Can two players play with eachother and keep a lasting relationship?

[Anonymous]

Im a player until i find a guy i really like then i settle. then when we break up i go back to my playing ways. so i broke up with my boyfriend two months ago now I've just been juggling guys. im not telling anyone i love them. and i tell them we aren't 'dating' bfgf. im not that ruthless. i date a guy long enough to see if they are boyfriend material. if they aren't break contact move on.

but aside from the guys im DATING i made some actuall guy friends. or so i thought. recently one of the guys in this gang of buddies started to show jealousy over the other guys im talking to. and sometimes shows physical attraction to me. like checking me out. or stands next to me with his arm around my shouldes. and he always tells me to follow him. for no reason. he just likes me following him. BUT doesn't show serious intrest in me. or super caring behavior. so im just an ego boost to him i think.

although i dont mind that.. he is the same to me. he is REALLY REALLY hot. and he has a lot of famous friends. i dont even watch tv but even i know their faces. i know this relationship is sounding shallow but we really do actually enjoy being friends too. we have such good times together. and they have even said to me ''we are like soul mates'' freindship wise. we just mesh well all of us together. bit its the one guy... im wondering if he is a player. i just kinda get player vibes from him.

so im kinda wondering if we can just keep a playerish relationship between us. always kinda flirtatious. but never really giving anything. but never really taking either. just hang out and ego boost eachother? is that possible to keep alive or will he get bored of never laying me? even though he hasn't made any sexual moves on me in our two months friendship. so he might not even want sex. just ego boost.

[Alyssa1111]

I'm kinda like you if I'm honest. I don't give guys all of me straight away, I like I have options and lead them on until I really trust one. I do it though because I don't wanna get played or heartbroken. It's good because I've recently saved myself from being played let me tell u lol.

But I'd say first of all, just from my experience, stay away from players please. I'm sure you know this too, but no matter how much you try to play, you can't teach them their game. The difference is they play us for their entertainment and we play them with an emotional attachment - hoping something would come out of it. In any case, with any situation with a player, our hearts will end up heartbroken.

Also I feel like you like this guy but perhaps you're in denial. I'm just gonna be straight up and tell u that this is never going to work lol. You'll end up getting hurt, I promise you. Players are players for a reason...

[Asker]

i dont want to date this guy. but i dont want to stop hanging out with him either. because they are actually a really fun group of guys. im friends with 5 guys. and only one is the player.

and i dont actually get emotionally attached ever i think. the last three long term boyfriends i had. lasting over 6 months each. i didn't even shed a tear when we broke up. it was just like ugh ok whats next.

maybe i am i do like him i dont know. but when i noticed his player type attitude the past week. my first thought was... Oooooh Lets Play. not oh no he's a player. because i see him as totally off limits. 〔i dated his friend a few weeks ago〕

i think im also just using them for entertainment. they take me to clubs and i get good networking opportunities. im a freelance dancer so meeting his famous friends help me a lot with jobs. and i dont get attched emotionally to people. especially because i already know i can't trust him

[Alyssa1111]

I guess if you believe you can do this and you won't get hurt then go for it. We learn from our experiences I guess, maybe you're friendship with him will last.

Just from my personal experience, I felt that way too. I haven't ever liked a guy properly yet and I'd just mesas around and have fun ygm? But when one of them fucked me over it kinda sucked. I didn't cry too but it sucked I felt stupid lol. I swore I was never putting myself in that situation again. But then again what's life if we don't take risks right.

Good luck with everything x

[Asker]

Haha and also whats life if you dont enjoy living it? Im just hoping we dont get bored of eachother.

[Tdieseler]

A true player knows the game, or how to adjust to a new one. If you are claiming to be a Playerette... you should know how to handle this without asking.
2 players together is an epic but rare relationship. why? player tend to hook with someone that isn't, someone that can call em out.
Since you are the one asking, im guessing you are Not a player. Just because you can or could get a lot of guys, doesn't make you a player, you have a vagina... its guaranteed.
If you knew the game you are playing, you wouldn't be asking this.

[Asker]

oh wow you were such a great help

[Tdieseler]

just say you don't get it... the sarcasm doesn't help. A real player would understand.

[Asker]

Oh no i totally got it. No need for answers from anyone else.

[Iron_Man]

Only in the movies or friends with benefits kind of deal

[Asker]

But if he's not looking for sex from me...

[Iron_Man]

All players look for sex

[scooogy]

You seem like an interesting character, may i add you? :)