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My boyfriend has over 10,000 porn pictures saved to his computer, should I dump him?

My boyfriend is obsessed with saving pictures of other women nude. He has over 10,000 photos that he has collected from the internet he says. I've tried to delete the picture and when I have it makes him very angry. I don't understand why is he gets so mad over photos of women that are supposedly strangers? He has gone as far as doing a full restore to his computer to retrieve the deleted pictures. I'm a model too but it bothers me he has more pictures of other women then me. Should I dump him? Is he lying to me and the reason he goes so far to retrieve the pictures is because he does know some of the women? please help
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  • Should I dump him?
    --- if you are completely against him viewing porn, have expressed that to him, and there is no other compromise then yes you may have to dump him

    Is he lying to me and the reason he goes so far to retrieve the pictures is because he does know some of the women?
    -- i don't know what he'd be lying about unless you ask him; do you look at porn? and he says know
    -- i wouldn't presume he knows the women

    it sounds to me like a foundation for what is or isn't acceptable regarding porn has to be hashed out. if he knows you are against porn and still collects it then you may need to dump him if he is unwilling to change.

  • Forgive me, but I don't think it's too edifying overall for the image of a man, to imagine him in his private time furiously wanking away to his stash that he has collected since time immemorial :D It doesn't make a man look like a winner in life :P

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  • If it bothers you and you confronted him about it, then leave him. Why be in a relationship where you feel less respected? That is insane. over 10,000. You know what would happen if he got caught with that on his computer? If you don't believe in porn or any of that lust stuff, why compromise your beliefs? Date how you want to be treated. However, you shouldn't have been on his computer or deleted anything. It's not yours. But he is obsessed and I wouldn't believe anything he says. He's just very lustful. Him cheating physically on you is not the issue. Cheating on you in his heart is.

  • Welcome to Gag Town Here, dear.
    He may have this "Obsession" he cannot Help. Many guys with this "Fetish" have this as a Hobby, Others may Carry it Way too far.
    He most Likely Loves you and your Body the Best from the Rest, but Has this Bigger Interest in the Nudes, which he May even Find are a Work of Art and not some Sexual Thing or Fling.
    Time to Sit him down and Find out just what is Going through his Head, especially when you Both are in the Bed.
    Good Luck Here and also on this Site. xx

    • Thank you for the Like, Lovelyxx

    • Thanks for the Kind Invite too. xx

    • Thank you for the Vote of Confidence. xx

  • Thats just weird that he saved all those photos to be honest. I mean I don't think its something someone would want on their phone lol or computer saved. Its not hard to look it up when you need it- I sense there's more issues here though like there's SOME reason why he's so attached to them and its causing you guys to argue.

  • Don't dump him, it's just porn photos, it's not like he knows these women and is cheating on you. It's normal for some men to look at Playboy magazines, porn videos and porn photos. He probably gets mad because you're deleting them and making a big deal out of them.

    • I'm bothered because every time he opens the internet on his phone it's in a porn site already. I'm bothered because everytime I leave the room or go take a shower he is looking at porn. He even wants to do a public blog posting his favorite porn pictures. I feel someone this obsessed with looking at other women is probably going to cheat on me if he hasn't already

    • It's okay though. He's not going to cheat on you. Maybe try watching one with him? Maybe he might like it and won't watch it all the time.

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  • seems like he is addicted. if he's apologetic and wants to stop but, you can decide if this is something you care enough to help him through.

    if he is not repenting and he gets mad at you, he's too far gone. you need to dump him.

  • Dump him. Yes most guys have naked girls on their phones from porn or watches it. which is normal and shouldn't bug you.. but even over 50 is too much!

  • Honestly, i would FLIP the hell out if i was you, there must be a reason behind it, but if you don't talk to him you will never find out, try to ask him quietly and calmly what is going on and why does he have all these females in this computer and for what reason :) but don't dump him if this is the only defect that he has...

  • Not unless you have. A. I don't know how to word it.
    If you can see yourself marrying him, if you have that as an optional path to take for the future, and he doesn't get rid of this porn, collection before the engagement, dump him then, at that later time. Otherwise I say let him have his collection as long as it's not interfering with your time with him nor the quality and zeal, joy of you guys relationship. If he chooses to view his collection over going on a date with you or giving you attention then I would dump him ASAP.

