Do you think I was wrong?
My girlfriend slapped me, so I slapped her back, was I wrong?
Do you think I was wrong?
No, you were not wrong. No one has a right to put their hands on you and I believe you actually did the right thing.
In fact, I had a similar situation occur with my wife - we've been together for going on 17 years now. We were arguing in a car, she got pissed, and bit the FUCK out of my arm. Omg it hurt so fuckin' bad.
I knocked the fuck out of her. I didn't punch her - I slapped her very hard. That was the only time she ever hit me and it's the only time I've ever hit her.
When a woman puts herself into a man's shoes, she needs to be prepared to be treated like a man. Just because she has boobs and a vagina gives her no 'extra' right to slap you and not expect to be smacked in return.
And if she slapped you first, you slapped her back, then she's crying that it's all your fault - then she needs to get her shit straight.
In fact, this society has raised their children to believe women are to NEVER be hit no matter what, but that's not how it should be. If a woman punches me, I'd like to think I'd punch her back. Granted, I would never punch a woman with all of my strength, but that's beside the point.
If you hadn't slapped her back, and did nothing, guess what would continue to happen later on down the line? She'd continue hitting you and it would get worse.
Granted - if you cheated on her or did something fucking horrific and she was flipping out, and you KNEW you deserved a good smack, then you shouldn't slap her back. But if it's just an argument of sorts and she slaps you. . . it is your duty as a human to strike back, because if you don't, she'll think she can do it over and over and over again.
Peace.
That's because it's already game over for the average woman. If you punch back another guy, he think he's going to back away in tears saying ''I've learned my lesson''... more than likey the fight goes on till either someone stops eventually or someone separates them and it ends in a draw. I'm not the average Jane. Granted I'm not the one hitting first unless it's a bully I beat up not so long ago, I wouldn't back out of a fight... even if it was me starting it.
I would actually take the challenge and go on till the end... in my mind if for some reason I start something, I will finish it in any way possible (and if it's someone just as skillful well then nothing wrong with fighting dirty to win)...
@MelbaB I guess I don't really understand your position based on what you've said here. lol.
"That's because it's already game over for the average woman" - meaning what, exactly? That can go either way in terms of you agreeing or disagreeing with what I've said here.
If you're a chick or a dude, and you hit a chick or a dude, then you should expect to get hit in retaliation. If you don't want to be retaliated against, then don't hit in the first place and it won't happen, but don't go crying and whining when you do.
And I'm not suggesting that when a woman hits a dude that he should just start wailing on her and not let up until she's limp on the ground - that's wrong, because that's not the purpose of hitting a woman back. The purpose is to let her know 'don't fkin' do that or I'll hit you back'. The purpose isn't to physically harm her - at least not in my opinion.
"but don't go crying and whining when you do."
LOL... actually nope, yes I would expect retaliation just like I did with that bully (he was an older teen bullying a mentally disabled kid by pushing him again a wall and nearly triping him) but I ended up still beating him up. But that's something the average woman wouldn't be able to do.
There are actually a couple of us that can go several rounds so nope, I'm not the crier type.
That one is for coming off rude and trying to push your views on others, and jumping to conclusion about me being a feminist.
@Vesuvius87 I'm rude to anyone suggesting people should sit there and get hit on by someone else just because it's "wrong" to hit back. Please. Head back to your cave.
Who the heck are you to impose your views on others?
@Vesuvius87 By 'disagreeing' with you, I'm "imposing" my views on you? Need I remind you that this is MY opinion thread?
Besides, I'm not forcing anyone to view my opinion as any more than it is. If you think it's okay for a woman to hit a man, but not for the man to hit the woman, then by all means - believe that, but you're flat-out wrong and are using a double-standard.
Like or or not, I don't really care. You're wrong. I have no issues admitting when I'm wrong or when I might 'not' be right, but in this case, as a human being, I'm not wrong.
Oh my god you poor little shrinking violet men, sooooo scared of a woman slapping you !
Excuse me but in no where in my post I stated that. I think it's wrong for anyone to hit and also think it's wrong to further escalate the situation.
