My boyfriend doesn't like my personality?

[Lolababy23]

Please help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and he has recently expressed that he doesn't like my personality, or at least certain aspects of it. A big part of my personality is sarcastic, apathetic, and asshole-ish. He is a little hot headed and has anger issues that he has been working on for me. He says that if he can work on his emotions, he doesn't see why I can not work on my personality. He thinks changing emotions is harder than changing your personality, which I do not agree with. He thinks I need to change the "negative" aspects of my personality. I am nice, generally, but I do have a resting bitch face which makes him assume that I am always mad. I do naturally have a flat, sarcastic tone, but that's just how I am, I am not going to be all fake and bubbly all day. All my friends know this is my personality, I joke a lot with my sarcasm, but they still love me and laugh with me.

If anyone is wondering, I am 17 going on 18 in a few months and he is 18.

Please help, I don't know what to do and we don't want to lose each other.

[samhradh_leannan]

Do you say things that hurt his feelings? Being sarcastic or a joker is one thing, but being rude or mean is another. It's not necessarily a bad idea for you to try to manage that specific aspect of your personality, if it causes you to say hurtful or upsetting things. That said, if he can't accept your whole self (including your "flaws"), he shouldn't be with you. The bottom line is that if you're saying hurtful things, it's okay for him to ask you to try to work on that. However, expressing a dislike for your whole personality, or for integral aspects of your personality that you're not interested in changing, then he's just not a good match for you and he shouldn't be with you in the first place.

[xxmamichulaxx]

Well why the heck is he with you in the first place if he doesn't like ur personality? The issue here isn't your "sarcastic" personality (which I personally enjoy more then the bubbly cheerful one) , its him choosing to be with you and then complain about it and get angry. have u asked him about why he's with you if he doesn't like ur personality?

[Anonymous]

I had the exact same thing happen to me today. First, I'm sorry you're doubting. That's the worst feeling. Second just talk to him. Tell him how you feel. If he's not understanding, then is this really someone you want to be spending time with. Seriously consider it. Good luck

[reptocarl]

Neither one of you are going to change so you have a decision

[Anonymous]

Holly shit girl , that's not very pretty for a personality. I say take a break and take time to change that from yourself because honestly that's not gonna take you anywhere.

[Itagnyn]

I agree with him.