My boyfriend flirts with other women right in front of me.
My boyfriend and I have been together for along time, we are very faithful with each other without a doubt... he is always saying to me "your my girl babe, I love you" It makes me happy that he says that. I just don't understand the flirting, why do guys do that, why is he flirting so much with other women. I basically just want to hear some other perspectives of this. I love him and I feel secure in our relationship but I just am a little confused about the flirting... anybody have any answers
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Depends on how you define "flirting", and the degree to which it's happening. If he's only looking (i.e., quickly glancing) at women every now and then, it's natural, even biological. Guys tend to fall into that pattern of behavior without thinking about it or even realizing it. If that's all he's doing, you could play it off in a flirty/sexy way (e.g., "Ah, caught you again! But you don't realize what you're missing...I had something ten times better prepared for us, but now, oh well...") Haha, I don't know if that's a bad example, but the point is, communicate that you're better than all of those other girls, that he'd be sorry if he were to pass you up, and that you want him paying more attention to you. Or address it directly; if he cares, he'll try to be more conscious and curb his wandering eye. But of course, don't sacrifice your integrity just to prove that you're good enough for him, which I'll address here...If he's actively starting conversations with women, smiling at them, touching them, etc., if I were you, I would consider that a red flag (because it WILL lead to more) and crossing a boundary, and I would address it directly (NOT starting an argument, but just calmly bringing it up; an argument will not resolve anything). If he apologizes, and he really cares about your feelings, he'll try to stop and you'll notice. Perspective: personally, I wouldn't flirt with other girls if I were lucky enough to be with (i.e., committed to) a cool girl who was into me. I've been alone so long that I wouldn't take a good thing for granted. It reeks of dishonesty to me; if I want that freedom, I'd rather tell the girl up front that I'm not looking for a commitment. But if I'm in a relationship, even if tempted--and I'm not saying I'm perfect--I would try my best to refrain from flirting with other girls. I wouldn't want her doing the same to me. I understand a guy's natural sex drive, but I don't understand guys who consciously sacrifice their honor and integrity just to give in to their physical desires. That's weakness. Best of luck.
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How long have you known your boyfriend prior to you two dating?...because this could just be a normal characteristic of his that he portrays on a regular basis, sometimes people may act a certain way that might constitute as flirting when in reality it's not the case and they are in fact just being friendly to one another...I know that whenever I talked to a female I tell jokes and goof around and from the outside looking in it might appear as though I'm being flirty but those are never my intentions (unless I like the girl). It's normal for you to feel the way you do, everyone goes through this to a degree, but you need to make sure that what you're feeling is accurate or if it's just your insecurities getting the best of you. From there you want to address how your boyfriends "flirting" affects you WITHOUT acquisition.
I don't know about other guys but sometimes we do silly stuff to upset you to see if you will forgive us and keep us. I know its silly but think of it as the equivalent of the *(do you love me?)* that bothers us so much when girls ask it too often.I'm not saying that it is ok to do this but people have different ways to deal with their insecurities ... Me, I always forget stuff and it drives my girlfriend crazy but I always make a point to make it up to her and surprise her from time to time :)The important thing is that he is faithful and if he is like me, he will make an effort to stop it to make you feel better.
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