Can you schedule with him and go together?
I would talk to him. At least express some discomfort about it. This sort of thing will come up pretty frequently, both ways, not just you being jealous for him but him for you too. It's a good practice for the future of your relationship.
In healthy relationships people are just open about this kind of thing together.
Make it sound like a light joke, not too serious. And just say something like: "Who is going to dare put her hands on my hot boyfriend? Honey (or whatever pet name you call him), I know that it's a thing people do, but it's a bit uncomfortable for ME. Do you think you can you get a guy to do it?" If you express yourself calmly and admit to being jealous, yet show that you truly trust him, you will be showing your strength of character, that you can handle a situation like a mature adult, that you are able to OWN your difficult emotions without drama. Make sure you include LOTS of kindness in your tone. Practice with a girlfriend or a neutral guy friend if you have one. The most that will happen if you do it right, is that he might get a bit annoyed, but he won't hate you, and he'll learn that he has to accept this kind of thing in a relationship. You can even show kindness by cooking his favorite food to take the edge off, or something like that. If you don't take care of the matter however, because you are truly sensitive about it, and it's a natural feeling to have, it will turn to frustration and will break out somewhere with more drama than either of you would like, and THAT would be a problem.
If you're looking for a long term relationship, you will HAVE to learn how to deal with this sort of thing successfully.
My husband expressed his concern about my seeing a male gynecologist, and I didn't really have any preference, so I just got a female doctor. I wasn't comfortable with him having a certain female coworker on his Facebook, and he deleted her. He may not even have a preference for a girl or guy masseuse, and will switch as a favorite to you.
However if you are frequently jealous, you'll have to start looking deeper into yourself, or him, or your relationship. See a counselor if that's the case.
One last question, how has he handled HIS jealousy so far in your relationship? That should give you some useful information on how to deal with this matter.
If it's another girl who doesn't need to be doing that then I would leave his ass. If this is a professional woman who gives massages though, then just try to remember that: It's a professional woman who gives massages, that is her job, nothing going on, she is probably not even interested in him like that.
If it still makes you really uncomfortable though, you could speak to your boyfriend about it and give him the massage yourself instead.
Umm... just don't be jealous? I mean, it's not like he's going to a strip club... it's a massage!!! It could be a 50 year old woman for all you know, and he's just going to be looking at the bed. If you're jealous about that, I don't know how you will be able to handle him going out or doing anything without your supervision. Relax!!! I'm telling you, being jealous is not going to help him or you, it's just going to make things a lot worse.
My masseuse is totally hot, but I am in a relationship with a great girl... so end of story.
I know I would be sick to my stomach and probably die of guilt if I ever did anything or allowed anything to happen, so it is not even a thought!
If your guy is stand-up, then I am sure he would feel the same way!
I see in your update that the masseuse asked some sexual questions. I think he needs to head to a new establishment. If it were me, it would be a no-brainer. I would can going to that place! Thanks for MHGuy and hope you got everything sorted out with your bf!
There is nothing to be jealous about. It's not like she is gonna give him a happy ending or kiss him. It's just a massage from a professional to a client. If it really bothers you that much, give him a massage yourself...;-)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!if you are the retaliatory type go get you a massage too... and ask for a muscular male masseuse, then ask the masseuse if he does "happy endings". that should stop the boyfriend from going to massage parlors if he really cares... or it will end in a breakup sooner than later and you still got the happy ending.
It's just her job, whether a female or male going in or not. She's just doing what she's paid to do has no emotions what so ever
I hate to say this, but your definition also works perfectly to describe a prostitute.
@Red_Arrow loool yes
You're psychotic.
Masseuses are professionals. And like it or not, it's a female dominated field. Go get one yourself.
Lol you made me choke on my coffee
He gets the massage from her, but you give him the happy ending!
but he be thinking about the other girl ;)
Just think its the womans job. She probably doesn't like it as much as you do
Remind yourself that if you jealous about him getting this done. It kind of means you don't trust your boyfriend 100%. So keep repeating that you do trust him and have nothing to be jealous about.
You remind yourself that she's just doing her job, she doesn't care about him at all. Just like male gynecologists - they don't choose that profession because they want to be able to look at vaginas all day.
You've never met a gynecologist in training/during their education, have you? XD
Get a couples massage. Be with him
Keep cool its just a Massage.. They are professionals, she will for sure not hit in you boyfriend.
He's getting a massage by a professional massage therapist.
Grow up and get over it.
it's just a massage. Tell yourself to quit overreacting and chill
Yeah, what if he goes to the doctor and the doctor is female and she examines him DOWN THERE? That's another girl touching your bf's junk!
What if he goes to get a haircut and a girl cuts his hair?
It's just a massage it's no big deal masseuses are professionals anyway they would never do anything sexual with a client not only could they get fired but they could lose their license.
You need a special license to massage people?
@ShayanMortazavi1 - Anybody can give a massage to someone. But to do it as a business is something that the government regulates to protect the clients. I do not know the requirements for all places, but most that I am familiar require the massage therapist to be licensed. That license requires an education in anatomy and physiology to understand a lot more than the average person about the body. For instance, certain conditions people may have can be harmed by massaging an area, and they must recognize that fact. So they have to learn many things that you might think only a doctor would need to know. That is why they must be licensed.
How about if he goes to a massage spa frequently with his male friends? Like 3 times in a week. And sleeps there because it is 24hrs 🥹 and seeing those therapist wearing above the knee dress? Should I still trust?
Convince yourself that it's only a massage. They will not be doing anything sexual. Masseuses are required to be professional and not seduce or get sexual with a client.
She is just doing her work it is not sexual in nature.
You should massage him instead... with nunchucks...
Tell him you saw how to do OT that way on youtube
She wouldn't be interested in him she would do it for guys and girls all the time and she would be professional about it
You should break up with him, he deserves someone better than you :)
Oh yeah? Do you know me? :) Maybe I overreacted, but it's funny that the massause asked about if he had someone and if he is sexually active.
Is he going to alleviate, stress, back trouble, or a muscle problem? If you're really stressed about it, see if he'd be up for a couple's massage.
tell him you don't want him to do it because you don't like it
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