I watched this and then I asked myself the reversed variant of that question. Are there any good ladies left?
To me it seems, that most women are taken especially at my age range. It also seems to me that women nowadays care simply about things, that shouldn't matter in a relationship such as how much money I have and make, my status, my overall worth, the presence of an own place and car and generally materialistic things. But isn't love about naturally loving each other and not about chasing only those guys with materialistic stuff? What happened to THAT variant of true love? If love means being able to be loved because of materialistic things, then I want no such variant of love ever. I mean if we take a look at the graph below well see...... while women in that graph are supposed to look good, it isn't as hard and lengthy work as for a man to get a high paying job position, an own place, a car and be a hulk as this requires tons of effort and time. I mean if women would try, what the guys try for the shown "idea man", they would understand how next to impossible it is to achieve that. I also do not subscribe to that biased and generalized graph! Goodness I wouldn't even think of that!
Pardon me if I spread some bitterness around but this is how I feel. What happened to the good women?
Where are the good women? Are there any good women left?
Post Opinion
28 Opinion
Like
Share
Follow
3 likes
What is your opinion?
Add Opinion
Most Helpful Opinions
Anonymous
(25-29)
+1 y
She made important and valid points in the video about what women should look for in men to ensure they end up with an avocado rather than a banana. But she missed the most important point of all. Let me explain.
Her produce shopping analogy was very one-sided because it made it appear that only women are doing the shopping. The truth is, in life, women don't get to take home an avocado if the avocado doesn't want to go home with them. It's not just about women finding the right guy, the guy has to want to be with them too, and the fact is most women today are not at all what good men want in a woman. Unfortunately, by the time most women figure out what good men really want in a woman, the good men are already married to the few women who actually figured it out a long time ago.
Ladies, if you want to get a good man, you have to BE the woman he wants, and most women today do not understand what good men want in a woman. They have been mislead by years of feminist rhetoric that has brainwashed them to believe men want a woman to be something completely different than what they really want. The list of things in the 'Men's ideal woman' column of the image above are spot on, but I'll add that good men place less emphasis on the attractive part because many of the best women who meet the other requirements are no supermodels, but they still make the best wives BY FAR. The other requirements are far more important to men when choosing a good mate, and they are the ones women have the most control over.
So, in short ladies, stop listening to what modern society has been telling you men want, discover what good men really want, and BE THAT WOMAN. If you do that, everything else will fall into place.
6
1 Reply
Opinion Owner
+1 y
The first pink anon response here is exactly what I'm talking about. If a woman thinks men are only interested in looks, she is only talking about the bananas. If a woman focuses on all of the other items in the 'Men's ideal woman' list, she will be a better and more attractive woman than 90% of the women out there today. I'm talking about good men here; the men referred to as avocados in the video. Most women today simply have no idea what those avocados actually want. If they think it's what the bananas want, they will be mislead and will never be a good woman.
I really wouldn't care whether if there are any good women or bad women left since I've long stopped looking for and stopped caring altogether. It's really something of concern or to worry about for those guys that are still looking and still trying would want to hope that there are still good women left for them, if there are any at all, as to me "good" and "bad" are subjective.
I doubt it's possible that both genders can ever find those descriptions of their "ideal" partner. It's only something left for those that still hope to find a partner to be concerned about, worry about, and hope for, but if you or anybody reach a certain point in their lives and had remained single for so long, because once you get to that point of no return, then you'll realize there's no point to hope for even expect if there are any "good" people left that can become your partner eventually, you'll eventually concede. Besides, conceding is easier than repeated failed attempts, frustrations and disappointments, right? Love became more like what someone can gain or take advantage of the other person for since more often than not they still want those materialistic things, goes for people in general not just genders. Just let go of all the bitterness and resentment, if it doesn't happen the way you hoped for or expected it to be and you don't end up with any woman or any good woman, just let it be. Remember, the only truth is the cold void of emptiness and nothingness.
1
6 Reply
Asker
+1 y
"Love became more like what someone can gain or take advantage of the other person for since more often than not they still want those materialistic things" "Remember, the only truth is the cold void of emptiness and nothingness."