    • I just read the extra details. I'll make this proposal. If he doesn't delete the women that he actually knows, I would dump him. If he's that attached to the photos to the point he gets mad at you for deleting them, (which in my opinion is a completely inappropriate response.) I I don't know really what to say on that. I just know him getting mad isn't appropriate at all you should be the one that gets mad tbh. From a religious standpoint looking at women sexually while in a relationship is WRONG. So having 10,000 photos of naked women is beyond wrong. It's very excessive of him.

  • If it bothers you and makes you feel inferior you need to talk to him about it. I don't have a problem with porn but this potentially sounds like an addiction!

  • If your're not enough for him and it bothers you.. then move honey. Let him be happy with his porn and you go find a man who will be happy with just you.

  • Why are you so bothered? Guys look at porn and naked women. It's what they do.

    • @SarahsSummer That's so true.

    • I'm bothered because every time he opens the internet on his phone it's in a porn site already. I'm bothered because everytime I leave the room or go take a shower he is looking at porn. He even wants to do a public blog posting his favorite porn pictures. I feel someone this obsessed with looking at other women is probably going to cheat on me if he hasn't already

    • Gawd, that does sound like a problem. I'm not sure if it adds up to a cheater but def a red flag. Does his porn usage get in the way of your sex life with him?

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  • Can you not just sit and have an adult conversation about it without resorting to trying to take over his computer and/or going straight to ending the relationship?

  • Your boyfriend is a weirdo. If I were you I wouldn't put up with this Bullshit.

  • He's so fucked up. Any, even slight, attempt at controlling behavior needs to be met with immediate dismissal. His dumb ass deserves whatever happens for having low enough self esteem to still have you around.

  • You shouldn't be on his computer at all. But, you should dump him. Not because he likes porn, but because he's apparently too dumb to use Google when masturbating.

  • he seems addicted to porn... dump him yea

  • I would tbh

  • porn is a complete rarity now that i have a girlfriend lol. i would say occasionally isn't too bad, although having that many pictures is excessive. the only nudes i have are from my girlfriend :p either have a talk with him about it or if he can't comply with getting rid of some or if not all, there is a serious or problem.

  • Don't delete his property!

    What about him watching porn in picture form bothers you so much?

    • I'm bothered because every time he opens the internet on his phone it's in a porn site already. I'm bothered because everytime I leave the room or go take a shower he is looking at porn. He even wants to do a public blog posting his favorite porn pictures. I feel someone this obsessed with looking at other women is probably going to cheat on me if he hasn't already

    • Uh oh, this sounds like he is obsessed with porn. How is he with you sexually?

  • W old say talk with him and if not then dump him. I only say this bc I understand if he likes porn or those pics but 10000 is a shit ton and goes far beyond having some variety. Say u want some more of that attention and u want him to cut a good amount of those photos away.

  • I have gigs upon gigs of porn. It does not affect my love nor desire for my girlfriend in the slightest.

    • Would you get angry if your girlfriend ever got tired of your porn collection and deleted it?

    • Yes, that is destroying personal property.

    • Lol ok I get that

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  • Don't wanna interrupt but I'm just wondering if you would delete one of them, would he notice that? Like "omg honey come here, we have things to talk. Why did you delete my nude album number 7876 😆

  • Sooooo you went through his computer and started deleting shit? I would've dumped YOU!

    "Sooo I went through your drawers and found your diary, vibrator, and 50 Shades of Grey on the shelf... I threw all of that out, you don't need that stuff anymore."

    • I'm bothered because every time he opens the internet on his phone it's in a porn site already. I'm bothered because everytime I leave the room or go take a shower he is looking at porn. He even wants to do a public blog posting his favorite porn pictures. I feel someone this obsessed with looking at other women is probably going to cheat on me if he hasn't already

    • Did you mention any of that in the original post? That STILL doesn't give you carte blanche to start deleting shit. Leave him if its that terrible to you. He'll find a nice tattooed, pierced to the nines, kinky chick who loves everything about him. I know a girl just like this from Taiwan naked girls and kink. com are her 'thing.'

    • So funny cuz he is pierced with plugs in his ears and a ton of tattoos

  • Guys watch porn even in a relationship, but he does sound a bit obsessive and you should have a talk with him. If he is unwilling to delete saved pictures which offend you then yeah you should probably dump him.

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