I cheated on my boyfriend with 2 different guys but want him back?

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so i cheated on my boyfriend and somehow he found out, but when i cheated we werent really official we were just talking but clearly he thought we were together and considers it cheating, i feel really bad i really do but its done now and I've realised that them 2 guys meant nothing, i just really want my boyfriend back, he still talks to me and i know he still loves me, im the first girl he's ever been with and the first girl he's ever kissed, i know the reason he keeps talking to me is because he's still in love with me but its just that i hurt him so much, he called me a slag i dont blame him but i made a mistake i just want him back what should i do?

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

what do you mean by boyfriend if you weren't official? Are you saying he was a casual friend, you got intimate withhim, but then got intimate with two other guys but no-one was committed to anyone else?

There is some interesting stuff here that is hard to see in your behavior and his. You weren't all that interested in him at the time, but when you found out that he thought you were committed you really want him back. Basically, if he had committed to you... would you have messed with the other two guys? That says a lot.

Look, you are young, you are learning, making a lot of mistakes in a short time. Slow it down. You can see this stuff hurts and causes problems. So learn from what just happened, that is step 1... learn about yourself, and guys.

I don't know what a slag is so I cannot comment on that.. obviously he is hurt and upset. It hurts to be cheated on or to have someone you love, even if they aren't yours, messing with other guys. I think if you talk to him and confess you were wrong and that you commit to him (and actually mean it and he commits to you, then maybe). But reputation wise, its hard to fix.

Lastly, I'd get a counselor if you can afford one. Not saying anything is wrong with you, you are normal for this day and age... so many people are relationally... love... emotionally... confused. Counseling should help accelarate the healing so you don't make too big of mistakes. Read this site to read all about other people makign big mistakes...

Library · Accepted Answer

So leave him alone and don't try to get him back.

Brooksbaby93 · Accepted Answer

Even if you were not officially or whatever cheating is cheating when you know you're gonna be with him. I did the same thing almost lost my boyfriend learned my lesson and he's proably hurt you lied to him and keep it from him. I would say talk to him and see if you guys can fix it. Write a letter as to why you did it. But you've also got to realize what you did and make sure it never happens again.

Book_Lover17 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you took adavantage of him. If a guy did this to me, or I knew of girl that did this to my brother/guy friend I'd tell him to forget you. If you were interested in him then why would you get with 2 different guys? Doesn't matter if they didn't mean anything, but what does matter is that you cheated. I feel sorry for him if you get together.

kittycat119 · Accepted Answer

Stop acting all emotional like it'll kill you if he doesn't get back with you. You hurt him, he deserve someone who would never do that. And loves him enough to care about his feelings, you don't as you wouldn't have cheated twice. So leave him alone he deserves someone better than you

leakimberly · Accepted Answer

You can't do anything. Once you cheat on your loved one you're never getting them back. You made a huge mistake and you can't expect him to ask you out again.

AleDeEurope · Answer

You leave cause you don't deserve him.
Sure, you weren't official, so you don't really need to be loyal to him, but how can you hookup with two guys when you supposedly have feelings for him? Clearly those feelings weren't real.

It feels like you just want him back because you were his first and because he seems like a good guy who will treat you right.

Leave him alone and learn from this so that you don't commit the same mistake in the future. If you like someone, you don't screw around with other people -_-

YellowCactus · Answer

He clearly deserves million times better than you and I'm not joking. If my girlfriend did that shit, I would drop her ass forever like a hammer on the floor. Also I would found disgusting that my girl have slept with someone behind my back and sucked someone else cock not to mention penetrative sex, it's truly disgusting for me at least.

CisScum · Answer

"You made a mistake", actually you made 2 mistakes. Feel bad for the guy because you're the first girl he ever was with and now he has to live with probable trust issues. So uhhh, ya maybe realize your mistakes and the next go around you can be a better person. If he's a guy with a brain he won't be coming back.

Borginborg · Answer

You might get hurt even more taking him back. I wouldn't. His trust in you is gone. There will be constant accusations and name calling. The past will be his 'go to' thing in arguments. Best to enjoy the friendship. But that's just my opinion based on my experiences

kakarotto · Answer

The fact that you want him back and you are already back with him is the biggest proof that you do not really love him. You will see this as nonesense now but a day will come when you will understand.

Alex88F · Answer

ahahahah no, that's not how the game goes. you fucked it up. move on, and if he's a worthy male he will do the same

HonestWhiteGuy · Answer

You messed up and you lost him for good now and you dont deserve him back, own up to what you did and live with it

NatashaJ · Answer

Just leave him alone you should know 99% of people would rather move on from a cheater then forgive them.

10dsw · Answer

Damn they are coming in younger and younger! To all the guys out there: current behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, especially at this girl's age. Anyhow best of luck to him

ModernDayCrusader · Answer

And if he dates you again Those two kids are gonna say things like "enjoy the sloppy 2nds"  Or "tell your girl I said what's up" It's embarrassing He probably likes you more than you like him smh

Dred1614returns · Answer

Good luck. If he has any sense, he won't take you back.

jameson187 · Answer

Young hoodrat you should do what your destined to do and get knocked up soon. by the way your boyfriends a foolto date someone your age when he's at college.

Bandit74 · Answer

I'd say move on. I think it's really unlikely he will forgive you and even if he does, you'll probably be broken up by the time you're both in college.

fhate · Answer

If a relationship over for once, it means it's dead. You can return to him, that's true but anything can't be okay anymore. You'll see...

phil2 · Answer

i say it depends on the guy to forgive you. good luck

Anonymous · Answer

There was a time I would have said to stick through it but if all guys really are the same, he's only going to keep hurting. And perhaps everytime you get physical with him he'd imagine you doing that with the guys. Make an effort to work on a relationship. But if he's going to keep holding that against you in any form, then your presence is torturing him

Icyfire101 · Answer

You messed up. Twice. Do him a favor and leave him so he can find someone worth his time.

Princeofanons · Answer

He should marry you ASAP. You sound like a keeper...

Anonymous · Answer

You lost him, he trusted you with everything and now, well getting him back is easy because he loves you. But it won't ever be the same. And if you care about him, don't go back. It will mess him up, mentally and emotionally.

ElissaDido · Answer

Under 18... Oh god.

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