I could not have said it better myself friend! Well, sort of but it's still so damn true. I can clearly see your position friend, where you aren't caring about it, I know it only too well because I am on my way there.
Because for me I'd like to have either an honest, working and healthy relationship or no relationship at all (and I wouldn't settle for less than that). Since quality women are too few, I can't really get disappointed at it either since it's the way life works.
Quality ladies are much like a fairy tale, a bedtime story to make you feel comfortable and a nice story to hear. In other words: They do not exist (well, they do but they are very rare and hard to find).
@Unit1 remember that nothing is permanent, nothing we ever gained is permanently ours no matter what it's going to be a loss, but just embrace and live for the moment while we can for as long as we can. Even if you were able to find that quality lady what are the odds you two will be together forever? Things can change and people change, thus nothing is exactly permanent or forever. You might even change your mind about them or they might change their mind about you. But if you did end up with one, embrace and enjoy whatever time you have with her, as I already said no guarantees it will be forever. If you have somebody, you'll always have somebody to lose.
Nothing is granted my friend! And the cold void and dark emptiness keeps coming back and coming back again and again. There may be little point in fighting it but ultimately it is part of life.
Yes, things can change, things can stay the same way within a certain timespan. Nothing lasts forever indeed, so it would be wise to make most of all things and make it last.
I'm going to keep telling you they exist, every time and every angle you ask this from, lol. They do. And I think there's something to what I mentioned before... the age thing, the generation thing, and the marketing thing. They are not going to fit into any stereotypical role, or be found in any typical group, and they may be hesitant as hell at the beginning too. I don't think you'll find them easily, because they aren't going to be at the bars, on tinder, etc. Keep looking, dammit! Lol.
Fyi- I don't like your list either. So much gray area, so much subjective... sort of like horoscopes. Written so that anyone can read it and go, yeah... that kinda sounds like me, but not really.
3
1 Reply
Asker
+1 y
This is a search that will require years of searching :( I want a quality lady. But not many women are that. :/
Glad, that there are ladies like you, who reject these biased and sexist list. It's BS in it's finest form.
yes. ... now a days they look. see now a days people are more interested in show ups. so don't care what they have but they only care is that thing help them in show up or not.
What makes me sick is how women care for nothing besides looks money status. hence women bitching about not finding good men because they are all there but they don't have the looks status and money.
No, women care for all these things in moderation. But, please, I encourage men to care for more besides looks. It might actually make women focus on more than just beauty, and instead make something of themselves.
No, women don't care. Why do you think women who earn more are less likely to get married? Because all of them hold out for a guy who makes more then them. Why do you think women are constantly talking about how they won't date a guy shorter then them? Its not because they care about character. Why do you think 80% of all divorces are filed by women? Its not because they cared about there husbands or families, they saw them as disposable. Why do you think study after study has shown that women preffer a man with money then a man without? In fact in one study they had women rate pictures of men and they found that women believed that 80% of the men where below average in looks. They literally believed 80% of the male population was below average. How is that not having high standards? They did another study showing that women rated men higher when they happened to earn more. They even found that looks mattered almost as much to women as to men, but money mattered even more.
meanwhile what do men complain about (other then women only caring about money and looks while women bitch about how all men are assholes (because women refuse to date nice guys))? That women sleep around and they don't like that, that women are not nurturing or kind or anything else like that i. e. character traits. So yeah, men like attractive women but they also like good traits in women (when they want a relationship anyway). Meanwhile women just want a guy who is good lookin rich and successful and as this post pointed out they really don't care about the guys character they will definitely go for a guy who is a terrible person if he is good looking and rich enough. So yeah your wrong. Sure some women are decent people, but in our society women not only get away with but are rewarded for being shallow and selfish so they are rare now a days.
