Boyfriend doesn't say sweet things to me?
so me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other for 6 months. he's 25 I'm 22. we say 'i love you' to one another. he's never been overly sweet. if... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
If you are happy, stay put.
If you aren't happy, move on.
- It's that easy.
What I think:
- It's not fair that you're comparing him to your ex's- the past is the past.
- It's very common for men to not be verbal in relationships
- You're overreacting
Check this out:
- You know he treats you well
- He takes you out (interacts with you)
- He calls you when he is in a situation that potentially could bother you (Shows loyalty)
- He'll bring up the problems in the relationship (Showing that he is fighting for you)
So what I'm saying by all that information, is that if you NEED the verbal treatment instead of the action; go ahead and find the guy that gives you that (Not trying to be rude)... But if you are happy in your current relationship, you can voice your concern but I doubt you will see any progress soon.
Just be glad you were lucky enough to find a good man. Lots of my friends on here are always talking about finding the "good guy".. But really, what do words do for you? They give you reassurance. Just like actions give you reassurance.
What Guys Said 9
So what if he doesn't say anything sweet? Being supportive, affectionate and treating you well is saying, "I care about you" loud and clear. Would you rather he cake you with compliments and treat you like crap after?
Maybe he isn't that kinda verbal guy?, or at least not on the same verbal level as you are.
Every girl need compliments time-to-time (especially for looks), but some guys maybe just think its kinda "cheesy" to just saying it, confessing it...he maybe rather admit it.
I don't know, I'm personally not that kinda guy so I don't really understand the behavior.
I think he likes you, and knows the proper way to treat a girl, but isn't in love with you. You need to start pretending your not so interested in him, and like you've got plenty of other options besides him. Don't get too crazy with that, but don't ever let him feel like your no challenge at all or he'll lose his lust for you.
Maybe your boyfriend is not verbal person...the same thing happen to me my ex girl friend. Now married. sad
all I know is you are very gorgeous and he needs tell how lucky he is and not just take you for granted! x
some guys don't like to express their feeling much... I know plenty of guys like that and I also know a few guys (like my gf's brother) who is sometime to sweet with his own girlfriend I feel like ill get diabetes lol
Do you know how many guys actually say I love you to girls but don't actually act like if they do? You take one of the areas he is not comfortable with and make a big deal out of it. I love my girlfriend to death but we are currently in different countries with a 7 hours time difference. No need to say that it's really hard for us to communicate and I'm note even a big fan of talking on the phone for hours but then again I love to write for her so she knows how I feel about her all the time.
Love comes in different sizes, shapes and flavors so you have to learn to appreciate more what you have and stop focusing on details to the point that the become giant insecurities ... and please, trust the love this poor guy has for you a little bit more.
You may as well condemn a blind man for not seeing, a deaf man for not hearing, or a mute man for not talking. Some people just aren't that great with these things. Just because spoken word is one of your love languages, easily expressed, does not mean it's the same for him, or that you should hold him to it, as if it were.
What Girls Said 8
A lot of guys really suck at this. Paying more attention to his actions is a good idea, but I can't be with a guy if he never lets me know that he likes it. I would try to emphasize to him that you aren't expecting poetry or something; you just need to know when he's feeling good about being with you. Tell him it can be short and about small things and seemingly trivial to him, but that you'd still like to hear it.
He is a guy... if he treats you well, then he loves you... he really does.
Guys aren't like girls where they can talk easily and about anything or compliment anyone... they just don't do that... so you shouldn't expect it.
My husband is the same way. My advise is to pay closer attention to his actions. Guys do subtle things that women don't always realize right off. These things are them saying I love you, your hair smells good, you look great, etc.
If you notice him looking at your boobs, rear, legs, face, etc... "You look beautiful" is what he's thinking.
When he opens a door for you he's saying, "You're important to me"
If he leans his face into your hair when you hug he's thinking "Your hair smells great"
Holding your hand, "I love you and I never want to let go".
For guys to keep their 'Machoness' they do subtle things. No normal guy is going to be saying these things constantly and no honest girl would rather have someone that tells her constantly but does nothing for her.
There is an old saying which I'm sure you've heard:
Actions speak louder than words.
Pay attention to those actions. He puts thought into doing them for you and then the effort to go through with it. It sounds like you have a very sweet guy he'd just rather show you than tell you.
If a man is into you, he's into you. You want to pay attention to what he does, and not necessarily what he says. He treats you well and shows that he cares for you, so why do you need the constant affirmation? It's great that you are verbally expressive but not everyone is like that. You cannot expect people to act as you do. If this is not something that he is capable of characteristically, then you might want to think about whether or not this is something that you can overlook, compromise on, and not put pressure on him about.
Flattery can be a form of deceit. there are many men out there that KNOW what a woman wants to hear and says it while their actions prove to be exactly opposite of what they think. Appreciate the fact that you have a good boyfriend that SHOWS you how he feels.
I think everyone has a defect and I guess that's his that he doesn't know how to say it as long as he treats you good and your comfortable that's what matters.
First don't compare your relationship now to your previous relationships(don't forget that everyone is different). It is a good thing that he treats you well however if this really bothers you let him know tell him straight up that you would like to be complimented. Afterall he is able to bring up the problems he has with you.
i think you should tell him that since he doesn't share his feelings a lot, you feel like ur not important. so tell him to at least TRY to say some things sweet. it doesn't have to be all the time, just every now and then say what's on his mind to show that he cares. I can see how he's not very open, because a lot of guys aren't! some don't like talking about their feelings at all, as to girls, they share their feelings around the clock! I can see what you mean about how if he feels the same way he should know what to say though. so just tell him to try and be a little more open.
Its great that he checks in and tells you if he has a problem, because not many guys do that now and days. Just be happy yours does. Anyway, talk to him about this, tell him how you fell about not being praised. Maybe he will start to say more things to make you feel comfortable. But remember that you really have nothing to worry about since he treats you well. Like I said, just talk to him and let him understand that you aren't the needy 24 ,7 girl friend that some crazy girls are. That could be a total turn off to him. Instead just tell him but say it would be nice for him to tell you why he likes you and to give you compliments.