My boyfriend called me a cow?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my boyfriend "caught" me eating a piece of chocolate and got really angry and called me a fat cow! I always eating healthy around him, even for my birthday! I wasn't "allowed" to have cake, or ice cream, or anything special. I just ate my fruits and veggies like any other day. I'm 5'9 and I weigh 105 lbs, which is far from being a cow. My doctor even told me that I was underweight and that I have to gain some weight. I really love him, and he's really sweet in general, but when it comes to food, he becomes another person. I don't know what to do? Thanks! :(

[ekc8295]

"he's really sweet in general"
I find this hard to believe. Somebody who is controlling and abusive like this usually doesn't limit it to just one aspect. And this behavior is definitely controlling and abusive.

He 100% can't "allow" you to eat certain foods or "catch" you, as though he's your parent or supervisor and you're doing something wrong. That is so far from normal or acceptable relationship behavior isn't almost funny. But it's not because this is the type of shit abusive people do. And it WILL get worse the longer you stay with him. Furthermore, insulting and name calling is not ok. When you're in a good relationship your partner won't try to control you or put you down.

Ask yourself: are you ok staying with someone who abuses you like this? Someone who insults you and calls you names? Who thinks they have the right to tell you what to do with your own body? Is this really how you think a good person treats their partner?

[spuitkaas]

This sounds familiar. My sister used to have anorexia and one of the ways she acted on this was controlling other people's eating habits and bashing they if they don't eat healthy. She even did it with our pets. Removing food from their eating trays. I'm not directly implying that your boyfriend has anorexia, but is he focused on his own eating habits? Sometimes even obsessively? It sounds a bit OCDish from him.

[Curlybeauty17]

Break up with him. You don't need someone in your life that will treat you that way and promote that you become even more underweight. If he really cared about your health he would be helping you try to gain weight in a healthy way and not treating you like a child and limiting what you can and cannot eat.

[Pyrofox]

Your boyfriend sounds anorexic... Or just a health nut xD. Should have taken super offense and started forcing him to eat the cake and then giggle away saying whos the cow now... OuO huh? (watch him as a response like flip the table and say "I'm out you win") xD Well at least thats what my other half would do if I called her a cow. lol she a sassy little girl. (In her case she would feel bad later knowing I'm not a huge sugar fan.)

For me personally I dont really care what my other half eats so long as she remembers to eat a healthy diet.

[Chico_brah]

Lmao he is probably just messing around dude. At 105 lbs I don't know how you could take it so seriously. Whenever my friends eat fastfood or something I always call them fatasses. Every morning in the chowhall I have some cookies with my coffee.. My roomate tells me I'm a fatfuck every time. If I'm dating a chick, then she is my friend as well.

Lmfao @ these people saying he is a jerk or this would be considered verbal abuse. Just lmfao. Stop being so damn sensitive.

[Asker]

He was yelling at me, trust me he wasn't joking.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

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So why are you with this abusive weirdo again?

[Wonderer89]

😂😂 holy crap, that face

[BeautifulPromisesx]

@Wonderer89

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[bang678]

Your health should come before what your boyfriends ideal image is. What he said is just flat out mean and not ok. Just focus on being healthy and if that means gaining weight, so be it. I also believe life is too short to not enjoy good food. So eat what you want, its one of life's simple pleasures.

[TadCurious]

I think you should try to gain weight like your doctor said. What your boyfriend said was very wrong, and I say "screw you!" to what he said. He's not in charge of what you eat, and if he's trying to exert this kind of overbearing control of you that's a bad sign. You don't deserve that kind of treatment and name-calling.

[CyberToothTiger]

Well, you either got to take control of your own decisions
or he will continue to control your life which you don't want
unless you don't mind. Myself i think you deserve much better
I could never see myself putting a girl down in any way when
I'm in a relationship, I love a girl with all my heart it makes no
difference what she eats or what she looks like as long as
we love each other is all that matters to me.

[JCT666]

For eating chocolate? What an asshole. You should go find someone better than him, I highly doubt "he's really sweet in general" from what I'm reading. He shouldn't have any business in controlling your diet either, especially since your says you're underweight.

[jwuuulia95]

Don't you understand what he's doing to you? that my friend is called abuse... vocal abuse. LEAVE! or else you will start eating less, get REALLY underweight and maybe even get sick, if you leave now, you're lucky ! LEAVE !

[kickme]

vocal abuse, that is hilarious. Wait, there's a whole mean dangerous world out there waiting for you when you leave mommys bubble

[kickme]

he doesn't want you to get fat and is hypersensitive due to the state of things in the USA right now (99% of women end up becoming fat cows nowadays). He is not being controlling, but if you get "fat" this would be to him like him never having a job would be to you. A difficult situation. Talk to him abnout it and commit to managing your fitness in a world where the opposite is the norm

[TheDevilInside]

Dump him. The minute you have a pimple, trust me, he will verbally abuse you. Don't risk it. Plenty of other fish out there. You don't need an asshole-fish.

[MsHeidi]

Tell him how you feel... You must let him know that these words really hurt you. You already eat healthy in general so chocolate every once in a while should be acceptable.
If that doesn't work, I would consider breaking up with him...

[Supermosh1990]

First of all did you tell him about what your doctor says about you being underweight? Just try talking about it every now and then. Also how often does he get angry at you? Does it seem out of control?

[Because-I-Have-Too]

Leave him, he's obviously seriously affecting your health, and if I can't accept one part of you than he doesn't deserve any

[Zazzz]

Wtf! And you take that shit? Grow a vagina or something

[snowangle]

Leave him. That's super unhealthy, for both your mind and body.

[GingerGuy]

That's some boyfriend you got there! lol I'd be looking for a new one. Verbal abuse.

[Unit1]

Aaand you dump him.
He doesn't like you for what you like. No steady relationship needs someone like him.

[singlebee]

Hahaha omg so funny!!

anyways slap the fyck out of him next time when he calls you a cow... or call him a fat bull too

[BMN2016]

He either needs to seriously work on his issues or you guys should take a break.
It depends on how bad it has become.

[Bandit74]

Was that just a one time occurrence or does he have a habbit of insulting your weight?

[Casstiel]

Omg he just pissed off because you ate a chocolate? Dump him lol 😆

[Usersame]

I will never understand why do women put up with idiots...