Usually a woman starts of as a bright star with lots of optimism of love, and the world with her first relationship giving her heart fully to the man she believes she will be with forever. Everything inculding sex is fun and exciting because it's new and fresh. If this fail a woman's heart begins to break off. She may convince herself she can love the next man as intensely as she did the first but that usually isn't the case and she isn't able to. So the next guy that gets her gets even less of her and more baggage that's both emotional and mental that he needs to deal with and sort out. A girl may even get fed up at fail relationship and take a break from dating and in some cases she continues dating but doesn't get a relationship because she continues getting pump and dumped by men and puts up an even bigger guard, distrust at relationship. Eventually a woman reaches a point where she has a jaded view of love, relationship and while she still pursues relationships she doesn't look at them as lasting forever but almost always expects it to end within a short time frame such as a month, year etc. Sex doesn't even that exciting anymore because she has done it with her boyfriend and other men in the past. And while she may put up superficial front of loving the person she is in a relationship with deep down she can not feel love for him. She may fake love you but she cannot feel love for you. All the while having emotional, mental hangups to the extreme that your basically going to be working part time job trying to fix her up and repair a broken person. My question to you is, how many guys does a girl needs to go through where she reaches a point where most men go fuck it she is too much work to deal with?
How many bad/failed relationship does a woman have to go through before she ends up being completely hazard for any man to date who gets her later?
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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I experienced the opposite way around. First, I was really introverted and insecure. I didn't dare to walk around nude or partially nude around my boyfriend, didn't dare to have sex with the lights on etc and was terrible at communication. I also stayed eith him way longer than I should have out of fear of being alone.
Since then, I met countless people, dated several, slept with several, and fell in love once or twice. I am a more outgoing person now and more confident in my own body. I know that if someone is willing to have sex with me, they don't mind seeing me naked. I know what's hot about me instead of fussing about my shortcomings. It leaves me more energy to focus on the guys needs and wants. The sex I have improved, the amount of people who want me (be it just physically or more) increased and I feel like I got better at relationships as a whole.
Depends on how hardheaded she is. Some women refuse to learn the first time. Life brings them the lesson early on yet they continue to ignore it and repeat the same steps that got them to the first mess. Or they really, truly have no business trying to be mentally, emotionally, and physically tied to a man because they have other things they need to correct within themselves first. They'll be so needy and eager for male affection and male companionship that they get themselves and their lives into a tangled mess because they went into it with the wrong mindset and a ton of bad habits. Some women also don't know how to walk away when it's time to walk away. They'll just linger and let ish be prolonged when it needs to end IMMEDIATELY.
For me it only took one guy. For some women, it takes 7-10 guys.
Love is not a non replaceable feeling that you only can feel once or twice or three times only. It's not disposable. Love is not essentially "usable" for a certain amount of time. I've had strong feelings and love for many guys before, however that has not stopped my ability to fall in love again and to have a strong relationship. In fact, it makes my relationships BETTER, because I can draw from previous mistakes and relationships are a learning curve that can teach you communication, trust and many other things. You choose to love. It's not something you are either able to do, or not to do nor do we have a limit on it. You should learn about love.
This is too general a question to answer. Every girl is different, and every man she's going to encounter is going to be different. There are some men who are willing to help pick up the pieces no matter how many shitty relationships she's gone through, and there are some men (as seen on here) who won't even want to date a woman who's had ONE ex. Plus every woman's emotional capacity is different and the way they heal is also different. There are women who can go through shit time and time again but manage to retain some miraculous sense of optimism towards life and love and others who break after one or two.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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I would say 3 or 4 failed relationships is enough. If a woman finds herself in her late 20's still single which should be about 4 failed relationship by then if she considered dating (this doesn't include ONS/FWB). Then she would most likely be messed up, jaded about love and look at relationship from a business standpoint of partnership. She will look at the man not for who he is but what he can provide for her.