Okay. I watched the video. And the point the girl makes is a point that I have repeatedly made on this site in previous replies. If you consistently have the same experience with different members of the opposite sex, you can blame the opposite sex if you want, but the real reason probably relates to something that you are doing. E. g., Q. "Why is it that every guy leaves me after three dates?" A. It probably has something to do with the kind of guys the girl is selecting, messages she is sending during the first 2-3 dates, etc. OR Q. "Why is it that every woman I find is not what I am looking for?" A. You are doing something wring when you are looking: looking in the wrong places, not staying conscious of your criteria, getting distracted by the attractive packaging and not paying attention to what's inside the package, etc.
A woman who is dating in hopes of finding a long term relationship/husband wants to know that a man will be able to support a family. Why would she start dating a guy who could never support a family?
No, that does not mean that they are gold diggers. If you want to maintain such a jaded, negative view of women, you have the freedom to do that, but it will likely not serve you well.
Nah, I was just releasing some of my bitterness, that should have been gone long ago.
I'd much like to befriend women (because women are awesome!)... just not those, who care about my money. She can only prove herself when she is still around you when times hit hard or when she disappears as does your money. Then you will find out if she's a keeper or a gold digging traitor.
It's very simple. People are lazy. Given the choice, you pick the low hanging ripe fruit, not the fruit at the top of the tree that you need a ladder to pick. Think about it, why the f*ck would you do that?
The only reason you would do that is if you literally wanted every... single... piece... of... fruit. But guess what, that's both a) difficult, and b) unrealistic.
well man is the bread provider in the relationship mostly and thus it falls upon the man to make enough money to support the family which includes the potential children. it's more of a subconscious decision Thats based on feminine instinct for survival
I'm sorry, but I disagree. many women do not 'prefer' that their men earn more than them. it just so happens that the male society does not always happen to believe in equality even if above the surface they say they do. by the way the man is not always the bread winner in the family. in case you haven't noticed there are millions of single mothers and situations where the father is alcoholic. so I suggest that you reconsider your opinion as to me it seems to be extremely sexist.
I knew someone will say that to me lol... I know these days that not always the case but deeply rooted in the instincts is that the guy should be able to provide for the family and that is why women do not search for their ideal match in jobless people. my view is not extremist cause I explained from a psychological point of view. that is how our base instincts work men are instincts drawn towards women that can sire children while women towards men that can provide safety to them and the aforementioned children and that's the theory of survival. humans being more complex creatures have grown to overcome that
true it is psychological, however we must overcome that now, right? after all we live in the 21st century. by the way if you find yourself an educated one and not dragged down into marriage by her parents then yeah she'll probably earn more than you.
Better yet, do not act broke - BE broke 😤 (well, not actually being broke but I hope you get my point) It's the only way to have 0 gold diggers and 0 relationships with them...
Thing is, if you want her to drop her expectations then you as a man have to date a woman that is:-
- Older than 25, possibly 30+ - Unattractive - Acts like a man - Unhealthy is overweight - Is an absolute bitch - Lies in bed like a log - Aggressive, loud and dominant
Would you date a woman like that? Would you REALLY date a woman like that?
lol i wouldn't care if I earned more money than my boyfriend. and he is no really strong but I love him anyways , I'm more strict when it comes to personality. and yeah he has to be taller or else i would feel less attracted to him
What if women were never any better than they are now and our brain has just a bias towards the past to make it seem better so we want a better future?
1
1 Reply
Asker
+1 y
Anything could be. It could even be, that the quality ladies got kidnapped by an alien invasion.
Women have always cared about the resource potential of a man, and a man, generally, care about a woman's aesthetics. You may have better luck in finding a woman in a non Western Country.
One of they is sleeping on my bed as we speak. Those ideals don't do a good job describing the modern world
2
0 Reply
Anonymous
(25-29)
+1 y
They have more invested in procreating, hence their higher standards, just wait till they hit their 30s and 40s they kinda get looked down upon poorly after that while men age like wine.
3
0 Reply
Anonymous
(45 Plus)
+1 y
This is just you perpetuating more sexist nonsense. News flash, not all women want ANY, let alone ALL, of what you are claiming.
I know right 😂 ? And women are in love with your wallet, your bank account, your car and your house. Gotta hide these if you have them if you don't want the gol dygors.
Most Helpful Opinions