If I had kids, I would teach them both (boy or girl) to walk away first, leave the abuser.. to never hit back as a first resort when not needed. Now if their life depended on it and it's not possible at all to walk away because the attacker was following them, about to hurt them badly or hurt a loved one (aka real self-defense) then yes do what you gotta do in that case.
By arguing with everyone who holds a different opinion and calling them names (like you did with some other male poster as well too) you're imposing your views on others.
Yes. You were wrong. Doesn't matter why she slapped you first or even that she was the first to hit you. You probably said or did something pretty wrong if she slapped you. Apologize for hitting her, admit that it was a knee-jerk reaction, that you should have kept your composure and that you should have been man enough to just step away for a while and cool off. Promise her that it will NEVER happen again, and don't expect her to forgive you right away, even if you really mean that you're sorry and genuinely feel terrible about the whole thing. If she forgives you immediately and you to make up... thank your lucky stars and never make that mistake again. Then you need to stay calm and talk to her about what you did to make her mad enough to slap you in the first place. Tell her it bothers you that she hit you and that you won't allow her to hit you even if she's drunk but that next time, you're just going to step away from the situation until things cool down and she's sober again. It's not wrong to be upset that she hit you but that never gives you the right to hit her back even if it's just playful. Best of luck.
It depends, are you married to her, if not no big deal, if you are married to her shame on you because she's your lover not your friend. As for me, I don't think it wise to even think about it, you slap me, you'll limp for a week. You don't believe me, don't make a fool of yourself. Don't even entertain your curiosity, times are changing I'm a fit woman, no I'm more than fit, my hubby wanted it this way now he has to sleep with it. I would never lay a hand on my hubby and he would never give me lip enough if he knew what's good for him. Yeah, when you are the stronger you hold all the cards, I'm no bully my hubby should be so lucky.
The word 'girlfriend' suggests I am not married to her
Yeah with a couple exception of me and other fit women who can handle our own with a man, it's already game over for the average woman once the guy hits back.
I've only hit a bully once and he gotten beaten when he tried hitting back. He was bullying a kid with mental disabilities, backing him against a wall. If hypothetically speaking, I was the one throwing the first hit for no reason at all, I wouldn't quit the fight like most women who would already be crying when hit back... actually I'm good at blocking hits too.
@MelbaB you go girl!!! Yeah, the younger girls are the braver. My hubby knows better than to get out of line. If he even thinks he can lay a hand on me, he will walk with a limp. I've never punched my hubby out, but he has felt a back hand and he doesn't like it. Angering me is not a good idea and he knows it! You go MelbaB
You two both fucked this one up. Bzzzzzzt. Simon gives you a big red X.
You fucked this one up, by not IMMEDIATELY ending up in a horizontal position. In the bed, on the cold hard floor, who even fucking cares where. Slapping the shit out of each other, and fucking the shit out of each other. Cold icy hot fiery angry spiteful bite-yr-lips fuck-you-bitch fuck-you-asshole amazing multiorgasmic hatefuck sex.
Next time y'all get on that, y'hear me now?
Gonna be gooooooood.
Oh, and you just might discover some pretty deep shit about exactly who you are, sexually, too. As a collateral benefit.
@ArtDent McKayla is not impressed.
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My girlfriend slapped me, so I slapped her back, was I wrong?
Not in my opinion however if you're the type to support the slut double standard I see no validity to me in you complaining or saying it's not your fault since both double standards use the logic that since it's weaker for one sex to do something (gals to hurt guys/guys to get sex) that the other gender is slighted for the same behavior the opposite gender gets a pass on.
