We have been together 8 years and have 2 children and one on the way.
I asked and he was honest but it hurt so bad. He hangs out with his best friend and his girlfriend once a week at our house. They are basically his only friends. Well I found out his friend and him sends our (the girlfriends) nudes to eachother. But the best friends girlfriend has known about it for years now, and I had no clue until now. He has about 12 naked pictures of her and admits that he masterbates to them. He's a guy I get it, the masterbating isn't the problem. Guys Masterbate. She's an attractive girl, whatever human nature blah blah blah. The problem is that everyone but me knows and we all hang out every week. He also sends his friend his nudes, because he thinks it's funny. he says he doesn't send them to me because he didn't think I'd like them... even though I send him nudes. He knows the best friend will show his girlfriend. The bigger problem being that he has told me he feels like he can't be himself around me. Can't be goofy with me because supposedly I don't think he's funny, which I've never said. I've been trying to figure out why he seems more happy with them than with me. He says she is just a friend who he is attracted to and nothing more. And that it doesn't mean he is less attracted to me. He says he doesn't love her or have feelings for her. But that they just get along. he says he doesn't love her and that he loves me but we don't get along because we live together and that's how couples are when they live together. They fight (arguing not physical). He says I'm just over reacting and that it's not a big deal. I want to trust him but I'm just really hurt. They all know about this and I'm just the fourth wheel in my own home when I try to be friends with them all and try to get along and do everything I can for my boyfriend.
I asked and he was honest but it hurt so bad. He hangs out with his best friend and his girlfriend once a week at our house. They are basically his only friends. Well I found out his friend and him sends our (the girlfriends) nudes to eachother. But the best friends girlfriend has known about it for years now, and I had no clue until now. He has about 12 naked pictures of her and admits that he masterbates to them. He's a guy I get it, the masterbating isn't the problem. Guys Masterbate. She's an attractive girl, whatever human nature blah blah blah. The problem is that everyone but me knows and we all hang out every week. He also sends his friend his nudes, because he thinks it's funny. he says he doesn't send them to me because he didn't think I'd like them... even though I send him nudes. He knows the best friend will show his girlfriend. The bigger problem being that he has told me he feels like he can't be himself around me. Can't be goofy with me because supposedly I don't think he's funny, which I've never said. I've been trying to figure out why he seems more happy with them than with me. He says she is just a friend who he is attracted to and nothing more. And that it doesn't mean he is less attracted to me. He says he doesn't love her or have feelings for her. But that they just get along. he says he doesn't love her and that he loves me but we don't get along because we live together and that's how couples are when they live together. They fight (arguing not physical). He says I'm just over reacting and that it's not a big deal. I want to trust him but I'm just really hurt. They all know about this and I'm just the fourth wheel in my own home when I try to be friends with them all and try to get along and do everything I can for my boyfriend.
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we have all seen eachother naked before. drunken nights... almost had a 4 some but she felt awkward. I thought we were spicing up our relationship. I want to make him happy. I would not care if I knew about it from the beginning with all of them instead of being the idiot in the room because it's hidden from me. I am just so upset that he shuts me out and can't be himself with me. I feel like he just tolerates me and can't be open with me. Like a fake relationship. He doesn't try, ido
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