My boyfriend is obsessed with Ariana Grande, what should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now, but his obsession with a Ariana Grande has worn me out. I try hard not to be jealous, as I know I shouldn't be, but it's hard when he calls her "the Queen" and "a goddess" and acts as if she's the most amazing woman in the world. Now, I'm not saying he should call me any of those things, but I don't know how to react when he calls another girl-let alone a celeb who he will never meet-them. How can I change/what should I do about my feelings?

dangerDoge · Accepted Answer

You have a few options.
Option 1.) You ignore it as best you can. Down the line, this may become more and more annoying, leading to more problems down the line when things get exasperated.

Option 2.) You try to give hints around it or do a roundabout way of telling him you are annoyed. However, the issue with this is that he may be oblivious to it, or he simply may not care.

Option 3.) You tell him and communicate with him now about how you are feeling with this. Aka you basically tell him the exact things you were talking about in the question opinion.

I suggest option 3. It may lead to a small conflict now, but it will, I believe lead to less conflict in the future. Likewise, I believe it to be more mature and sensible to communicate directly with something like this rather than trying to tell him roundabout. Telling him straight up let's you take responsibility for your own feelings and let's you make absolute certain he knows rather than some long pesky way.

If he chooses to brush it off and take the stand of "it's not a big deal" or "you're overreacting," you are basically stuck at trying to make him realize how serious you are. If he doesn't realize that even/change, you are basically at either ignoring it or leaving him. If telling him straight up won't change anything, chances are he won't change in general. You either accept it then or decide it is too much and leave.

Lack of communication is possibly the biggest killer of relationships. I feel this problem can be prevented with proper communication. An open dialogue can help you two resolve/find a compromise for this issue.

FallOutBoy2001 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend and I both have obsessions with musicians. He likes Rachel Platten and Beyoncé, quite a lot, and I like Patrick Stump and Mitch Lucker (plus a few others) and we're both like your boyfriend, "they are a god/Goddess" but we know that our favorite celebrities could never replace the other one.

You really have to keep in mind that he's not going to replace you with her. If it bothers you too much, you should tell him, and he should respect that you're a bit jealous, but he's not going to replace you with her and you need to remember that.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I can totally see how frustrating this can be. It's hard to see a boyfriend calling some other girl amazing and a goddess. However, as you said, this is not someone he is ever going to have a chance with. So I say you should let him have the obsession.

However, there is a limit to which you should have to listen to this. I would have a talk with him. He can fantasize about Ariana, but when you are with him, he needs to keep it to himself. It's not cool to be obsessing over some other chick when he's with his girlfriend.

I feel like celebrity crushes are okay, because chances are he will never get a chance to even act on it. And I think we all realistically know that we will never have a chance with the celeb. But it's fun to think about anyway.

This would be totally different if it was someone who he knew personally.

Sometimes though, we can get lost in the fantasy of it all. If you feel he is getting lost, then you need to have a talk with him. Reel him in and explain to him how you feel. I think it's fair of you to ask him not to mention her at all when you two are together. Especially if it's bugging you.

vishna · Accepted Answer

Hmmm, I think part of it is the fact that she's unattainable.

This is a really odd situation. Because part of it is all pretend, in my opinion. And part of it is serious, and that's where I'm guessing the jealous part is coming from.

I think you should simply ask him to stop saying those things sooo much around you. And go from there, he can at least do that for you :)

And if all else fails, go crazy every time someone that he looks opposite of comes on TV, if he's Hispanic, go crazy over Liam Hemsworth, if he's blonde, go crazy over Michael B Jordan or Mario Lopez, get creative! >:)

42ndstreet · Accepted Answer

Duh.

what are you? twelve? that is the most stupid problem I've ever heard. Every man or woman is gonna have a celebrity they like even when they'll never get a chance to meet.

Besides, saying that you admit being "I'm totally the jelous type."

Gosh, what the fuck?

He should seriously dumb you right now, he doesn't need to listen to that.

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Jaden69 · Answer

Honestly, you should expect him to call you those corny ass nouns. I don't use those words for anyone really but like if he can call Ariana that, he should be able to call you something even better or same.

You're his girlfriend, he should be able to put you and your feelings before some girl that doesn't even know he exists.

Song4TheBroken · Answer

I strongly disagree with the people who think it's okay because she's a celebrity. Her social status is irrelevant, he's still fantasizing and lusting for another woman... and he's even rude enough to say it right in front of you.

Bandit74 · Answer

Find some unflattering pictures of her, show him the video is her licking the donut, and remind him that she's a feminist.

If that doesn't work pick a male celebrity for you to obsess over and make sexual comments about.

Hotpink94 · Answer

I know how you feel, you should talk to him about it. For me, i just find my own kind of ood looking celebrity and look at him like how my boyfriend looks at his cele-crush. Im sure everyone have that kind of celebrity who they think are super attractive.

DaniaMQ · Answer

How about its game time and you start your obsession with some male celeb? 😈😂 OR just tell him that it kinda annoys you, after all, he's your boyfriend, you guys should communicate. Maybe if you talk about it he could make you calm down a bit?
anyways, or you too act as if u are obsessed with some other male celeb, or talk with him about it

cth96190 · Answer

I would suggest that you should question your boyfriend's taste in women. . . except for yourself, of course. Ariana Grande has shown herself to be an obnoxious entitled bitch, off stage.

Chuhiya · Answer

You should give him a taste of his own medicine. Become obsessed with a male celebrity. .. :-P
Jokes apart its really a harmless crush and with time when you guys will get strong in a relationship... Ariana Grande would never pop up in a conversation!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Buy him an Ariana dolly that way he can keep her close, geez what are the chances of him getting together with her in real life? ponder that for a while, but if he is truly disregarding you all together then maybe he's not the one for you, it's an obsession he has and that in itself is far from healthy.

cheapshotbob · Answer

there is nothing to change its a fantasy thing for some guys. there fantasy will change when another girl comes along things like that are temporary. maybe you should try being creative with a guy you think is hot you know to go with what he is doing and see if it turns him on but if he is like you maybe then you could try and work out a fantasy you both can enjoy?

sixnineanon · Answer

Show obsession with a male celebrity and see if he likes it.

TylerKuykendall · Answer

Show him this video.

TayaMarie · Answer

I'll be honest as petty as it might sound I would seriously have a sit down conversation with him about it. He should not talk up another girl as much, let alone more, than he talks you, his girlfriend up. And if it continued, assuming it really bothers you a great deal, I'd break up with him.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

slap his face and tell him to listen to better music

PippiL · Answer

Tell him to keep his adoration to himself unless he wants to be replaced by a dildo.

Fearless_banana · Answer

Better dump him OP.. he is obviously cheating on you with Ariana Grande.

lilac_flowers · Answer

Show him this question, tell him honestly how you feel and ask him to be accommodating. If he refuses, he doesn't really care about you deep down. I would consider dumping him.

somebodysaycheese · Answer

Lol, first id find it weird he is calling someone a queen and goddess that he has never meet and she looks like a little girl she has a little grl body. its kinda weird

PaulAH2000 · Answer

It's a fantasy but he should feel that way about you because he picked you to be his girlfriend when I am with a girl I think she the most amazing girl on the planet above any famous faces

YingKim · Answer

Find facts that show him she's not perfect... like picture her without makeup

Miezko · Answer

Role play, do your hair in a pony tail, get a pair of cat ears, and an outfit like she'd wear, and enjoy yourself.
Afterwards be like, I know I shouldn't be but I'm kind of jealous, I'm sorry, but I can't help it. Do you think you could tone it down a bit.

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