Why did I imagine something like
Girl slaps guy
Laughs
Guy gently taps girl
Oh mer gawd call the police fucking abusive boyfriend I don't want you in my life you scumbag😂😂😂😂
What are you even talking about 😂
I was playing out the scenario un my head of how I imagine it went
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Are you fuck. No offence mate but she sounds like a spoiled brat. That princess servant complexion some of them get. You want to be a doormat getting treated like shit keep letting her hit you. It's not manly letting somebody slap you about. You might think your tough taking it with a smile but it's not the physical pain thats the problem to the respect that's taking a beating. Everytime you let her do that she respects you less. I'll tell you your future. More slaps, more demands, treating you like a fool in company and eventually finding out she's cheating on you. But carry on being a hard man if that's what you like
Yes, you were wrong. You both were wrong but you were wrong in a way that makes the situation even more unforgettable and will eternally make you look like less of a man. No, it's not all your fault. She's the one who chose to get physical and she needs to take accountability for that. It's hard but sometimes you have to let other people be all the way wrong so that the situation doesn't bite you in the ass.
Bullshit. If he didn't smack her back, she'd keep hitting him and it would gradually get worse. That's how relationships end up abusive. One slaps the other and the other does nothing about it, then it's "oh I'm so sorry baby, I'll never do it again" - until they do it again.
And that's a two-way street. It happens to men and women. Put an end to it now, let the partner know you won't put up with that shit and that you'll hit back, and it'll stop it before it gets worse.
"You both were wrong" - wtf?
@misscocobutter You absolutely should hit him back. I believe in equalizers in this world, so if he slaps you and you aren't a very 'strong' woman, smack him somewhere it will hurt as bad.
You should never let a man slap or hit you without retaliating. A man should never strike you first.
The reason he didn't get to punch me was I had to go inyo hiding when I left him. (From my own house)
@BigPunny That may sound correct in your mind but in actual reality, this woman is a random stranger to you. You don't know here and you were not there to witness the situation unfold. Your comment is pure speculation.
They both were wrong. Partners are not supposed to lay hands one each other. He's not right for crossing a boundary that should never be crossed just because he got upset. Some people want to act like just because turning the other cheek can be extremely difficult means that choosing the less disciplined, less self-controlled, less honorable decision is justified.
@miscocobutter If your boyfriend hits you, you shouldn't hit him back not out of fear, but out of wisdom. Respond with a look that he never forgets and let him be the guilty one who feels like chit. Escalating the situation out of pride and anger is the wrong choice to make. People who are in an intimate relationship with each other as significant others shouldn't be hitting each other. Some things are bigger than your pride.
Obviously, whether the OP is telling us the whole story is up for debate, but I have no reason to assume he's lying - BUT - that's beside the point. The point is that in any situation where one person hits another, the person being hit SHOULD retaliate in kind.
Why should the man sit there and be pummeled by some angry woman, and what makes it wrong for him to hit her back? You didn't really explain why he's wrong for hitting her back. Does it sound like a great relationship? Well no, but issues arise in many forms - this is one of them. If it isn't addressed early on, it can become something very bad. You can fix dysfunctional, but once violence becomes habit, it's typically not fixable. She knows he will hit back - she won't hit unless she wants to get hit in return.
Why is that wrong?
Ugh - I hate that this thing scrolls all the way to the top for each response, so I copied it this time because I forgot to address it before:
"He's not right for crossing a boundary that should never be crossed just because he got upset."
The boundary was already crossed when she hit him - he's not crossing a boundary because she's already on the other side of it, and he didn't claim to have hit her 'just because he was upset' - he hit her back because she hit him first.
What you've done here is made inferences of your own, yet you've failed to tell us what your personal agenda is here. You're assuming the guy is lying, which is quite apparent from you claiming "I don't know" and that I'm 'speculating' - which isn't true. I'm basing my view on what I've been given as evidence. Is there more? Maybe? But that doesn't change the fact that when one person hits, that person deserves to be hit back. Period. End of story.
"You sound like you don't know how to function in a healthy, progressive relationship that won't end up incredibly damaged. " - and now YOU'RE doing what you claimed I did. You're making assumptions that are far from the truth, and had you cared to figure it out before making such a statement, you could have read through my myTakes, etc. to figure it out.
I've been married to the same woman for nearly 17 years. Our 17th anniversary is this June. We have two beautiful kiddos, we're both very happy.
So I know a lot more about what it takes to have a happy marriage than 90% of the people on this site - including you.
