Husband makes me feel so self conscious?

[Anonymous]

My husband is always secretly liking naked pictures of girls on instagram i know he is because i've caught him a few times. he mainly looks at the ones with girls who are skinny have big fake breasts or girls who are skinny with a big bottom etc. it bothers me because he knows that it hurts me when he does that, I'm struggling with my weight right now (I'm overweight) and I'm trying to lose weight to get healthy. so far i have lost about 10 lbs and he doesn't even seem to care when i tell him. He always asks me why I'm trying to lose weight and it's because I feel like he doesn't think I'm beautiful or that he would want me to look like them. I gained a lot of weight after my miscarriage and I'm very self conscious about my body and how fat I am. Is it bad that I feel hurt when I see him liking pictures like that or am I in the wrong? Do all men do that?

[Curious-gal]

I'm so sorry for your lost of the baby, but your husband is a jerk (plain and simple). I know that you feel hurt right (I would too) about him looking at another women's. But he should not being cheating on you mentally because it leave room for future cheating. A marriage is about love, forgiveness, respect and kindness. By your storytelling he sound unsupportive to your cause of losing weight. We are human in different forms and images you should lose weight for yourself, so you can feel better and healthier and beautiful. He should support you in every endeavours you take not put you down by saying why you need to lose weight. But be strong and convey or confront your husband in how you feel toward him looking at other womens. Communicate don't go around the bushes. If he love you.. truly love you then he will hear you out. If this does not work go to a local Christian church and just speak to a pastor or his wife they will help you. Remember marriage is hard but their is joy in it too. I will pray for you.

Remember these words:

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[cooookkiiee]

My boyfriend likes a lot of pictures of skimpy dressed women with big boobs and butts and good makeup. And he also talks to me about his celebrity crushes. And it does make me feel somewhat self conscious. But I feel that of course he thinks they are pretty because they are but it's just a simple like button. Whereas I am the one he is with. I am the one he truly cares for because I am the one who is there for him. And he tells me he likes me the way I am even when I mention something about losing weight. Your husband is your husband for a reason. He made a vow to love you no matter what. It's a man's instinct to like women and nowadays to like things like that on social media. Just talk to him. Tell him what's on your mind. Communication is key.

[Black92]

Yeah I'm with Steve on this one. That kind of stuff that he is doing is disrespectful and its best you take action now and tell him you aren't comfortable with him looking at those pictures.

Accept the things you want and don't accept the things you don't want.

[stevethepervert]

Why does he have time to do this?

Just drag him to the bedroom ( or anywhere really ) and make him feel like no one else would do the things you do for him or too him. Leave him so tired he will not want too look else where.

[Cmasterson]

Ofcourse you're in the right to feel bad when you see him liking pictures of other females because he's barely even showing you attention. You really have to sit him down and tell him its not okay, and that he's not showing you any attention which makes you feel like shit, and if he truly does care he will change.

[pavlove]

lol no one can make you feel anything you don't choose to feel

[Anonymous]

Lose weight and he'll stop. Or find a man that likes chubby girls.