Why do they watch porn?

[in--love]

what I want to understand is I have a fionce we been together 2 years now.once in a month we have sex but I no nearly everyday he's watching porn when I'm asleep.why ? when he could come to me and have sex.u watch porn when your horny so have sex .do all guys wank when they watch porn or just sit there because I doubt they just watch it so why do they wank when they could have sex with there girlfriends please help me understand .is my boyfriend a wanker?

[awholenewsetofrules]

Ok I was just reading your comment to gravygirl and I have to say your man sounds like either an idiot or like he has real problems, sorry. I'm not usually so mean with my answers but what he said is about the dumbest thing I have ever heard! When my husband and I got together we were at it DAILY. Usually multiple times a day. On average 2-3 times per day but sometimes as much as 4-5 times PER DAY. Now we still have sex quite a bit. Not as much as before but still a lot. We go through cycles where we still do it multiple times a day and then others where we don't for almost a whole week so I would say my best guess at an average would be 3 times per week. We've been together for NINE YEARS and neither of us is bored, neither of us is looking for someone else "more interesting" and it is plenty special and intimate when we do it. Sex is a beautiful thing, especially when you're in love. Having it more often doesn't "cheapen" it. He seems to have some pretty weird ideas about sex. EIther that or he has mental problems and is just looking for an excuse to get you off his back about it. Keeping your mate interested and keeping things "interesting" usually means MORE sex. not less. I'm seriously like mind boggled over here.

[in--love]

The fact is we have sex once a month I'm 18 I'm young I'm not ugly at all but he's watching porn like mad I've never known a guy go off sex???? it is not normal what do you think I should do???? what am I doing wrong with him I love him so much and I don't wana marry him like this at all how can I get him 2 want more sex do you have any advice?

[in--love]

What should I do I have no one to talk to ?

[gravygirl]

Does he know that you're willing to have sex more often? If you're not sure, you should make sure that he knows. Guys will initiate sex less often if they think that they are the only one interested. He might be trying not to bother you.

If he does know that you're willing, has something changed in the relationship? Like appearance (yours or his) or some kind of issue that might cause him to have a grudge against you? I don't think that guys withhold sex in quite the same way that girls do, but I do think they will pursue it less if they're angry or upset about something.

[in--love]

Thats very good advice he does no I want sex more often but he tells me if we have sex so much when we 5 years from now and have sex every week we will get bored and maybe look for something else that is why a lot of people split that's what he says also that it happens when it happens when we both want it when were both horny so it is special but if he says that then watches porn so much why????? does he not want to have sex with me because he will think I will get bored..

[in--love]

????? you seem helpful please answer I need help

[gravygirl]

So you're not having much sex now because he's saving for later? Do I have that right? That seems like odd reasoning. And I don't think people usually get married and then start having sex more often. It normally declines. As for advice, I don't know. I suspect something else is going on. Just a guess, but is there something that he watches in porn that you won't do? Maybe he's a little bored by the things you're doing and wants to switch it up, but he thinks that you won't be up for it?

[in--love]

No I mean if we have sex soooo much we will get bored!!! I wouldn't do anal because that's sick but he says he doesn't like that as it is bad 2 god and make him feel gay I would do anything does he still love me ??? what should I say to him to stop

[gravygirl]

I'm not sure what to say then. I guess you have to talk to him more. Ask him if there's something that would make him more active. Ask him if there's something else bothering him. Find out if he's happy in the relationship. The only other thing I can think of is to just try to initiate sex whenever you want it. Have you done that? Does he actually say no?

[LuvTheBeach555]

It could be a lot of things, Do you and your fiance experiment a lot in the bedroom or is just the same thing everytime. Personally when I get bored with the person I am sleeping with it is time to go. I know that sounds shallow but the physical aspect is just as important as the mental. Some guys watch porn to live vicariously through other people to realize there true fantasies. Try watching it with him and ask what he wants to do. Try to experiment with him, but make sure you are both comfortable with what you do communication is healthy and sometimes it is hard for people to talk about there sexual desires because they are embarrassed. Just approach him in a pleasant manner and ask. Don't attack him for watching porn.

[in--love]

I would love to but he's the one that doesn't like new things I just think it is to do with me am I not good enough why would you watch it though if you have a beautiful girl?

[LuvTheBeach555]

It sounds like he has the insecurities... Not you, if you are only having sex once a month and he is watching porn every night something is worn with him... You need to talk to him or make some decisions about is this really the guy you want to marry...

[in--love]

Yes because I wouldn't leave a man for sex but I can't sleep or eat I don't understand why do men watch porn?what do you think is wrong with him your helping me a lot please insecurities about what?

[quantumdefender]

let me get this right, you only have sex once a month? if that's true, you should note that he is not satisfied. Does he even know to come to you when he has urges? have you withheld sex before? your average male would prefer sex 3 times a week, daily if he is a "horndog"

[in--love]

Because he watches so much porn.....im not ugly I know that but I don't understand were getting married if he wasnt satisfied why does he say he is and why does he still want to marry me and why is he still with me?no he doesn't come to me when he has urges not anymore we used to have sex all the time but not now?please help what should I do

[mcali2]

I agree with some answers here. Porn is his girl now. He likes it and is addicted to it. Your not having sex because he is a wanker ans selfish. Do not invest in him. it does not get better with out lots of work.