And I ran into this problem with my wife. . . we had been together about 3 years when it came up. We were arguing, she bit me extremely hard (so hard I bruised and bled), and I smacked the crap out of her (slapped). She never got physical with me again, and nor did I. She apologized for doing it, I felt bad for having to smack her, and it was a healthy understanding.
@BigPunny The OP's brief original pot never mentioned anything about his girlfriend continually hitting him if he didn't smack her back. You made all of that up on your own with no indication from the OP's information about his girlfriend.
I don't have a personal agenda here, lol it's not that deep. Just gave my opinion on the topic. I also never assumed the OP was lying. You seem to be over-analyzing then jumping to really dramatic, emotional conclusions.
I'm not sure why you feel the need to keep repeating your opinion that it's okay for a man to hit the woman back because I'll never agree. There's no amount of repeating or talking you can do to make me think that it's acceptable and justifiable for a man or woman to also decide crossing a major boundary out of pride and anger. You cannot shove your opinion down my throat. Humbly accept that I do not agree with you and I never will. If you're seeking validation for your viewpoint on this, then you're in the wrong place, love.
"The OP's brief original pot never mentioned anything about his girlfriend continually hitting him if he didn't smack her back." - because he hit her back.
Do I really need to put a 'derp' here for you?
"You seem to be over-analyzing then jumping to really dramatic, emotional conclusions. " - says the person personally attacking my marriage? Lol. You really are someone special aren't you.
There's nothing dramatic or emotional here - it's a matter of simple logic that you don't seem to grasp. Someone hits you - you do nothing - they will hit you again in the future. Someone hits you - you hit them back - they likely will not hit you again in the future.
You are also placing all the 'issues' on the guy here - even though you claim they're "both" wrong, your focus has been solely on the man. Yet I'm the one being emotional and dramatic?
Sounds like someone doesn't like being disagreed with when she can't defend her position logically and reasonably.
I'd also like to point out that you continue to respond, which means you're in it 'deep' enough to defend your position, which makes you seem fake when you claim you don't care.
I am going to make an assumption here - you were abused by a male in your life at some point, whether it was your father or significant other, I don't know. But I assume you have more of a personal stake in this than you let on given your responses to my disagreement.
"Actually love, your whole presence on my post is quite emotional and dramatic.
... I didn't attack your marriage or even know you were married? lol! what did I just say above this line? I'm not in anything 'deep' lmao! what is up with your over the top, dramatic verbiage?"
Because you 'read' my posts as dramatic or emotional does not mean it is so. You can read and infer all day long, but I'm just doing what I always do - argue with someone that is wrong (imho).
And yes, you did insult my marriage when you said this: "You sound like you don't know how to function in a healthy, progressive relationship that won't end up incredibly damaged."
Funny how someone can say something as insulting as that, then flick her hair and be like "Oh, I wasn't insulting you."
You can pretend you don't care all you want, but those words tell a completely different story.
@BigPunny
Your assumption is false, love. You see, in actual reality you do not have the miraculous ability to form legitimate, valid, truthful pasts of random, momentary strangers that you have briefly met or heard of. You attempted to compose a set of events that would have existed for the OP's situation as well. That's very egotistical to arrogantly decide that you have the formula to strangers you have not gotten to know. Not that it is any of your business, but I have never been abused. I was simply raised to know that some things are bigger than our pride. When it comes to serious relationships, I was taught to always take the high road even if it means swallowing your pride and walking away. So I don't believe in two people both being wrong and both carrying the burden of guilt and injustice.
@BigPunny I don't mind at all if you disagree with me. I feel no desire or need to change your opinion and I'm totally cool with us having opposing perspectives. It's not that I can't defend my position logically and reasonably. It's that I honestly, sincerely do not highly respect or value your mind or your mouth so you're not someone whom I'm interested in committing excessive thought, time, effort, and energy towards on a Friday as the day winds down.
@BigPunny
'And yes, you did insult my marriage when you said this: "You sound like you don't know how to function in a healthy, progressive relationship that won't end up incredibly damaged." '
Funny thing is when I made that comment, I had no idea you were even in a relationship let alone married. . . . .
