Wakey wakey from your dreamy state.
Love has made you blind and stupid. Your boyfriend has latched onto you as a source of money. His credit card may not actually decline. He could have simply put in the wrong pin number as well. Either way, I suspect he has never paid you back for the money he spent on your credit card. Or at least, he's only paid back a fraction in an attempt to make it LOOK like he's repaying you, before asking to use your card again.
Simply put, he believes your expenses are now joint. So your money is now his money... but this doesn't go both ways. His money is not your money.
You need to grow a set of balls and refuse him until he pays you back what he owes already. Otherwise, if your one-sided relationship breaks down, you'll be left single and with a debt that will never be repaid by him. You are being played girl.
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He is either piss poor, retarded, or the card his bank is associated with has declines and/or mass compromises often.
I would strongly advise you to tell him to stop doing that on purpose and to manage his funds better. If he has the funds and his card just keeps getting declined, he should pay you back sometimes instead of making you pay for everything. He seems like he's using you because since you did it once, you'll keep doing it in his eyes.
Lay down the law and make SURE he has money on his card with steady income and stop blowing his money making you pay for it.
It is a big deal because he isn't being finically responsible and after the first time of his credit card declining- it isn't a glitch he could easily see his balance online. 10th time.. I would always make sure he had enough after the fricken 2nd time, you have the right to be mad because its your money that you work for, and its not like you feel like you should pay for these things as sure you can be generous however it's a routine and its annoying.
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No, you have no right to be mad. Either, a) his financial institution sucks/he needs a replacement card, or b) you're codependent (seriously, research it) and won't leave someone with spending addictions, or c) your perception is off.
Differences in financial habits are a common cause of divorce. If you're not on the same page, you're a walking statistic. Don't do the codependent thing and manipulate him into doing what you want, find someone who 'is' what you want or accept the way things are.stop covering for him then. if you enable his behavior he's clearly not going to stop.
it's like a child. if they behave naughtily crying and ranting because they want dessert and you positively re-enforce it, like give them candy to behave, they don't learn the lesson.Uh... if he's a psychologist, why can't he get work? Or do you mean he just has a psychology degree? I have one of those... it's borderline worthless unless you get an advanced degree to go with it and then get the appropriate licensing.
He should install an app where he can check his money.
The question is why do you keep paying for him?
Yes you have a right to be mad...
Stop paying for him!
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