it upset you a bit, but dont make a big deal about it unless he refuses to be understanding -_- lol

[BellePepper]

It doesn't sound like he was trying to be mean. Boys can be stupid. Just say "hey it hurt my feelings when you said x. Can you not joke like that again" Decide what to do based on how he reacts.

[karahiri]

talk to him about it, tell him why it bothered you. no point just keeping it in if it's going to keep bugging you the whole time.

[sunnyflow]

Wow what the fuck. He doesn't deserve you. Like, really, how can he joke about his girlfriends insecurities? Leave him, you can find someone better who WILL respect you

[Oxxymoron]

I think maybe you're overreacting just a tad bit, but if it really bothered you that much maybe you should mention that he hurt you when he said that because it made you feel insecure

[justbanANNAz]

i swear i feel like some guys have NO idea how to talk to women lol! freaking kidding me -.-
i hope u let him know that u dont appreciate that hun.

[igfunnyboi]

He was joking. If you can't even take this joke, I'm not sure for how long you'll be in this relationship. Good luck.

[ShaeNielson]

Yea, because it's so fun to insult and pray on each others insecurities, awesome relationship.

[igfunnyboi]

She thinks of him getting bulky, laughs at it and no one is hurt. He makes a lighthearted joke about her being fat and she feels insecure. Very funny indeed.

[RedThread]

Wow.. No tact eh?
Talk to him about it if it bothers you. He wouldn't be with you if he wasn't attracted to you though.

[Amplify]

That's not always true, sadly

[RedThread]

@Amplify Why do you say that?

[Amplify]

While it's probably not that way with her, some guys will date unattractive girls for "slump busters", or because they give good blowjobs.

Sorry, not guys, fuckin' douchebaguettes.

[RedThread]

@Amplify Yeah that would be shitty

[fun-weird-guy]

Whether he meant to hurt or feelings or not he still should not have said what he did to you. Tell him how it made you feel and go from there.

[BrunetteNYC]

Tell him his penis is too small lol!! That will fix his ass.

[RachelBrigs]

I honestly don't think he meant that you ARE fat but that came out horribly wrong

[Theshaft169]

Maybe you should diet a bit? Or get a new boyfriend thats a chubby chacer?
Just a guess

[Ferrett321]

if you are offended by what he said or anything he says TELL HIM.

[NerdInDenial]

lol... I'm sorry; that's pretty funny. Anyway, you should probably express to him how that hurt you.

[gapminder]

Well, all you have to do is take a backhand and flick one of his balls. He'll be on the floor puking, and you can say "aww now you know how I feel".

[Victoria963]

That was actually very rude!

You should talk to him about it.

[SlightlyCrazy]

He's a dumbass, sorry your with him. *hug. You don't deserve that

[Anonymous]

If he thought fat was bad, and you are in his opinion fat.
Why would he be dating you?

It was just a joke! What's wrong with being fat?

[MrDetermined]

If it bothers you then say it to him. Express your feelings don't hide them.