"Funny thing is when I made that comment, I had no idea you were even in a relationship let alone married. . . . ."
Then it was simply an insult. Since I'm married, it was an insult to my marriage. Do you see how that works? It's almost like a math problem! You take one thing, add it to the next thing, and boom!
"That's very egotistical to arrogantly decide that you have the formula to strangers you have not gotten to know." - given that you responded to the OP and gave your two cents about how YOU felt - remember you clearly telling him that he was wrong? The very first words out of your fingertips - you told him he was wrong, then you insulted his masculinity on top of that!
Then you have the audacity to turn around and claim I'm being egotistical by telling this individual that he was not wrong? o.0
Do you even think before you begin typing?
@BigPunny Well darling, it's unfortunate that you feel insulted but truthfully, if you believe that future harmony is not more important than your momentary pride then your ability to provide and nurture a healthy relationship is questionable.
You are SO dramatic lol No chill. ;p Never insulted the OP's masculinity -_-
Oh, I never said I felt insulted. That's the thing about what you said - it was meant as an insult, which is what it was, but I don't get insulted by strangers from the internet.
Sorry to burst your bubble.
All I'm doing is pointing out that you're the one being dramatic and emotional by insulting the person disagreeing with you. And, of course, you'll pretend it wasn't, but we both know that's exactly what it was.
@Esplorare that's not new to me. From time to time, I get guys like BigPunny trying to shove their views and get overly defensive everything I say it's only acceptable to hit if your life is threatened and how I don't hit women back. They are the ones that contract themselves by saying they're just stating their opions but if that's so then that's with all this name calling such as pussy, whiteknight, mangina, etc...
@Roarky92 riiiight? Jeez, some people need to stop being so egotistically obsessed with shoving their views down the throats of others that they can't humbly accept when some random stranger genuinely has no interest in their lame, pointless, unproductive little e-hobby or has no desire to hear their defensive babbling where their opinion wasn't requested
@Roarky @Esplorare - wait a second - it has been 12 days since you posted this opinion, yet you're claiming that I'm being overly dramatic and sensitive?
I disagree with you, so you start calling names and attempting to assassinate my character, and I'm the dramatic one? LOL.
If you don't want your views and opinions openly debated, then you shouldn't come on a website designed for that very thing.
@BigPunny How does the fact that it's been 12 days since I posted this opinion make me dramatic and sensitive? It's quite simple, love: you are not a priority on my schedule. Because you are not a priority, I will get back to you when I see fit be it 12 hours or 12 days. If you are going to be a negative, dramatic, combative presence then don't expect me to give you time during my positive and/or busy days.
Quite frankly, you are overestimating your importance and overall significance on this post. As I already stated, I don't mind if you disagree with me but I am genuinely not interested in your whiny babbling not your obsession to be argumentative whenever someone doesn't agree with you.
You have decided that GAG is designed for debating but not everyone else shares that combative, argumentative view. Humbly accept when someone is not interested in your personality and self-presentation instead of lying to yourself about them not being able to handle a debate.
Because it's obvious how big of an impact it has had on you that you would come back and continue the discussion 12 days later. Lol.
It's actually quite funny.
And by the way, I haven't stated my importance. The only importance I hold is the importance you give me, and apparently, you find my opinion more valuable than others or you wouldn't have continued this ridiculous discussion. Maybe you feel threatened by my lack of caring about how you feel - who knows why you are the way you are. At the end of the day, I don't much care.
And if I'm so unimportant to you, then stop engaging in debate. If my debating and disagreeing with you causes you to feel negatively towards me, then stop. You should take your own personal feelings out of it anyway - it's the internet.
Both of you are equally wrong. One for starting it and the other one for further escalating the situation by slapping back.
Getting slapped by someone drunk is not a life-threatening situation.
Neither of you are ready for a relationship. Honestly both of you should break up.
We've been together 2 years nearly 3
Doesn't matter... once violence is introduced it changes the relationship permanently. What happened will stayed in your mind and she won't get over it either.
