My mom caught my boyfriend sleeping over downstairs. And she saw the used condoms SOS; how do I apologize and gain her trust?

[Heather1234]

We have been dating for almost 6 months now, having sex since 3 months and I'm really in love with him. She knows we have been having sex and gave me the talk about protection and was mad at first but is okay with it now. She hates when she finds out we have been lying or sneaking around and doesn't trust us. I know we could of just hooked up in his car before coming home but it's more than that. I love cuddling and falling asleep in his arms, it makes me feel so close to him. He loves it too and set an alarm to leave early in the morning; this isn't the first time we have done this. She actually came downstairs to check on me because I sleep downstairs on the couch sometimes and he hid in the other room. She found his clothes and put the lights on and found the used condoms. I was mortified and stayed under my covers and she eventually she told me make him leave when he didn't come out. I did and came upstairs and I'm so guilty for disobeying and sneaking around. I wish we were older and we could actually sleep over each other's homes. And now how do I explain how sorry I am to my mother so I can gain her trust again? She does really like him too and approves of us having sex by the way it's just the sneaking and lying. I'm 16 and he's 19 and we are in high school

[AAGNAS]

Trust is quick to lose and slow to gain. The first step would be an honest apology which would show that you acknowledge that what you did was wrong. The next step would be to have an honest conversation about wanting to have your boyfriend stay over if you respected boundaries (not having sex while your parents are home etc). This will show your maturity and if your parent's still are uncomfortable with the situation then its going to be time for you to make a choice of what is more important. Having your parent's trust, or having your boyfriend over.

It's likely that your parents are uncomfortable about the situation because you're young and you are in fact living under their roof. If this is a problem for you, then get a job, save some money, and move out after you graduate.

[Anonymous]

If he's 19 then he should have a job and place of his own. Or at least be able to afford a motel for you two to sleep together. If you can't do either then be more responsible and keep it in your pants while you're living under her roof.
I screwed around while I was still living at home, but I never did it at home because I knew my mom would be pissed.
Can't you control your sexual urges and just do it at an appropriate time?

[Anonymous]

You gain her trust by stopping what you're doing. Be honest with your mom and stop sneaking around.

[selmo93]

Well explain that to her. You shouldn't need to lie if she knows and is OK with you having sex

[takumii]

Don't worry , she's probably giggling herself to death about how awkward that situation was.
She knows you're fooling around like the kids your age do.

[Anonymous]

You had used condoms lying around? ewe wtf?

[Anonymous]

Don't lie about your age on GAG.. sez u r 20.

[Heather1234]

No I'm 16...