Just some background info, I'm a 20 year old female and my girlfriend is 21. We have been dating for 5 months. We are both full time students. I live on my own and she lives with her parents. I am by no means rich or financially comfortable but I do make more income than her.
When we were at our two month mark, I made the mistake of buying her an $800 phone. I didn't do it to impress her, I did it out of my heart because it was her birthday, her phone was old and broken, and I wanted to keep in contact with her while also making her happy.
Ever since then she has been asking me to get her things. It started off with small things: phone cases, supplies for school, lotions, etc. Then it quickly became more expensive items like designer bags, shoes, a camera, etc. to the point that I have calculated over $3,000 worth of physical gifts for the last 5 months. On top of that, I pay for our dates 99% of the time and she's never done any of the driving.
It has gotten to a point where she seems kind of ungrateful. She often forgets to say thank you and if I look at anything for myself she automatically assumes I'm trying to buy it for her. Recently she asked me to get her a $200 jacket and it didn't fit her. I was unable to get a refund for it and her response to me was "oh that sucks!". Then for valentines day I got her a pair of shoes she's been asking for and she told me "These shoes aren't exactly the color I wanted, but it's fine! When are you going to get us matching apple watches?"
She does do sweet and spontaneous stuff for me like surprising me with roses, candy, cute crafts that she's made.
I'm not expecting her to buy gifts for me but I would appreciate her at least pulling out her wallet and pretending like she wants to pay for dates. Or paying for a date every now and then.
When we were at our two month mark, I made the mistake of buying her an $800 phone. I didn't do it to impress her, I did it out of my heart because it was her birthday, her phone was old and broken, and I wanted to keep in contact with her while also making her happy.
Ever since then she has been asking me to get her things. It started off with small things: phone cases, supplies for school, lotions, etc. Then it quickly became more expensive items like designer bags, shoes, a camera, etc. to the point that I have calculated over $3,000 worth of physical gifts for the last 5 months. On top of that, I pay for our dates 99% of the time and she's never done any of the driving.
It has gotten to a point where she seems kind of ungrateful. She often forgets to say thank you and if I look at anything for myself she automatically assumes I'm trying to buy it for her. Recently she asked me to get her a $200 jacket and it didn't fit her. I was unable to get a refund for it and her response to me was "oh that sucks!". Then for valentines day I got her a pair of shoes she's been asking for and she told me "These shoes aren't exactly the color I wanted, but it's fine! When are you going to get us matching apple watches?"
She does do sweet and spontaneous stuff for me like surprising me with roses, candy, cute crafts that she's made.
I'm not expecting her to buy gifts for me but I would appreciate her at least pulling out her wallet and pretending like she wants to pay for dates. Or paying for a date every now and then.
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