You overreacted to something and you let jealousy and insecurity get the better of you. This has resulted in your boyfriend being hurt and he will now doubtlessly be feeling very defensive. This is the problem with jealousy, it destroys relationships rather than protects them.
A lot depends on whether you had literally no single reason to become insecure. Let's say that he was starting to be away a lot, was being secretive with his phone and his computer, was getting messages from girls that you don't know and wasn't explaining them to you, etc. In this case you might have grounds to at least challenge his behaviour. It wouldn't necessarily excuse you but it would allow you to make the point that if he wasn't so closed off from you then you wouldn't have ended up so afraid of losing him.
If you literally have let nothing become something and have let your insecurity convince you of his guilt before he even had a chance to defend himself then I'm afraid it might be too late for you guys now. In an ideal world there would always be second chances but this isn't an ideal world.
Your best hope is that in a period of time he will cool down and will perhaps reassess the situation. I think that you need to allow him space. You've apologised and I'm sure that you've tried to explain. Give him time to consider your explanation. Don't crowd him and most certainly don't beg him.
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Whoa guys girls are super nosy and insecure in the first place.. and if you do talk to a lot of girls every day (even just being friendly) their minds start to imagine things just out of fear. Then one day you really do have to work late, and you already know the rest. It seems like an easy thing to understand and forgive honestly, especially if most girls you speak to do like you and flirt with you.
You guys saying you would just instantly break up with your girl for being afraid to lose you are strange to me. I would definitely correct her assumption but I wouldn't be deeply offended and want to break up because yeah girls do like me and I can see why you'd think that.
You broke his trust the second you accused him of something he didn't do. The only thing you can do is apologize and give him time to think it through. It's up to him now whether or not he'll forgive you for your actions.
There isn't much that you can do seeing as his mind is made up. I guess you can keep apologising but meh, it doesn't really sound like it will work.
Why did you suspect in the first place? And has this happened before?
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For me it wouldn't be a big deal that you were wrong about me cheating, but how she treated me when she did.
I had a very serious girlfriend who thought I was cheating. She broke up with me and wouldn't even tell me why. Months later she found out she was wrong and wanted me back. I was not mad that she thought I cheated, but I could never forgive her for the way she treated me.Start going to a therapist to help with your trust / insecurity issues, and tell him you are doing it.. I'd be pretty mad if I were him too but if you offered to do that AND actually did it then I'd likely stay because it shows you are actually doing something to work on what you did wrong. Doing something means a lot more than just saying you are sorry.
I would apologize and tell him that you'll never meddle and distrust him again. Give him time to work it out on his own.
I would also consider your own actions and try to figure out why you invaded his privacy or thought he was cheating. Were there actually good reasons to believe that was the case or were you just paranoid or insecure? If the latter, work on becoming more trusting and secure with oneself. Solving these core issues will help you in this or future relationships.https://i.4cdn.org/pol/1479074460686.jpg
Just keep apologizing. He's gonna be angry, but it'll pass. You should try to create a dialogue with him about how he feels and why, maybe by explaining how you felt and why. Show him you can be his friend again.A day/night full of surpirses of things he loves doing including sex and when you are having sex forget about you! Make his fantasies come true and pleasure him as much as you can even if it means doing things you're not comfortable with. Otherwise saying sorry is not gonna cut it.
You did what you wanted to do when you accused him.
And now he's choosing what he wants to do... which is leave.
It's highly insulting, to be accused of cheating.You have some work to do don't sit here and ask strangers. Get out there and start suckin up. I cannot gage the severity of the privacy invasion you did so i don't know... could be over
Learn from your mistakes for next relationship. It looks like he's really done with you.
inscery bitchy behavior paid you due. now learn your lesson.
"he's stated he's done and he's going to leave."
The end.I was accused of the same thing when I wasn't cheating...
You broke the trust in a relationship. Relationships don't last without trust.
It's on him to decide. Just let it be.
Try to tell him you know you were wrong
Watch him walk
its over dear
Seduce him.
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