Yr father SAID that he would BEAT YOU UP if you were PREGNANT?
Oh HELL no.
This is not "my dad and I need help". There is some shit that NEVER gets said, and NEVER gets threatened, under ANY circumstances... and this is one example of that shit.
Yr father needs help. If I were you, I would not even feel physically safe around him anymore -- UNTIL he gives you a sincere apology, at least for *that* part of what he said.
People say some shit when they're angry, so, fine, forgive and forget with the rest of it. But you DO NOT threaten a pregnant woman. Even a theoretical pregnant woman.
Oh fuck no you don't.
Oh sweet fucking HELL to the no.
Talk to yr mother about what he said, if you haven't already. Talk to HIM about it. You deserve an apology, I don't care if he thinks you're a dirty slut or whatever the fuck. Doesn't matter. Does. Not. Fucking. Matter.
If he absolutely will not budge and will not apologize, then, if I were in yr shoes, I'd even consider taking out an order of protection. Srsly, I wouldn't feel safe, after some shit like that.
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Well, you are over the age of eighteen. Which does mean that you father doesn't have much control over you since you are a young adult. I think your father over reacted, and isn't fair to you to have everything you own, such as phone, be taken away. They need to realize that you are an adult. And guess what adults do when they have a partner? Adult things such as sex. I would be upset only because you had sex under their roof. I would set both of your parents down, and let them know that you are grown, but you are sorry that your father had to see such an event, and that it won't happen again. 😊
Your an adult in an adult relationship. Do not apologise or feel guilty. You going to have to woman up and explain to your dad you are not a child so he should stop treating you like one.
If I were you I would make a point by moving out.
its hard for your dad because for the first time you are no longer the little girl you once was. he has to realize that you are 19 and an adult. i also understand he wants to you to be someone. and he knows its hard to make it in this world even if you dont have kids let alone if you do.
even though it will be hard to sit down and talk to him you your mom and dad will have to. tell them your sorry for disrespecting living under there roof like that but you are an adult and them ask them them honestly when was there first time. then ask what is he going to do when you do want to get married or start your own family is he going to reject that also?
sorry i was ranting its just some idea's to talk about
I can't read that.
I'm sorry. One huge brick of text is actually very difficult and almost painful to read.
So here is my simple answer going from what little I could glean:
If you are in your father's house, he has every right to say he does not accept certain things in his house.
but that said, you are an adult, and he can not decide your life. any part of it, at all. do not break up with your boyfriend. your father has no right to make that demand.
and while we're at it, don't have your boyfriend apologize to your father. what happened between you and him was between you and him, and you're both adults.
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seems like your father has the issues not you. you are a grown woman who can make grown choices and you need to tell him that. you need to stand up for yourself.
be prepared for him to threaten to throw you out. if you are serious about your boyfriend then you should be willing to stand your ground. if not then he wasn't the man for you anyway. either way you need to make your father understand that even if he doesn't agree with your actions and choices he can not stop you. you are a grown woman. if he wants to keep you in his life then he needs to accept that.
that is my opinion for what it is worth.Your dad is a controlling jerk!! Your are over 18 and he had no right to control your life... And your have to tell him that...
Aldo tell your mom about it...
Its natural to have sex...
Your have a complete right to have sex and your dad can't do you from that...
He needs to get a life... Don't break up with your boyfriend... Just because your controlling dad says so...
If he tried to hurt you call the police on him...
But don't let him control you... He had no right to make you breakup with anyone.You are old enough to move out. If you can't then don't break the rules. Your dad kinda overreacted but that wasn't to be mean. You need to wait a few days then try to talk to him. Dad's don't want their little girls growing up and every father faces that. He knows he can't stop you. It sounds like he freaked and responded with anger. If he is not normally a angry guy then you can restore your relationship. Young people have sex, he also knows this. Don't break up with your boyfriend right away. Just don't have sex at your parents house. And don't just move out so you can. That will be hard on all of you with lasting results
Wow that escalated quickly!
I've read a ton of the comments so far and I think we all can agree.
1. He's completely out of line
2. You're an adult
3. He cannot control you anymore
4. Boundaries need to be discussed if you are going to stay there.
What parent barges into their teenage daughters bedroom unannounced?
He is the one that should be apologizing for embarrassing you and your boyfriend. That's going to be burned in your mind for life I'm sure.
And you are NOT responsible for their feelings. As such you do NOT need to be on your best behavior to please your parents. Believe me I grew up with very controlling and abusive parents so I've heard all of this before. Speak your mind or else they will continue to manipulate you in one way or another. Good luckSeriously this is what I hate about some parents. Are they so delusional into thinking that in a relationship you're gonna forever be just walking holding hands along with a couple kisses and nothing else... that you're going to remain virgin till marriage? LOL
First off, your folks don't sound stable or well adjusted. I mean your dad did overreact. No dad wants to walk in on some dude banging his little girl.
Second, no having sex in your parents house. I don't think older married folks even do it when they stay over when visiting. Looks like it's time to move out of the house. This isn't the end of the world, they just need to accept your an adult.you know, if i was your boyfriend and your father would scream at me that he never wants to see me again, I'd say something like "you won't, the next time I'm gonna have fun with your daughter, I'll make sure you're not home" imagine how badass that would be.
and your dad sounds like a controlling asshole.
to hell him with him is what i say.Perhaps you should wait a week and then discuss it with your dad like a proper adult. It may help if you are able to have a mediator to help the discussion not get out of hand.
P. S. How old are you btw?Hey, cool down girl. Your father is angry right now, he will be ok after sometime. Listen I know you are 19 and have every right to do as you wish but they are your parents. They have at least right to interrogate. Slow things down and let this pass.
I did not read all of that you need to learn to sunmarize your words. Your father is being a parent of course no parent wants to see his innocent little daugther having sex with some guy he doesn't know. Tell him that you are 19 and all grown up and you do not have to break up with your boyfriend. You are an adult he needs to accept the circumstances and move on.
Give him the wink and the gun
media3.giphy.com/media/iGHbjYrUftITS/200_s.gifI'd have to talk him to fuck off you are an adult. Even if you can come to an agreement that you don't have sex in the house he can't really cock block you until you are 30
I feel like you knew this might happen and you did it anyways. It probably was exciting for the first 5 min, but now you are being punished for it. Punishment can be good for the soul, it doesn't seem to me that your dad is being out of line; you fucked up not him and he is the head of house hold. The only way to gain your fathers trust again is by doing what he said, then showing him you did it; then say sorry. Your move tho
Talk it out.
Your a grown adult. Yes you should of in private and no dad wants to see that. But he can't curfew you and dictate your life for youI've nvr heard of someone living like this irl. There's a really low chance of pregnancy if you use BC.
The truth. Be honest and you're an adult so you can do whatever you want anyway
You have to realize that your father is in the wrong here. I can't believe though that you are seriously considering breaking up, thats pathetic. shame on you.
While you're of the legal age, it's his house. Pretty disrespectful of you to be fucking a dude in your parent's house.
😵😵😲. I don't have to worry about this yet. Maybe in the future. Good luck
Why can grown kids stand up to their parents? I wouldn't break up with my boyfriend.
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