Should I reach out to an old crush?

Anonymous
This past summer, I got divorced from my ex wife of seven months. We got married too fast and toward the end she became abusive toward me. It took a long time for me to detach from the guilt of leaving and be ok. During the process of detaching myself I got a lot of support from my friends, many of them friends I had in common with my ex. Over the months since, our friends have slowly taken one side or the other. For the most part I'm happy with how things have turned out, but lately I find myself thinking of one of them I haven't seen for a while.

One of our mutual female friends was particularly helpful to me in getting through my feelings around the divorce. She's very kind and understanding, and did her best to help us both through it. But in the month or so after I left my ex, we got very close. Talking a lot, seeing each other in group settings. There was one night in particular where it seemed certain that something more would happen between us, but the circumstances of the evening kept it from happening. I haven't seen her for a couple months- she lives kind of far away and that group of friends doesn't get together anymore. I don't think she's in contact with my ex either.

I can't stop thinking about her. Maybe it was just what I was going through, but I felt a warmth and kindness from her that I haven't felt very often in my life, and I can't help but thinking that I missed a wonderful opportunity in seeing what, if anything, was there.

I find myself thinking about this all the time, wanting to reach out and see if she felt anything, too. But for some reason I'm terrified. As of now we don't really have a friendship that could be ruined by my doing so, so I guess I don't really have anything to lose. But I can't bring myself to open myself up to being rejected by her, and it's always in the back of my mind that I don't know for sure that she's not still friends with my ex.

Should I take the leap? And if I should, how do I do it?
Should I reach out to an old crush?
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