They aren't both equally wrong. If someone hits you - you fucking hit them back. Next time they want to raise a hand to you, they'll think twice about it.
"once violence is introduced. . . " - that's such bs. She did something stupid and she got what she deserved. If he had just let her hit him and done nothing, two things would happen 1) she wouldn't respect him as a man, and 2) she would start hitting him more often knowing he won't do anything about it.
I'm actually mind-boggled that you would suggest for anyone to sit there and 'take' physical violence 'just because'.
In fact, my wife tried that shit on me early on in our relationship and I knocked the piss out of her. Was the only time either of us ever hit each other. We've been together for going on 17 years now - happily, I might add.
Being a pushover does nothing but get you pushed over.
@BigPunny I don't appreciate you pushing your views on others. No, I don't share your views. Don't push it.
You want to do the ''tit for tat'' thing ok, not with me. I would leave someone that hit me even once. That's also not tolerating getting hit. By telling the asker that he did the right thing, you're clearing him out of his role in it, he's just as guilty as her, he's no better than her.
So what if it happens again. Hey, afterall my own parents are in such a dysfuctional marriage and there was a point my mother starting hitting back (in my case, he started) and guess what, it did nothing. They are still dysfunctional and something I wouldn't want in a relationship.
Ahh, you poor thing. You don't want someone giving their opinion, yet it's okay with you giving yours.
Well that makes sense why you would think it's okay for a female to hit a man, but not for that man to hit her back. You poor helpless little feminist you.
"By telling the asker that he did the right thing, you're clearing him out of his role in it, he's just as guilty as her, he's no better than her."
What world do you live in where anyone that is struck by another is 'wrong' for striking back? If someone hits you, you hit them back. If you don't, and that person is someone you see on a regular basis, they're just going to keep doing it because they know you won't do anything about it.
"I'd leave that person" - So you hit him, he hits you, you leave him for hitting you. . . wtf? LOL
And great - it's something you don't want in your relationship, but that doesn't mean he's wrong for having smacked her.
"I'd leave that person" - So you hit him, he hits you, you leave him for hitting you. . . wtf? LOL
OMG have you read my post. Where on earth did you even read that I would even start a physical fight? Yes, I would leave a boyfriend that hits me first... that's what I was saying. I wouldn't hit him back. I would leave and report him.
So my father is right to turn a verbal arugment into a physical by hitting her first. During my early childhood years, he always used to be the one hitting first. Many years later, he tried that and she hit back.
So according to you, it's also right for the man to hit first and still wrong for the woman to hit back? That only man get to decide to hit?
No, I know nothing about you. As for your father 'hitting' her first - that's wrong and your mother should've tried to kill him the first time he hit her out of anger. Then he probably wouldn't have went on hitting her, and if he did, then she should've left.
It's not dysfunctional if there's not a 'pattern' there. New couple, one of them strikes in anger and the other lets them know that's not acceptable and it never happens again - that's life. But as soon as it start being a recurring theme, that's when it's dysfunctional and the two should call it splitsville.
And I know all about abuse - my father used to choke me unconscious, black my eyes, squeeze my temples as hard as he could (which hurts like a mofo btw). Had I been able to defend myself, I would have. Had my mother tried killing him the first time it happened, it might not have been an issue. But she didn't and I blame her equally for that crap.
No. I don't understand why when a girl slap a man all is good and when the guy slap a girl it's a big problem.
She slap you, you slap her. Now dump her.
MHO right here aye
What you're dating is the average woman. Unfortunately, very few of us are the exceptions that can continue fighting a man even if hit back. I can actually block upcoming hits too.
That's tall for a girl, my girlfriend is 5'4/5'5 she's tiny next to me
This is just stupid, sorry. Tell your girlfriend if she handle her alcohol then she doesn't need to drink, and that she needs to grow up!
*cant
Doesn't she know what don't do onto others what she doesn't want done onto her?
You were right to slap her back, smack her and tell her that you deserve even rights.
If she punches you however, don't go that far.
