This fiance needs to blame her fiance and leave you alone! This guy is a loser who lied about his relationship status. THAT should be the problem. You basically have to take people at their word if you don't really know them. If a guy presents himself as single, then what else can you believe?
I'm so sorry you are going through this! It's not fair that they are blaming you when he's the one who was engaged.
Your friend gave you bad advice. You never should have apologized (for what?). You aren't the one who broke up the engagement. He did the minute he decided to be unfaithful. And this is not the first time. So don't blame yourself.
Here's what you need to do:
- Keep a low profile for now (I know this sucks) but truly this is the only way.
- Talk to friends and explain to them that you did not know. Let them know how stressed out this is making you. I absolutely feel bad for you as I would worry about them showing up at your place too. But make sure you lock the door at all times. Have people check in on you to make sure you are safe.
- Maybe stay with someone else if you are having a really hard time feeling safe at your place.
- Go do something you love. This will help make you feel better and keep your mind off of what happened.
The heat will die off eventually! You just have to ride it out. Trust me, if this guy has done this before, he's most likely going to do it again. So just wait it out. You won't be the target for long.
If they do show up at your place, phone the police. They are not allowed to harass you.
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Her anger will find it's true target, and it's not you. I would be worried about him because unless she is incredibly stupid or has very low self esteem, he may direct anger against you because he is about to loose everything and it's always easier to blame someone else. Be careful
Get over it. Guilt is like a box of bricks, all you have to do is set it down wherever and move on. Your actions probably won't lead to the death of the daughter you are worried about.
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From what I've read, the warning signs were in place from the start.. Not blaming you though, I dated a married woman years ago before even MySpace and had no idea she was married until she told me.. I felt terrible as well.
It's not your fault, and, though I sympathize with the fiance, she needs to wake up and realize that you can't be held responsible for her ex's promiscuity. Do your best to cut it off with them, tell them that you don't want anything to do with it and that you are sorry it happened. If they keep badgering you, get a restraining order.
That guy is a dirt ball. You did the best you could do with what you got so don't feel bad
aaaa u just a girl ;) it happens. if he actually told u he was single and all that, there was nothing u could do. dont sweat it. if anything further happens, put a restraining order onhim and HER.
You did the right things. Cut these people out and start over again with your life. That's all you can do for now.
i didn't read this shit.
cheating and any sort of relationship building leading to sex is never a mistake or an accident why? it takes series of complex algorithms to commit this moral crime. there were full intention, many chances to walk away and utilize common sense. stop this.How could you know? Nothing to feel guilty about. Move on.
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