You are suffering from a mental illness that goes by the name retroactive or retrograde jealousy.
I haven't read all the so called "advice" given by the other posters but I bet I could summarize it with little effort.
How's this:
"The past is the past"
"She's with you now."
"She chose you."
"Everyone has a past."
"You don't own her."
"Don't be sexist."
"You're being insecure."
"Man up.
"This is not HER problem, this is your problem."
"She should dump your ass and get with a guy that accepts her as she is."
"If you really loved her, you wouldn't feel this way."
(This last one is particularly ugly as its the opposite of the truth. You have to love in order to care.)
I could easily think of many more. All are equally useless to you. Just disregard all advice like this. Wrap it up in duct tape, throw it in a barrel, and burn it. It's all just that useless.
Now, on to your problem.
It would be useful for you to have some background information for context in which to understand your problem.
First, let's discuss the human brain.
The brain is often thought of as a single organ. It is more correctly viewed as a complex interconnected network of semi-independent systems. These systems have developed at different periods of time over the course of the evolution of complex life on our planet. The part of the brain that is giving you difficulty now is the newest addition to the base design of the brain: the cerebral cortex.
This part of the brain is involved in executive control, visualization, spacial reasoning and memory. This last bit is essential. It is memory that gives you a past, gives you awareness of your present and postulates a future. The significance of this fact lies in this statement: Brains without well developed memory lack a sense of the past.
This matters for your situation, bear with me please. The part of your brain that feels jealousy is a much older system from an evolutionary standpoint. Like all distress emotions, jealousy has the purpose of motivating action in the present. Fear motivates retreat. Anger motivates fighting. Jealousy motivates mate guarding.
Mate guarding is how you protect your reproductive mate from advances by another individual attempting to poach your mate. A very useful emotion provided that emotion is activated in the same time as the perceived threat. This is your problem in its essence.
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It could have been a lot worse, she could have gone on holiday and picked up a different guy every night, so having sex with one guy isn't so bad and seeing as she's only had four sexual partners at the age of twenty four, I wouldn't say that was a high number, if it was twenty men then I could relate to where you're coming from man.
If the relationship is good, you're happy, she's happy, you have no reason not to trust her and doubt her then let it slide because this will break your relationship if it's allowed to fester and manifest into a wedge that separates you.
As a guy that doesn't engage in casual sex and rejects women who have had a lot of casual sex, I could look past this one time, so I think you can too.
If she were to go on vacation alone would you trust her? Or would you be paranoid that she'd be cheating? A relationship is built on trust. If you can't trust her then why be with someone you cannot that.
You knew she had sex in the past and she clearly didn't like them since she's not with them now. She's with you so she must like you. What is there to be upset about?
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It's hard to get over the idea that someone has a different moral code than you. But if you want her to be your future, you need to get over her past.
Did you have a past before her? Are you upset that she did it or jealous that she could and you couldn't? (Because sometimes this is all it really is about)
What ever the reason is, if you want her to be your future it will never happen if you have animosity towards her for things she did before your time. Most women have one night stands, it's part of their need for attention and feeling like they are desired. Her morals will change to reflect yours as long as you guys are together but if you do toss her aside she will not have any problem doing what she has done again.
I have had a similar relationship where I didn't find out until 2 years in that she had 18 partners before me, I quickly lost interest in her for her lack of moral dignity and our relationship ended... she then went right back to being dirty and slept with 5 more guys she didn't know within a short period simply because she could. Women are chameleons, their morals are that of the people they are around at the time."More mystery, less history." That's the guideline. :)
Now that you know, though, the only reason to be concerned would be if she were still likely to want or be okay with casual sex partners. As long as the past is the past, then there's nothing to be bothered about. And personally I wouldn't want a girl who didn't have a past. :) As long as she doesn't look back on it with longing, that's cool with me.
Sounds like a great chick. Enjoy and take care.She's with you now so focus on that. She did what she did but why does it matter anymore? Don't let something you can never change bother you so much and don't let it ruin the relationship you have with her.
She felt comfortable and trusts you enough to share her past with you, I think it's great she is communicating with you. She didn't do anything wrong and it's not a good idea to judge her based on her past.What the hell is wring with u she didn't di anything while she was with u and she is just bring so fucking honest do u know how much u r lucky to find a girl who is realky honest with u, dont waste it by being paranoid and a fool
She's 24, only had three previous sexual relations, and she's been honest with you about the circumstances of each one. A reasonable man cannot ask for more.
Eh at least she was honest about it. Many girls who had casual sex lie or don't say anything. 4 isn't a huge number.
You idiot.
Would you rather a girl that was so unattractive she couldn't land a guy even when she was in vacation?
Get over yourself. 4 partners by the age of 24 isn't anything.Best way is for you to rethink the way you see sex.
If you were alone... on vacations... wouldntt you want to bang someone? To have ffun?
Im using these terms not to hurt you, but to make you understant this is mere necessities that we have... waaaaay distant from love.
You know how things are with us, sometimes we just wish we could don it, right now and here. Same with girls, same race xD
Accept what she told you as a gift and a proff of her wish to share her life with you.Well, let's flip it around.
DO you wish she had a lower sex drive, or enjoy the drive she had?
If you were single and a hot girl you were getting along with had wanted to sleep with you, would you really have turned her down?I think her behaviour does not show any signs of untrustworthiness with respect to modern Western culture. She was single, so she did what she wanted to do.
Then be with her. If you love who she is then you love the path that lead her to this point.
Honestly i would not date her. I also would not trust her, she is a slut to me.
Just dump her and go back to being friends
How many have you been with?
I don't think you can trust any girl
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