The power struggle for the upper hand in a relationship when the woman is trying to manipulate the man via mind games. Playing hard to get/flaking out. Playing jealousy games to find out how much he likes her, get confirmation of admiration, trigger a competition response, or just being cruel. When you try to see what you can get away with to see if you can walk all over our spine or if we don't let you walk on our spine will we react harshly and expecting us to walk a perfect line on your tightrope. Asking us stupid questions that are only meant to test us, our taste, or willingness to do things for you, how much we like you, yada, yada, yada. Asking about old relationships to test how we handled things with other girls, where things got messed up and trying to place blame. Sexual teasing. Watching the rumor mill run rampant around us as you talk about us good or bad behind our backs to your friends and then their friends to random strangers until you see it on everyone face. Should I go on or is that enough to give you an idea of how messed up you girls can be some times and why we feel like we are on an episode of Jerry Springer.
when a guy says it, there's really only one thing it means--that they won't put up with a girl who will introduce any stress into their lives, and that they don't have the patience to deal with a girl who is possessive, argumentative, clingy, jealous, controlling, high maintenance, demanding, or is in any way overemotional. that is its one, single, solitary meaning.
when two people are in a relationship they have a responsibility to one another to lessen the stresses of daily life for each other. when one of them starts adding to the problem and bringing more stress in than theyre helping with, theyre not doing their job. and most guys won't have any problem cutting them loose without giving them a second chance, because the problem at that point isn't with some specific thing they did but with rather the kind of person they are.
drama means baggage from previous relationships, annoying friends who talk behind your back, people who slander you, cheating bf/ girlfriend scenarios, constant fighting etc. Those are things I Would define as drama
It means a lot...you wouldn't want to date a guy with drama! Believe me...there are all sorts a drama that NOT only dating relationships can have but friendships, and family drama also. But in general dating/relationship drama can be baby mama drama : which means for example: a guy could be dating a girl who has a child and a crazy baby dady..along with the package. The guy wants you NOT the extra stuff. Or a girl can be dating a guy who is antisocial: which means he crazyy ass hell.
BASICALLY, you don't want any relationship with too MUCH drama...I say too much because having a little makes life interesting but having too much is a no-no. But we have to face it...anyone who we allow in our lives have issues and drama whether we like it or not.
When young guys have said this to me and I started to date them, I finally concluded it meant that they liked dating someone who did not give them any grief when they were flaky and jerks. And I didn't, I just dropped them like a bad habit. Young girls wouldn't drop them, they would try to nag them to change and they did not like that, lol.
Drama seems to be something that everyone wants (look at all those people who are using that word and those that are attracted to those drama filled reality shows), but no one want to admit that it is what they are looking for.