Look. I understand that u may have fallen for him and I really do understand that guys our age can be jerks, not all of them though. You should puck a good guy. Maybe its your choice for the guys you go? I'm not blaming u for what happened dont get me wrong.
But listen to me. You are only 19. So young. He is 42. Like your dad basically. That quote of age is just a number honestly is BS. Its more than just a number. After 10 years you will be 29 and he will be 52. Do you really want to live with a guy with that much of a gap? Its will make looooooots of conflicts. The guy will be really old and u will still be young. Now u are blinded with love. U will be like yes I will live with him cause I love him but after 5 years of marriage oh boy... I promise u wouldn't say the same. However, I'm not gonna say you are stupid coz you aren't. Nor is he stupid. I'm just telling u what I think. Its gonna be super hard to convince your parents and I honestly don't know if there will be a way to convince them since it will be hard. But think of all of this well, shut down love for a second and use your logic not emotions. Good luck with everything!
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I understand your parents. Just tell them and deal with the consequences of your actions. I'm going to be real with you. Relationships like yours have very little chance of surviving the long haul because as you grow up, mentally and physically, your interest and desires change. Your motivation, priorities, and needs as a woman change. Everything I used to care about 10 years ago (including people) has completely altered in ways I never expected with the flow of life. I know you don't want to hear it but you need to. In 10 years, I hope he's $till worth it.
At the age you're at, I understand why they're being protective. If you were a little older, still with the same age gap, it wouldn't matter as much but only because you're still in school. There is a lot of stigma around dating an older man with that large of an age gap at your age but still doable. Honesty is the best way to go but at this point, easing them into it would be the best way instead of bringing it all up at once.
Honestly hun it is upto you who you date a lot of parents are unsupportive of who we date my dad was cool with my now husband my mom can't stand him because he won't put up with her sh** of trying to be in control and tell him whats right from wrong even though she's always in the wrong
Why'd you use a guy friend as a cover? Bad idea.
I think you should just let them cut you off if you're really into this guy. They might come around if you two, say, get married.
My father didn't like my wife and cut me off only because the first time we met him, we were both a bit tipsy. I was just like, "Fine, cut me off, good riddance."
Later after we got married without my father, he came to eventually hear the news. He then finally made an effort to reach out and contact me, and he actually loved my wife soon after he gave her a chance beyond a first impression. She remembered his jacket which he forgot and almost left at a restaurant, and that changed his mind from thinking she was a crass woman to an awesome wife in one swift action.
After that we had a second wedding party which included my father where he the chance to give his blessing. Maybe it can work out for you like that, but you'll have to just let them cut you off if you want to be honest, stay with this guy, and they can't give in.
I mean telling your parents your fucking someone who's almost their age isn't gonna go over well. Cause for the most part only pedophiles would date a girl that much younger than them. Like honestly not trying to be cruel or insensitive you should be watching out for yourself cause it is not right for any man to feel ok with doing that, he does not have the pure intentions you think he does. I understand guys at our age can be assholes but this is not a smart alternative. Just think
About if you ever had kids... that would be a weird thing you'd have to explain to them and I garentee you they would get made fun of for it.
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Tricky one. Sometimes I get leery of these older dogs. I know there are women his age he could be working, they're the ones who need him the most. Have you asked him why he dates so young? Consider what he might do when you approach that age. Are you absolutely certain you're ready for this? Is your attraction based on love? Do you know enough about him? Does he love you? Do you know what love is? Is it all lust?
Reason I press is this is what's going through your parents' minds. They put a lot of work into you and they don't want to see you hand yourself over to a man who, for lack of a better word, "preys" on younger women. I had a relative who took a 27 yr old wife at 70 or so because his previous wives kept dying of "natural causes". Dude isn't to well liked by women in my family when discussed.
But, as always, love conquers all. Even love of your parents. Be honest with them about your intentions to at least try and alleviate their fears. Your parents will probably have to meet this guy.Jeeze... I am only 24 and feel there are miles and miles between me and the 18 year olds I work with at night that hit on me... Some of them are hot for sure, but I honestly could not imagine having a meaningful connection with a girl that young... and I am only 6 years older, not 23!
Where the hell are you finding guys your age to date? I know they can be immature, but just because you aren't the best at picking them doesn't mean the only ones that will understand you are three generations older than you lolI wish I could help you. I've been seeing a woman that's 19 and I"m 38. She's going to be a vet. She's very very smart and I have enjoyed her company. I think she's an amazing woman unfortunately there is no long term potential. She plans on moving away in 2 years. I support her though cause it's her dream to be a vet. I met her parents and all her parents knew was that we are friends. I don't think her parents would cut her off like yours but she feels she has to hide anything more than friendship. She's so open minded sexually I can't get enough of her but I respect her wishes if she doesn't want to be sexual when she's with me.
There's something wrong with him. Sure he treats you well because he hesn't got a chance with most girls your age. But what happens when you get over 25?
And as soon as he finds another girl with insecurity/father issues, he will abandon you for her if she's younger.he sounds like a predator and yes I find you stupid sry
for him to date means or he s completely immature and stupid
or a predator and wants to make you use.
either way he s worth than the guys you experienced before
I just thing you re sort off weak and went on with him cs you felt more secured.
a bit screwed up I have to say.That's kinda messed up since you're essentially still a teenager. If you're happy though then fine. But you ARE going to get flack for this and not only from your parents so you'll have to accept that you will constantly have to deal with being judged and gossiped about
Not something I do. I get the whole one night stand thing, i'd be more than happier to sleep with an older women. But dating is a whole entire different aspect. If that's what you want that's fine, but I see how your parents don't approve. And if the lack of characteristic in men is all that's causing you to make this decision you should rethink, you have youth and still time to find someone better and more appropriate to your age
You should be honest with them. They'll either accept it or they won't. That's THEIR problem, though.
And they may not accept it at first, but if you two are serious they most likely will eventually.Be up front with it. Tell them you're happy together, and you want them to understand that. If they aren't willing to accept your relationship, let them know you're willing to cut them out of your life again.
your dad would probably be more upset to find out that you was lying to him. bout time you were just honest with your family. there is nothing wrong with an age gap
Age is just a number... Ok have fun, just remember you'll lose your "lover '' at like 40 years old. GG
there's an old saying young dumb and full cum he's to old for you
Jesus christ talk about daddy issues...
Have you ever considered that there might be a reason why everyone is telling you this is stupid?I don't see what's wrong. Especially if the guy is treating you well.
What nationality are you? At 19 you're a grown woman. If he treats you well and respects you, and I presume that he does, who cares. I'd say enjoy your relationship. One doesn't get many shots at love, sound like this a chance for you.
Reality check. Guys are human. We make mistakes. Younger guys are still learning no matter how much experience dating they have. How many guys your age have you dated? Maybe you dated the same kind of guy every time, and that's why nothing changed?
They are never going to approve. They think you are just his arm chair for him.
That is really disgusting. He probably has a daughter or a niece your age... How disturbing.
Just tell them about his great per$onality. I'm $ure they'll accept him after that.
Dude that's weird as fuck no 42 year old man that is dating a 19 year old girl is mentally sane.
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