Girls dnt like guys who take abuse (as in getting hit) from anyone, she probably would think bad of you if u just took it. Maybe hold her hands next time, but never slap her hard.
Funny you say that 'cause I just commented to some lady above that a woman is going to lose respect for a man that isn't going to stick up for himself.
Act like a pushover and you'll get pushed over. Someone hits, they should be hit back. It's pretty simple logic, but reading the responses from women, you'd think he and his buddies gang-raped her.
You scooped down to her level. I would have broken up and simply never speak to her again.
What if she slaps you again another time, is this how the relationship going to be like, both of you staying and hitting each other?
Fuck knows. I don't care if she hit me it's not that sore
It won't be we've been together for 2 years and she's not like that. That's what Happens when you drink to much
That's not something to break up over unless it becomes a pattern.
As for her slapping him again. . . she probably won't knowing that he's gonna' come right back at her with a smack. If he had done nothing, she definitely would be slapping him again in the future, but thankfully, he's not a pushover.
Yes you were wrong.
She was wrong too.
Two wrongs don't make a right. (But three lefts do!)
Sexual equality at it's best, but the girls do not see it that way.
Physical violence, especially in anger is wrong at any time though.
Yes you were. No reason to hit a woman is justified. And in some states both of you go to jail. Get out of the relationship fast. From experience drunks are not good as a partner.
Good thing I don't live in America then
Good for the women of America. I was a cop for 23 years and the only time I got violent was when a man struck a woman. I lived with a drunk for 3 years and when she slapped me I asked her if she felt better and she did 3 more times. I walked away because I am a real man
You allowing someone to stand there and smack you repeatedly isn't the sign of a 'man' - that's the sign of a pussy.
She kept slapping you because you wouldn't hit her back. If you had knocked the piss out of her the first time she hit you, I guarantee you she would think twice before hitting you again.
Again, you're a pussy, not a man.
Yes it was wrong as a man you shouldn't hit a woman even if she hits you first because they are a lot more delicate than you
no one should hit anyone if i punch my guy he can defend him seelf screw this dont hit a girl bullshit i get what i give, you were both wrong, she over reacted
Duhhhhh. You don't know the pre-k term : "don't hit girls " and "girls first"
I think your girlfriend is very immature. It did not matter what you chose as a response.
No it's her fault for hitting you.
Next time try to defend yourself instead of hiting back.
"Do you think I was wrong?"
She hit you first so no. Legally, you both are wrong.
Other than that, make sure neither of you hit each other again.
@BigPunny https://domestic-violence-law.com/self-defense/
Irrational Response Example: Marcia and Rex have been together for three years and fight regularly. Rex is very immature and is regularly doing things that drive Marcia crazy. One day, he has a lighter and is threatening that he is going to burn a piece of her hair. Rex is a regular smoker. Each time he would light a cigarette during that day he would motion his lighter close to Marcia’s hair and act as though he was going to singe it. While she is opening a letter, he acts as though he is going to singe her hair. This time, she uses the letter opener to stab him. Although Marcia may have felt genuine fear that Rex was about to harm her, her decision to stab him in response would most likely be considered a response that is not proportional to the threat, leading her to a possible conviction.
And you just proved me right with your little story: "response that is not proportional to the threat, leading her to a possible conviction."
Slapping someone that slaps you is proportional to the threat. Stabbing someone that is joking around with you is not. I agree that what the woman did in that story is not self defense.
What I also find funny is that you're claiming one has no right to defend one's self from a family member, because they're somehow both wrong, yet if it was a friend or a stranger, it's different.
Wrong.
I had my brother arrested for getting into a fight with me - he started it and admitted to starting it. He was arrested because he started it. I punched him back, yep. He was all bloodied up, yep. But no matter who it is - you have the right to defend yourself from bodily harm. Slapping a woman for slapping you first is justified. Granted, she can lie, but that's a different topic.
Breaking up with her is generally a better idea than establishing a tit for tat abusive relationship. I've seen those, they ain't pretty...
no if she's big enough to slap you she big enough to get one back
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