Great. Way to think of women as "things". How many falls can this phone survive? How many years of use until this laptop can't be used anymore?
Those are questions you ask when you're talking about THINGS, not people. Seriously. When will guys on gag Start to fucking man up and See women as their equals instead of things?
I think most people have baggage BEFORE they have heartbreak. Most people's emotional issues stem from childhood. The people who are mentally healthy bounce back after s relationship gone awry and meet someone better. The people who are already messed up attract and are attracted to messed up people.
Bleh- what a strange box you just tried to put every woman in. Um depends on the person, the situation, the time she has had to heal. To answer your question I don't believe there is a number. I believe if you are in a shitty breakup that it takes at least 1 year to relearn who you are and what you want out of life without your ex partner.
Why the fuck did GaG feature such a sexist question? Oh wait, it's GaG.
So what are we now? Objects? It's not like we're batteries that can only have so much juice in us. Why is it so hard for some men to see us as people? Like wtf? God forbid she was in a relationship before you! :o
How about don't be so self-centered, he is clearly heartbroken but I doubt that's how he sees women, even if he did see women like that anyone would be hurt. Maybe try understanding things from people's perspective before jumping on the 'you're being sexist' bandwagon. Jesus Christ.
for me, it took 10 years/4 boyfriends before i was able to truly love someone after getting burned. but a big part of it is that i had terrible taste in men lol.
the thing is, i never really trusted anyone to begin with, so letting that first guy get close was very out of character (and, in my teenage mind, his betrayal only proved that i was right not to trust people and that i never should again).
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Anonymous
(18-24)
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This sounds like a wad of bs. Anonymous guy who wrote this, you clearly have no understanding of female emotions. We don't have a limited amount of love to give and we don't obsess over past loves (only crazy people do that). We are human fucking beings! We love, we lose, we move on, just like guys until we find the right person or die alone.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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There's no average. Honestly I am more jaded from heartbreak but I've learned to become more comfortable in my own skin and I am more comfortable with my boyfriend emotionally and sexually. I show him love as much as I can and he feels loved and respected and desired. Of course I am terrified he will abandon me because I've been hurt but I try hard to cherish every day with him.
That's a stupid question.. No offense but it's not about the number of guys. One can be enough to destroy someone's views about love and relationships by the way u can fix every damage in my opinion so just help her repairing her heart
If this fail a woman's heart begins to break off. She may convince herself she can love the next man as intensely as she did the first but that usually isn't the case and she isn't able to. So the next guy that gets her gets even less of her and more baggage that's both emotional and mental that he needs to deal with and sort out.
lol i agree
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Anonymous
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This has got nothing to do with the number of relationships, but more to do with other factors like maturity, whether the person reflects on their failed relationships and learns from their mistakes (if any) or changes for the better etc
For people who win at life -- both men and women -- bad/failed relationships teach *tons* of lessons about what works, what doesn't work, what you can and can't deal with, and what you do and don't want/value.
In other words, a handful of failed relationships *should* make for BETTER relationships later on down the line. Because self-awareness.
Bullshit, when I started dating I was so full of hate and I treated guys like shiiiit, they was this guy who was madly in love w/ me and I led him on for a year just cause I liked fucking with his feelings. But as the years went on I got nicer and more open towards actually having a partner who I actually love. Not all girls are the same, not all of us have emotions.
I think this misses the point. Good relationships are about the triumph of hope over experience. A woman has to be happy with her own life and like herself before she even tries to date. Then she isn't looking for affirmation from the man or constantly looking for signs that it will fail.
the number determines nothing but the probability of the relationship's success. it's a question of what she's doing wrong, self awareness and the choice to change.
Fuck, if I knew that I'd be able to stop dating shit women.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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My first love messed me up pretty bad. Guys still tried to get with me. I dabbled in dating but I can't seem to fall for anyone. Guys still try to be with me. I just have no interest.
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I like the way you put things and the pictures by the way. But it all depends on the girl and how bad she gets hurt
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