[Advice] I cheated on my girlfriend and I'm not going to tell her. Does the guilt ever go away?

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I had sex with a coworker of mine and I have decided not to tell my girlfriend about it. I think it would just unnecessarily hurt her, so it's not worth it. We're very serious and we are going to get married one day and I don't want to jeopardize that. 

The problem is that I still feel guilty. Every time we have sex or I look her in the eyes or kiss her, I just feel horrible. Will this feeling ever pass? I felt much worse the day after it happened, so I think the feeling of guilt is fading slowly, but how long will it take? Does anyone have any advice as to how to get over it? 

Thanks in advance.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

You need to break this relationship off if you think you can get away with this not being found out. What if your co-worker told her instead of you! It is never going to go away as long as you continue to hide that from her. And you just had sex with her. Not a good. Not good at all. It is going to hurt her. And she will eventually 'sense' something isn't right. You can fool her all you want, but your body language will always tell the truth. Actions speak louder than words you know. This lie will continue to grow like cancer and a parasite, and then your going blow up emotionally because you won't be able to take it anymore. Then your screwed. And no, you are not serious about her. Because if you were you would have told her the truth. Man up! Don't be a coward, you already did a cowardly move by sleeping with another chick! If she doesn't find this out now, she will eventually later and then you better pray to whatever you believe in that she won't file for divorce, null the marriage because that is considered marriage fraud! I don't know what kind of advice were you expecting. You cheated on her, you know that. No sane woman or man wants to go through that. You already jeopardize this relationship. By you hiding this, your a lair. And this will haunt you for the rest of your living days, and you will regret this. Tell her the truth or it is over. And if your co-worker god forbid had an STD, never been tested, and unprotected or got pregnant. Your screwed, really screwed. You better fix it, and you better fix it now if you even want to have a chance at keeping this relationship or you can forget even having it. And that is IF she is that forgiving.

ginny_weasley · Accepted Answer

"We're very serious and we are going to get married one day and I don't want to jeopardize that."
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I laughed so hard at that sentence I choked on my water. I hope your coworker tells your girlfriend because you clearly won't you piece of shit. You don't love her. You knew having sex with your coworker would hurt her and we don't hurt the ones we love

CoralSun · Accepted Answer

You've already disrespected her to a massive proportion. At least give her the basic, most minimal respect and decency of letting her know just exactly what kind of man she's in a relationship. She deserves to choose who she spends her life on. You have no place or right to make that decision for her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, it will go away. Just relax and breathe. One day you'll forget it ever happened. Assuming that you will never do it again, telling her will only ruin your relationships - in which I assume she is happy. Keep it to yourself and eventually the guilt will pass.

Raymond_Reddington · Accepted Answer

We're very serious and we are going to get married one day and I don't want to jeopardize that.
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You're such a pathetic loser. You find a girl who loves you and who even wants to get married to you, and you throw it all away. You don't even have the common decency to tell the poor girl what a horrible man she has chosen. She'll find out either way.

think_logic85 · Accepted Answer

The feeling of guilt is going to eat you alive and you would eventually reach a breaking point.

It's ironic that you don't feel remorse over it, you just want to stop feeling guilty about it or say you just want to be done with it, like its a nuisance, which of course hasn't been working out for you so far.

If I were you, I would seriously repent and vow never to do
such an act again.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

"I think it would just unnecessarily hurt her, so it's not worth it. We're very serious" No Thank You. I needed a good laugh tonight.

Red_Arrow · Answer

You had sex with a coworker that you are saying is essentially a stranger. So you are definitely not serious about your girlfriend if you make the decision to cheat on her. And now you are going to live a lie with her. That is really low!

But you are working at not letting it bother you. As you become more of a scumbag you will be able to get so that you will feel no guilt and will probably do it again.

XOXOME16 · Answer

Relationships need trust. If you're not going to tell her, then i wish nothing but the worst guilt for you. Being cheated on sucks but people move on. You had the audacity to cheat so you better have just as much audacity, if not more, to own up to your mistake instead of being a coward and hiding behind lies and a fake happily ever after.

Advice2u · Answer

It's good you feel guilty. I cheated on my ex and felt nothing that's when I realized that I needed to end the relationship. We've all done dumb shit we're not proud of. Learn from your mistakes. Over time the guilt will die down but remember that feeling so you'll never be tempted to do it again. And piece of advice. Cut everything off from your cowoker. If you were dumb enough to do it once you might be dumb enough to do it again so stay away from her.

TheButterfly · Answer

Well you SHOULD feel horrible. Obviously you aren't that serious if you cheated on her. Poor girl

Lexasilly · Answer

Please break up then, it's sad towards her & if you really loved this girl you wouldn't have had cheated cause she isn't what you want otherwise this didn't had to happen (;

pooper89 · Answer

You don't deserve her. You're a scrum bag. I hope she finds out

kittykatbrat · Answer

Serious question: Why did you cheat instead of just ending it?

madhatters4 · Answer

you will probably feel guilty until you clear your conscious why not do the honorable thing and tell her

ThisDudeHere · Answer

It's people like you that make me lose faith in humanity.

Major_Vybz · Answer

There is a saying " A lie to save your life is worth a thousand truths " so if you love your girlfriend, don't tell her.

HonestWhiteGuy · Answer

The guilt is your punishment for what you did!! You will always remember it!

DivaMonae · Answer

How about you do the right thing and if she try loves you she'll forgive you?

Tanfoxy · Answer

Hell naw it won't go away we you sleep you will remeber, when you walk you will remeber, when you watch tv you will remeber lol

singlebee · Answer

Hahaha I can always spot a TROLL.. The way you have written it you are definitely a troll

Mimi05 · Answer

just tell the truth and see what happens. If you are meant for each other then you will stay together. Keep in mind, secrets will always come out, soon or later

takumii · Answer

I don't think the guilt will ever go away.  But I think made a tough but practical decision.

SamanthaB · Answer

You should be glad you feel guilty. At least it's a sign that you're not completely inhuman! Please tell her and stop being a douche bag.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not ready to get married at your age. And you can't even be faithful. Guys like you give the rest of us a bad name!!

Anonymous · Answer

if brains were made of dynamite you wouldn't have enough to blow your nose.

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