I understand that he doesn't have to and is not obligated to just because we are in a relationship, but it's really frustrating the way he acts sometimes. Especially because when we first started dating, he wasn't getting as many hours at his job as he does now and I would pay for some of our dates and pick him up; if we went to the movies, I'd pay for the tickets and the snacks, etc... I had no problem doing so because I wanted to spend time with him and that's what you do when you like someone, you make the effort. Presently, we've been dating for 6 months. Recently I've bought him things, like a new xbox controller, new socks and a new phone charger. I've asked him before for a new knob, with a lock and key, for my door since I have roommates and he said no, I don't need one. And then I needed a new battery for my phone and he made a big fuss about it and it's only $12 at Walmart. And these are just the necessities that I feel I need, it's not like I'm asking for money for my nails or new shoes or a new outfit. He buys himself video games and new shoes and stuff, so I know he has the money to do the little things I ask for. I know it sounds trivial and maybe even stupid, but it makes me feel like he thinks I'm not worth it?
He told me about a previous girl he liked that used him for the stuff he'd buy her and then she ended up pregnant by some other guy, so I'm empathetic and kind of see where his issue is. But we've officially been together for 6 months, not just "talking" or "dating", we're exclusive. So I think it would be obvious by now that I'm not using him? I know he has his own issues, but at this point, it feels like he doesn't trust me. And before anyone suggests it, yes, I have talked to him about this, just not in depth. I want input before I bring it up again and drudge up his past and go deeper into his unresolved issues and how it makes me feel. Should I even do that? Do you think with time, he'll get over it? Thoughts, comments, concerns, advice?
He told me about a previous girl he liked that used him for the stuff he'd buy her and then she ended up pregnant by some other guy, so I'm empathetic and kind of see where his issue is. But we've officially been together for 6 months, not just "talking" or "dating", we're exclusive. So I think it would be obvious by now that I'm not using him? I know he has his own issues, but at this point, it feels like he doesn't trust me. And before anyone suggests it, yes, I have talked to him about this, just not in depth. I want input before I bring it up again and drudge up his past and go deeper into his unresolved issues and how it makes me feel. Should I even do that? Do you think with time, he'll get over it? Thoughts, comments, concerns, advice?
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