Not really. The problem (usually) isn't that a guy is nice, it's that a lot of guys that are really nice also have a lot of other traits that are seen as less than exciting. That pushover, less strong... basically less "alpha". But just because a lot of 'alpha' type males are assholes (especially when younger) doesn't mean that they all are. There are some nice guys that are also fairly confident and dominant. And usually when a woman is attracted to 'bad boys', they either bounce around through a series of bad relationships, or they manage to find one of the 'bad boys' that is actually a nice person, and they get to have their cake and eat it too.
It is very rare that someone is actually attracted to cruelty or genuine asshole behaviour in and of itself. It is much more common to be attracted to the dominant, confident behaviour that often accompanies it. Being a kind person is usually not what makes a person seem boring. Being submissive can make a person seem boring. Being a milquetoast definitely makes a person seem boring.
I mean, if it is the actual trait of kindness that you don't like, then yes, that's probably bad. But it is usually a case of the woman being attracted to confident men, at the heart of it, when these things arise.
It's hard for me to answer.
I'll maybe highlight what I think is the core challenge, which is that we currently raise young men in society to be well behaved, polite, pushovers. That makes them inoffensive, they don't cause problems, fit into the school system well, and don't attack people. All wonderful things. The problem is that the guys who are naturally assholes keep being assholes anyway. And we are now doing a terrible job and molding basically decent and caring boys into being strong, confident -men-.
So you're surrounded by pushovers and jerks, and obviously, the jerks are more attractive.
What could you do?
- You could pursue the few guys who are actually confident, funny and fundamentally decent. Not always nice, but decent. The problem is those guys are now rare, especially at your age. As you get older there will be a few more, but they will typically have had to 'figure it out' for themselves'. Not only are they rare, but you'll be competing for them.
- Date jerks, get treated like crap
- Date nice boys, encourage them to read up on how to be proper men, stand back, see if they start becoming real men.
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Well, just think of it this way, can you honestly see your self having a life of falling for men who at times abuse you, either physically or emotionally and take you for granted each and every day until they break your heart, yet can be humorous, confident at times. Not every nice guy is boring, some can be very interesting and adventurous. Take me for example, I am a nice guy, but I won't let anyone push me around nor me family, mess with my family or friends best start running as fast as they can before I can get them. I'm a romantic at heart and a adventurer at heart and enjoy things others do, treating a lady right won't stop me from boring the pants off people haha.
Its not immoral, but don't complain about how your boyfriends jerk or complain you can't find some one since you have found exactly what you wanted. Thats the only real issue, not that you like "assholes" but complaining about it as if it wasn't a your choice. Its a matter of balanve what matters more, them being funny or them being nice.
Well, honestly speaking you are not the first woman or the only woman who says that you find nice guys boring, that's a common sentence for many women in general, women in general do find nice guys boring, unattractive. Very few women would be such who would say otherwise.
Hence it's not strange to hear that you find nice guys boring.
Probably, I mean just understand what you're getting into. Don't make excuses or look to play victim when your relationships don't work out. As long as your good with that, then it's not a problem.
It's not bad, but just don't dare settle down with one when you are past your prime and your pussy is mashed up because that will make you a hypocrite.
Wait till you are in your 30s.. then let's talk about this topic.. mmk?
Wild guy that is respectful and gentlemanly. That is ideal, yeah?
Lmao yeah if you want drama then don't complain about drama.
Nice guys are boring. Why not date a fun exciting guy?
More pussy for me. I'm fine with it ;)
Suit your self..
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