I Don't Care About Women/Dating Anymore?

[Anonymous]

I'm not too sure why I am posting this, I don't believe that I'll find an answer here. I am a decent looking guy. 6'1" 190 lbs with blue eyes and I am told I am attractive.

I've had a bit of a financial meltdown recently which took a house from me and a good job. After multiple bad jobs I've finally landed something that isn't great, but pays the bills. The experience has left me cynical of what we are supposed to do as men. I don't want a house that sucks up my money anymore. I don't want to spend 10 hours every weekend mowing my f***ing lawn and blowing leaves.

It isn't directly related to the money issue but women are very frustrating to me. When I was younger I was very shy and didn't date too much. In my mid 20's I dated but every relationship got to a stage where the women were playing games with dating other guys or just putting me down. I would leave these relationships quickly. I don't believe in luck, so it must be something in me that I am a terrible dater

I am straight, 34, and haven't been on a date in about 4 years. I just don't care about the bs anymore yet I find myself yearning to love someone. I don't care about anything anymore and I don't think I have much time left. I have no confidence in anything anymore.

I'm not sure why I posted, but I wanted to relate that I am someone who is confused, wants to love, but can't deal with the reality of relationships I guess. Anyone have any insight?

[Irrelevance]

"I am a decent looking guy. 6'1" 190 lbs with blue eyes and I am told I am attractive." - being physically attractive isn't everything. Women can smell desperation a mile off and you mentioned where this stems from: "haven't been on a date in about 4 years". To make it worse, you're doing that thing when you say you don't care but really you do.

First thing's first; accept that this is fine. Why give up? You aren't ever too young to date and it's not like every woman in your country within your age range is going to be married or in a relationship.

Secondly; sort your self esteem out. You've been beaten down by the dating game so what you need to do is go away and start going out with your friends more instead of feeling sorry for yourself.

The most common cause of people with "bad luck" is because they haven't met enough people who they'd consider dating and thus feel like there's nobody. All you have to do is look, smile and apporach. It really is that easy.

Thirdly; since you haven't been dating in a while there's an incredibly good chance that you're going to meet somebody and hold onto them for dear life even though they're completely wrong for you so don't settle. If you settle you're going to be unhappy and that's a guarantee.

Life could honestly be worse, mate. Best of luck with it.

[CaptainFrost]

Couldnt have answered that better myself +1

[Anonymous]

Canada made me strong, although I lost my spunky attitude and now just a serious stone face product of the stuck-up conservative euro-society. I have been here in the CAN since 2010 and no a@s. It's all about location, let's trade places man, you come up north and I go south. Also, I no longer love nor care about anything especially single females and I learned that I have to be a man and work to move away from BS societies such as this in which I waste valuable and precious years amongst British colonized people where I become emotionally weak with low self-esteem and poses lack of confidence. I am not a john and I don't enjoy this celibacy so I wouldn't even want to raise a daughter in this society especially being deprived of companionship in majority, it feel like I would raise a daughter for the pleasure of you white males and since your females have proven themselves to be racist and prejudice of my generation gap I no longer feel bad about not having kids or getting married to my ethnic background because immigrants are what makes us multicultural but they mostly come as couples and are marrying their cousins "back home" so they don't get married until they see $$ even then they already been around with your men while these brown dudes were playing Xbox.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you deprived me of companionship in your majority made up of your church and a G20 De-population tactic, I'm still the same nationality as you I know now that even if I had a kid with an immigrant woman I would not allow a daughter to be born in this society to be the date for your son's prom-night.

[Opinion Owner]

I also would not like to bring a daughter in this society to eventually serve the majority population. If your life has been spent in being deprived of love by these white woman then It is your right to enforce abortion onto your wife just remember most of these people's generations did not require marriage to have kids so these non-white females or non-christian females should be equal in all sense.

[Opinion Owner]

I this blog is a setup. Females want to know truth about themselves, well here it is, I don't how these kids are now these days I can only speak for females of Ontario that are in there 30's because they were racist cunts I don't care if they on some mandingo sht now they still hate on us so fk having a daughter.

[WMusiq07]

Its never too late to find love. I know that sounds like a hallmark card, but not all women are about the B.S. .Its very easy to give up and be cynical and bitter. However, be brave and look at this rough time as a challenge to yourself to start over. Think about exactly what you want out of a relationship. And think of realistic expectations you want from a woman and do not settle for anything less. Trust me there are plenty of women out there looking for what you can offer. First you need to recharge. I hope this helped. Don't give up!

[Asker]

Thanks. I don't mean to sound like a misogynist. I know plenty of great women and know that 90% of this is in my head.

[debi2622]

With all the trauma you've had to deal with, you are mentally tired. Your enthusiasm is depleted. Your hope is gone. Your faith has crashed and burned. But your desire is still there, struggling to come out. You just need to revive your hope and enthusiasm. And the faith can only start to be restored when you find a good woman that will help build you back up and share the love you want. But the how is the big question. Do you know people that can network for you and set you up with decent women?

[MoreLikeFlying]

Get a pet. :D

Well, since it would appear you're in quite the turmoil, I suggest you take (even more) time to yourself to mull things over until you're f***ing content, okay? :D It's doomed to fall apart if you're stuck in this angry-streak.

As cheesy as it really sounds, you need to find peace with yourself. :D x.x

Not much help, but I wish you luck. :D

[tcbia]

ye u need pet, no longer can have slaves so u put leash on animals, try having a child and looking after 1, so quick to clean up after dogs, you won't even clean your bakside with water, leafer

[thespec]

I'm turning 30 next month and I'm at the same stage in my life.. Haven't dated anyone since high school, and other than the occasional hook up not much sex either. Honestly the longer I go the less I care about it, every time I try to justify a relationship I just look at my friends and think of the few relationships I've been in and quickly come to the realization that I'm never going to try again.. I'd also be very o. k. with ending up single. In my life I'm going to do whatever the fuck I want to do, controlling me through sex is not an option. I know I'm good at it but to me that's not important, women can get dick whenever they want. If she doesn't cut the bullshit, stop the games, approach me for a conversation, I will literally not acknowledge she exists and move on with my life.

[Blackmoonsns]

I know what you mean, i was in your shoes. Im in a better place in my life ready to finish my training in my class, so i can teach. What i learned in my life is to love yourself first, be happy, and be complete with yourself. When you make the change to be happy, happy women will find you they will want you be their side.

[Dbt25677]

Me too.
Age 15, non-religious celibate represent.
They freak me out, are illogical, and make me feel sick inside + I'm an ugly cunt with a big nose and a jew-fro.
That might sound a bit misogynistic but fuck it. It doesn't really matter. What, I'm gonna get less attractive?

[Maxdeleon3]

I believe you should improve on yourself and know your value as a man. The majority of the women are the same not all, but most of them. Work on yourself in your personal goals such as working out, hobby’s and travel the world. If a woman wants to be part of your life then go for it. If she only sees you as a liability cut her off!!!

[termanator]

I’m a 28 year old male and I agree with you I have no desire to date anyone anymore it’s just useless

[Anonymous]

That's fine just work on bettering yourself for your self

[Mister_Hangry]

You say that but it never works. Men. STOP TAKING THE ADVICE OF WOMEN, THEY WILL USURP AND MISLEAD YOU

[Kck15911]

I feel you man. I am the 26 and I feel the same way. I am tired of the petty games.