If you saw your girls looks were slipping and she was getting fat. Would you check her?

[Anonymous]

So you either start putting down rules on her that she needs to stop eating so much, hit the gym, and go on a clear diet or else you are leaving her or you can say nothing and just let her enjoy her life and eventually turn into the girl on the right.

What would you do?

Tell her she needs to change or your leaving her. She needs to hit the gym, stop eating so much and keep her on a strict diet

Let her live her life freely without constricting her happiness

[RJGraveyTrain]

I think there is a healthier way to address the issue than: "Set strict rules for her or threaten to leave her."

Why? Because then you're going to either damage her self esteem and subsequently your relationship, OR she's going to break up with you first.

You have every right to address your partner's weight and health in my opinion if it is becoming an issue, but you need to do so in a way that is constructive on both ends. You can tell her that you are worried about her health, and honestly admit that it's impacting your attraction to her, but that you care about her and want to help her get in shape.

Mind you, you had better be in shape too if you want to start criticizing, otherwise you better hop on the deflab train with her.

[Sara413]

My boyfriend has put on a solid 25 lbs since we started dating... I'd prefer if he worked out more and ate better, but I still love him and it hasn't gotten anywhere near the point where I no longer find him attractive so I just leave it. He knows he's put on weight and he mentions it and talks about wanting to do something about it all the time... I'm sure eventually he will. Meh.

[Meghan87]

You can certainly tell her you're becoming less attracted to her and she needs to change. It may be hurtful.. but it would hurt far more to be cheated on.

[kickme]

I would bring it up in a sensitive manner (which is difficult)

feminists will spout some bullshit about how you donrt haev the right to say or even think this, but if you did not have a job and refused to look for one they would state how worthless you are. So check your hypocrisy pls

So bring it up or just leave her is my advice

[AleDeEurope]

You gotta tell her. In the end, you won't be with someone you don't find attractive, so you'll end up breaking up with her. Plus, if you care, you wouldn't let her balloon up and die of a heart attack...

[JulieXO]

I think the guy should express his opinion, maybe suggest working out together or something. Threatening to leave her becuse of her weight is kind of ridiculous to me though

[Anonymous]

The fact that someone thinks it's there right to either say "cut the weight or I'm done" is disgusting. This happens to many males and females in relationships once they start getting comfortable they gain a few pounds. Instead of telling her you'd leave her if she doesn't drop the weight, why not be encouraging and push her (workout together, ask her to go for walks with you).. Be nice about it don't be a dick. A lot is girls take weight as a sensitive issue

[TacosRAwesome]

If I start gaining weight I want my boyfriend to let me know that I am brcuase I usually don't notice until it is too late. So I prefer if he nicely tells me, but not threathen that he will leave.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Wow dude. Next time just @ me. Lmao.

I'd want him to tell me so I can work on it. I need to be a hot milf someday so can't ruin my goals.

[super147]

lmao! Goals!

[BeautifulPromisesx]

@super147 just saying I need to be the hottest mom on the block so everyone will lowkey be jealous of my kids cuz I'll be 🔥 and give them ice cream.

[super147]

You're already the hottest pink name on GaG, as voted by your millions of fans. You've made it to the big time! :P

[BeautifulPromisesx]

@super147 wait where and when did this voting occur? :O I wasn't aware lmao

[super147]

You weren't invited to the vote, your opinion is biased :P lol

[BeautifulPromisesx]

@super147 lmao I wouldn't even vote for myself so you're wrong :P

[beez1717]

Neither. I'd be kind and let her know but I wouldn't leave her.