This has a lot to do with the difference in how guys and girls generally communicate. Guys communicate as a means to an end, while girls like to communicate simply for the sake of it.
I would encourage you (and by that turn, all of us) to not put so much stock into a lower communication form like text. We women tend to read into EVERY little nuanced detail (like emojis or exclamation points- am I right ladies?) WAAAY too much, whereas I can promise you guys are putting little to no thought into their texts (and for good reason)!
Your life will be sooo much easier if you learn to diminish the role and importance of texting in your relationship and primarily rely on more fulfilling means of connecting such as talking in person or over the phone. Take it from someone who has been there, done that!
Not everyone likes to text. Sometimes my husband will text and I will respond with one word answers, there is nothing wrong I'm just ether busy or not feeling very talkative that day. Sometimes he will text me all day non stop while he's on his work breaks and other times I won't hear from him until he gets home.
I have text my husband five times tonight telling him that I love him and what I'm watching on TV, where I have ordered take out and a funny meme I saw on facebook. He's repsonse was 'haha. Love you too xx' which was fine with me! I've been known to get huge long paragraphs off him and I'll respond hours later (when I can be bothered) with 'okay x' LOL.
Maybe were just weird but as long as he's loving and sweet in person I wouldn't worry about it at all. That's all that matters 💖
Don't forget that its actually a superpower that most women have to read a conversation on 5 different levels all at once. We are so dependent on body language and facial cues to communicate that we add "emojis" and other forms of visual context into our texting to better understand each other.
Some people (mostly men) don't have this super power, and thus don't have the same need to insert cues into text messages. They understand conversation on one or maybe 2 levels and adding emoticons is likely just distracting to them
Yeah. I'm dating a girl right now who's always sending pics and emojis and stuff and it's not that I don't like them it's just that's not my texting style. I tend to just say what I need to say. In person I'm crazy expressive. Sometimes too much but if I tried to transfer that into text it just wouldn't come accross so I don't bother with it. Plus the only person I'd be texting like that would be the girl I'm dating. My guy friends would be like "dude why are you always sending emojis and pics and stuff" and my family only text logistics they call if they want to talk.
You are probably just misintepreting his emotions conveyed over text. Text isn't a great form of communication bc its mainly based on what you interpret what the other person is saying. Its only text and you can't get any facial expressions or tone of voice or any non-verbal communication. Its purely text and thats it. So he probably is showing emotion but isn't a great texter and doesn't us emojis so its difficult to understand him.
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because texting is a rather emotionless forum for conversation. don't read into it. emoji's to many mean very little (like this guy)
base how he feels about you based on how he treats you. forget trying to read things into his text just because he doesn't use emoji's
I'm sorry, I mean no disrespect but are you seriously basing the affection in your relationship on the use of tiny graphic images?
If he treats you well, he is into you. No amount of ;) :) :o or <3 is going to indicate anything more or anything less.
Emotion can only be carried over into face to face or voice contact , text does not give emotional inflection , also men are generally less emotional & straight to the point , we don't do frills & bows like emoticons. You are thinking from a female perspective.
Because most guys really dislike texting to hold conversations. Instead guys see texts as a quick way to communicate something simple like "we gonna meet at 5 today?" - "ok". Thats pretty much how a guy-to-guy text conversation goes.
Mine is that way too... and I think it's just him being a guy (they're usually not as fond of texting and if/when they do text, it is to get the message/point across) and it being texting. It's actually hard to gauge emotions over texts.
He may be distracted doing something else... my guess. I can be like that. it just tells me deal with him in person or ask up front in converstaion that he totally focus on your conversation... but that is hard to maintain...
Texting is very emotionless, I'm not sure if you noticed or not. Even with emojis it doesn't exactly mean much. Besides, why would that be an issue if you know the type of person he is in real life?
Because fuck texting that's why. Things get misconstrued over text. Why do you care if he uses stupid emoticons? Care about how he is IRL not over a stupid phone.
Some people are simply straight forward and abrupt over text.
But omg I love this ┐(´д｀)┌
Seriously? Emojis? He is a dude, dudes don't give a fuck about emojis... His use of emojis has absolutely NOTHING to do with his fondness for you. Do you use less emojis with your girlfriends? Doubt it. You are just a girl and like girly things.
Because he is not good at texting, some guys aren't. And using emoticons is not a guy thing. Don't over think. If it bothers you then you could try talking to him and see what happens.
.. why do you measure how 'fond of you' your boyfriend is based off of whether or not he uses emojis?
some guys are just that way. text are a means of communication not trying to express there feelings. also there are a lot of use that are not good at it
All guys are generally like that. That's how my boyfriend is too but it doesn't mean he's not fond of me. Guys just aren't as emotional or good at showing emotions like girls are.
Guys are not as into texts as us. And def not the emoji's. 😥
lmaoo what the hell are those emojis, some people just aren't good at texting, accept it
It's always hard to tell tone via text. I type things that come off as indifferent, when I might be giggling in real life. It's just hard to judge. Some people don't like using emojis.
Because you really can't covey emotions through texting
Its texting. If I want a conversation, I'll talk in person. I assume your boyfriend is the same.
WE DON'T USE EMOJIS GET OVER IT ! WHY WOULD WE USE THEM? Doesn't mean you CAN use something that you SHOULD !
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